RetroFed Forum
Your home away from modern life.
He's so close to getting it...
Post Reply
AuthorMessage
John lemmy.ml silentjohn@lemmy.ml
Joined: 2025-03-16
#102 · Quote Reply

It's funny until you meet women that complain about not getting hit on and do this.

This is not a thing.

5
LwL lemmy.world LwL@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-09-07
#103 · Quote Reply

Judging by replies to that thread… yes, quite a bit. One woman described how she had to wear ear protection after ear surgery and a guy removed that to talk to her from behind. She was in pain for 2 days afterwards. Edit: my personal experience is I had 2 different guys tap on my shoulder and ask me to remove my earbuds by gesturing. Both times they were trying to pick me up. I was just on the ...

Someone... touched what some stranger is wearing to remove it... and it wasn't an emergency???

What the fuck is wrong with people

7
GalacticSushi lemmy.blahaj.zone GalacticSushi@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2025-10-18
#104 · Quote Reply

walk up to random people on the street who aren't wearing headphones to try start conversations? It's strange to me that this would be considered out of bounds. "Pickup artists" aside, this really ought to be more normal.

I wish someone would do that to me in real life. I'd tell them about how a popular coffeeshop in our city is run by a straight up cult and the employees are all members whose wages go into a "shared purse" controlled by the cult.

Because unlike the guy in the OP, I recognize I'm not the main character. I'm the NPC in the tavern who sends the protagonist on a side quest to take down a cult.

12
GeneralVincent lemmy.world GeneralVincent@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-06-27
#105 · Quote Reply

https://youtube.com/shorts/4bpL14Z9RKE The only guys who are going to approach you are the guys with no boundaries. Which is going to feed the confirmation bias.

What do you think the solution to that problem is?

3
WorldsDumbestMan lemmy.today WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today
Joined: 2024-12-05
#106 · Quote Reply

I love the energy of this post. People are finally learning to live on their own.

7
VitoRobles lemmy.today VitoRobles@lemmy.today
Joined: 2025-01-26
#107 · Quote Reply

This whole thread is weird to me because being approached in public by people wanting to talk almost never happens. Not that I'm complaining exactly, it's confusing and concerning when it does, but it's hard to imagine it as such a normal thing that it has become a commonplace annoyance.

It happens depending on where you are.

In the East Coast? Mind your business.

In the West Coast:

Someone made conversation with me in the toilet. "Good water flow, yeah?" He said.

As a dude, most people only give me small talk, just to break the ice and explain nobody is a threat. But I can see as a woman, most small talk is a lead up to something else.

7
presoak lazysoci.al presoak@lazysoci.al
Joined: 2025-11-29
#108 · Quote Reply

I hate this though because I am not just trying to say hi, I am literally trying to explain to women why they should listen to me, so if they have headphones in they will never hear the arguments in the first place that I have honed in preparation through conversations with my AI Wives. It is rude for women to just pretend like they can go about their lives and not center me, I am a man and I a...

AI wives are a thing?

2
supersquirrel sopuli.xyz supersquirrel@sopuli.xyz
Joined: 2023-12-09
#109 · Quote Reply

AI wives are a thing?

I don't know for sure and I am too afraid to check.

4
pyre lemmy.world pyre@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-11-12
#110 · Quote Reply

Someone... touched what some stranger is wearing to remove it... and it wasn't an emergency??? What the fuck is wrong with people

entitlement. women are objects for men to interact with and men are owed their attention when they want it. you have ear protection? well that interferes with me seeking female attention, so off it goes. that's the mindset we're dealing with.

5
DragonTypeWyvern midwest.social DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social
Joined: 2024-05-23
#111 · Quote Reply

Hes not "so close to getting it" he completely understands the bait hes setting out.

It's possible it was bait, but if it was it was purposeless and self defeating.

0
DragonTypeWyvern midwest.social DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social
Joined: 2024-05-23
#112 · Quote Reply

I don't know for sure and I am too afraid to check.

It was happening before LLMs became a thing it's for sure one now

5
chiliedogg lemmy.world chiliedogg@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-06-26
#113 · Quote Reply

Its not her story, its history. Right fellas!

Heck - even Left fellas! We need unity on this issue.

1
DragonTypeWyvern midwest.social DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social
Joined: 2024-05-23
#114 · Quote Reply

I wish someone would do that to me in real life. I'd tell them about how a popular coffeeshop in our city is run by a straight up cult and the employees are all members whose wages go into a "shared purse" controlled by the cult. Because unlike the guy in the OP, I recognize I'm not the main character. I'm the NPC in the tavern who sends the protagonist on a side quest to take down a cult.

But then it turns into a moral lesson when it turns out that cult was actually a cooperative and the person who told you the original rumor a real estate developer that wanted the property

2
DragonTypeWyvern midwest.social DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social
Joined: 2024-05-23
#115 · (edited) Quote Reply

Only the women, though?

Guys have to pretend that they weren't startled because of toxic masculinity 😔

6
NotASharkInAManSuit lemmy.world NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world
Joined: 2025-05-06
#116 · Quote Reply

What do you think the solution to that problem is?

Pretty obvious, really, outlaw women using any kind of headphone or earbuds, or just electronic devices in general. It’s pretty sad that in this day and age that even needs pointing out.

1
GalacticSushi lemmy.blahaj.zone GalacticSushi@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2025-10-18
#117 · Quote Reply

But then it turns into a moral lesson when it turns out that cult was actually a cooperative and the person who told you the original rumor a real estate developer that wanted the property

So there was an "article" written about the cult, but it was written by the head of the church. The article itself painted the group in an extremely positive light... The comments, on the other hand, were largely from concerned parents, siblings, and friends who had lost loved ones to the cult and no longer had contact. They've been active since 2007, this isn't a meme.

3
ToTheGraveMyLove sh.itjust.works ToTheGraveMyLove@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2026-01-29
#118 · (edited) Quote Reply

It's a thinner batter - think tempura rather than chipshop fish (or corndog if you're of the USian persuasion).

You guys put corndog batter on fish???

1
Hossenfeffer feddit.uk Hossenfeffer@feddit.uk
Joined: 2023-06-14
#119 · Quote Reply

You guys put corndog batter on fish???

No, it's not as thick as that, but it's thicker than tempura batter.

1
YaxPasaj lemmy.eco.br YaxPasaj@lemmy.eco.br
Joined: 2023-07-07
#120 · Quote Reply

Textbook rage bait.

7
GaMEChld lemmy.world GaMEChld@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-10-14
#121 · Quote Reply

What do you think the solution to that problem is?

Oh that's a great question, I have no idea. I'm just watching the divide happen and am glad my partner and I found each other. I'm sure it's not good for the fabric of society though. It's like we're moving further and further into isolation tendencies.

I guess the easiest solution would be the return of "handkerchief dropping" or some equivalent thing.

1
Malfeasant lemmy.world Malfeasant@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-17
#122 · Quote Reply

Guys have to pretend that they weren't startled because of toxic masculinity 😔

Bingo

1
WorldsDumbestMan lemmy.today WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today
Joined: 2024-12-05
#123 · Quote Reply

It happens depending on where you are. In the East Coast? Mind your business. In the West Coast: Someone made conversation with me in the toilet. "Good water flow, yeah?" He said. As a dude, most people only give me small talk, just to break the ice and explain nobody is a threat. But I can see as a woman, most small talk is a lead up to something else.

I figured out I have to say hi or hello to anyone going into the waiting station, just to let them know I'm not a threat, but ironically, my own voice breaks with fear, because I have to share a space with another human, and I'm on edge the entire time.

2
WorldsDumbestMan lemmy.today WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today
Joined: 2024-12-05
#124 · Quote Reply

and they CAN'T HEAR THE BELL EITHER put the phone down, take the ear phones out and be more aware of your surroundings

No, I refuse.

0
WorldsDumbestMan lemmy.today WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today
Joined: 2024-12-05
#125 · Quote Reply

I don't know for sure and I am too afraid to check.

Yes, someone neglected their real wife for an AI wife. Just go on CHUB AI and type in AI wife...

2
WorldsDumbestMan lemmy.today WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today
Joined: 2024-12-05
#126 · Quote Reply

walk up to random people on the street who aren't wearing headphones to try start conversations? It's strange to me that this would be considered out of bounds. "Pickup artists" aside, this really ought to be more normal.

If they aren't family, or friends, and they aren't on some talking forum, they might as well not exist. You have no right or reason to interact with them whatsoever.

Heck, family and friends are optional too...

2
dethedrus lemmy.dbzer0.com dethedrus@lemmy.dbzer0.com
Joined: 2024-03-09
#127 · Quote Reply

I wear headphones because it keeps the ADHD demons at bay. Also, not really interested in conversations with random people on the street. Just a polite wave or nod.

Only animals get verbal acknowledgment.

5
WorldsDumbestMan lemmy.today WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today
Joined: 2024-12-05
#128 · Quote Reply

entitlement. women are objects for men to interact with and men are owed their attention when they want it. you have ear protection? well that interferes with me seeking female attention, so off it goes. that's the mindset we're dealing with.

To the gas chambers with them all!

2
BigDiction lemmy.world BigDiction@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-06-20
#129 · Quote Reply

AI wives are a thing?

Yes then when you get divorced the AI firm gets 50% of your assets.

I just roll my eyes when people say “AI companies have no business plan” smh my head.

2
thatkomputerkat lemmy.blahaj.zone thatkomputerkat@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2025-01-11
#130 · Quote Reply

I hate it so much when I put in headphones so I can power through something like doing the dishes without distraction only to have someone come in and start talking at me. It’s like, there are so many other times when I’m available. Can you not do it when it’s going to make something I don’t particularly enjoy doing take so much longer?!

3
Tinidril midwest.social Tinidril@midwest.social
Joined: 2023-06-07
#131 · (edited) Quote Reply

If they aren't family, or friends, and they aren't on some talking forum, they might as well not exist. You have no right or reason to interact with them whatsoever. Heck, family and friends are optional too...

You have no right or reason to interact with them whatsoever.

I absolutely have the right to talk to anyone I wish. (Assuming we're not talking about stalking, harassment, etc). As for my reasons, they are my reasons and fuck you if you don't like them. It's no wonder nobody has a social life anymore.

1
WorldsDumbestMan lemmy.today WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today
Joined: 2024-12-05
#132 · Quote Reply

You have no right or reason to interact with them whatsoever. I absolutely have the right to talk to anyone I wish. (Assuming we're not talking about stalking, harassment, etc). As for my reasons, they are my reasons and fuck you if you don't like them. It's no wonder nobody has a social life anymore.

You aren't entitled to other people, and to make them talk or listen to you.

2
Tinidril midwest.social Tinidril@midwest.social
Joined: 2023-06-07
#133 · (edited) Quote Reply

You aren't entitled to other people, and to make them talk or listen to you.

Who says I'm trying to make them do anything?

1
LainTrain lemmy.dbzer0.com LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com
Joined: 2024-01-24
#134 · Quote Reply

This seems dependant on location to me. In a region I lived before it would be rare that someone would talk to me in public like at the store, now where I'm at it happens all the time, people seem much more social in general. I used to be sort of confused when it did happen, now I'm used to it and it feels like a nice human moment when it does usually.

Human moment

2
Bluescluestoothpaste sh.itjust.works Bluescluestoothpaste@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2023-08-05
#135 · Quote Reply

But I didn't say anything about picking a person up except to explicitly exclude it from what I was talking about. The comment I responded to was specifically about starting a conversation.

Idk it's just like with work we're forced to interact and be friendly with strangers all day, now im in line at the post office and some guy wants to make a "consevative" point about how government sucks or something. Like fuck off man, i spent all day talking and acting friendly with strangers for money so i dont die in the street and this guy wants me to do it for free.

1
Bluescluestoothpaste sh.itjust.works Bluescluestoothpaste@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2023-08-05
#136 · Quote Reply

I wish someone would do that to me in real life. I'd tell them about how a popular coffeeshop in our city is run by a straight up cult and the employees are all members whose wages go into a "shared purse" controlled by the cult. Because unlike the guy in the OP, I recognize I'm not the main character. I'm the NPC in the tavern who sends the protagonist on a side quest to take down a cult.

Idk man the way i look at it gossiping is morally wrong and dangerous. Like no i dont wanna hear rumors at all -- if there's a real problem sure let's talk about it may be an emergency we have to take action so talking is necessary. But idk what's the point of rumors and gossip?? For machiavellian to manipulate those around them, as far as I can tell.

1
Bluescluestoothpaste sh.itjust.works Bluescluestoothpaste@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2023-08-05
#137 · (edited) Quote Reply

Who says I'm trying to make them do anything?

You're making them tell you "fuck off im not interested in talking"

1
Bluescluestoothpaste sh.itjust.works Bluescluestoothpaste@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2023-08-05
#138 · Quote Reply

I figured out I have to say hi or hello to anyone going into the waiting station, just to let them know I'm not a threat, but ironically, my own voice breaks with fear, because I have to share a space with another human, and I'm on edge the entire time.

What's a waiting station?

1
Bluescluestoothpaste sh.itjust.works Bluescluestoothpaste@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2023-08-05
#139 · Quote Reply

The guy is not "so close to getting it." He just appears that way because we don't have the same bias he has. He's actually quite far from getting it and he probably won't even believe the truth when people explain it to him. If he was close to getting it, he'd have gotten it already.

Well it's one of those things like you can be two inches away from something but if there's a glass window in the way you might never actually touch that something.

1
Bluescluestoothpaste sh.itjust.works Bluescluestoothpaste@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2023-08-05
#140 · Quote Reply

If the only men who approach you are people who don't respect boundaries, then every man you meet has similar traits, and then it's easy to think all men your problem when it's not. Just because you're easily lost in conversation doesn't make everything a strawman. It's not a magic incantation that makes you look smart.

The not talking to people with headphones IS the boundary!

-1
Bluescluestoothpaste sh.itjust.works Bluescluestoothpaste@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2023-08-05
#141 · Quote Reply

In reply to an earlier post

that just leaves respectful men not approaching as a default position

Yes, exactly as it should be.

-1
Bluescluestoothpaste sh.itjust.works Bluescluestoothpaste@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2023-08-05
#142 · Quote Reply

In reply to an earlier post

S.o. meaning significant other?

1
Bluescluestoothpaste sh.itjust.works Bluescluestoothpaste@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2023-08-05
#143 · Quote Reply

In reply to an earlier post

When they wanna get hit on they dress up go to a bar or party and dont wear headphones, it's really not that complicated

1
WorldsDumbestMan lemmy.today WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today
Joined: 2024-12-05
#144 · Quote Reply

What's a waiting station?

Bus station, but I short circuited.

2
atro_city fedia.io atro_city@fedia.io
Joined: 2023-08-05
#145 · Quote Reply

When they wanna get hit on they dress up go to a bar or party and dont wear headphones, it's really not that complicated

No, then they're dressing up for themselves and "out with their friends".

-1
Bluescluestoothpaste sh.itjust.works Bluescluestoothpaste@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2023-08-05
#146 · Quote Reply

No, then they're dressing up for themselves and "out with their friends".

I guess you better stick to men then, good luck

2
GaMEChld lemmy.world GaMEChld@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-10-14
#147 · Quote Reply

that just leaves respectful men not approaching as a default position Yes, exactly as it should be.

You're the same person who commented headphones in means don't approach. That's not what I'm talking about. Go to YouTube, search "men not approaching women" and behold, many women reporting that they aren't getting approached when they feel they should be. So the feedback I'm hearing is, well, women should go and approach men, which men seemed fine with the idea, but women seemed appalled at the notion. If you want me to link some compilations I will.

I mean I don't care either way, I already found my partner, so you all do you.

0
Bluescluestoothpaste sh.itjust.works Bluescluestoothpaste@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2023-08-05
#148 · Quote Reply

You're the same person who commented headphones in means don't approach. That's not what I'm talking about. Go to YouTube, search "men not approaching women" and behold, many women reporting that they aren't getting approached when they feel they should be. So the feedback I'm hearing is, well, women should go and approach men, which men seemed fine with the idea, but women seemed appalled at t...

Yes if you search the internet for something you want to hear you will hear it

1
GaMEChld lemmy.world GaMEChld@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-10-14
#149 · Quote Reply

Yes if you search the internet for something you want to hear you will hear it

What's your point? Everything exists so nothing matters? Why are you even talking then?

1
Bluescluestoothpaste sh.itjust.works Bluescluestoothpaste@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2023-08-05
#150 · Quote Reply

What's your point? Everything exists so nothing matters? Why are you even talking then?

My point is if you're obsessed with something, google search will always agree with you, correctly or not

1
GaMEChld lemmy.world GaMEChld@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-10-14
#151 · Quote Reply

My point is if you're obsessed with something, google search will always agree with you, correctly or not

I have no idea what your purpose in this conversation is.

1
Post Reply Page 3 of 4   Goto page « First 1, 2, 3, 4 Last »
Back to top