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Crash lemmy.ml crash_thepose@lemmy.ml
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Mine:

  1. Learn a second language and keep up with the language your parents speak. You will regret being a brat about not wanting to speak this language especially as your family members pass.
  2. The only opinions about you that really matter are from the people you respect and who respect you back
  3. Being a kind humble person, who leads their political convictions with curiosity and not self righteousness is important. As that one person said: "I am no hero and neither are you."
  4. Don't throw out your old media (mix cds, tapes, records, photos, zinee, etc) because you think they're embarrassing. They either will not be embarrassing later or they will become expensive and you can tell them for mad bucks.
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Arcden lemmy.zip dlsloop@lemmy.zip
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This life has no meaning. Absolutely none. Do what you enjoy. You don't need a "purpose," grind culture is toxic and will only lead to burnout. Slow down and listen to the birds sing.

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tacocollector2 lemmy.blahaj.zone tacocollector2@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2026-03-07
#3 · Quote Reply

Stretch, hydrate, learn. Continuously.

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TowardsTheFuture lemmy.zip TowardsTheFuture@lemmy.zip
Joined: 2023-07-12
#4 · Quote Reply

Stretch, hydrate, learn. Continuously.

I’ll add: take care of your teeth cuz they’re expensive, and learn to cook before you move out.

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Crash lemmy.ml crash_thepose@lemmy.ml
Joined: 2024-02-03
#5 · Quote Reply

This life has no meaning. Absolutely none. Do what you enjoy. You don't need a "purpose," grind culture is toxic and will only lead to burnout. Slow down and listen to the birds sing.

do you think that you should do what you enjoy at the expense of another person? like (in an extreme example) to harm/assault/ hurt someone because you enjoy it?

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coaxil lemmy.zip coaxil@lemmy.zip
Joined: 2025-06-05
#6 · (edited) Quote Reply

Learn how to micro dose acid, lift weights and eat right, don't sell your soul to some corporation

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TropicalDingdong lemmy.world TropicalDingdong@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-29
#7 · Quote Reply

do you think that you should do what you enjoy at the expense of another person? like (in an extreme example) to harm/assault/ hurt someone because you enjoy it?

I think hedonism is important, but it comes at a cost. The candle the burns twice as bright and all that. At the same time if you never fuck around, you'll never find out.

I think far too often young people go through life thinking they already know who they are, instead of treating life as an opportunity to find out who they are. They become calcified, ossified in their beliefs about their own identity, a constant and repeated telling themselves of who they are in an effort to believe these things.

An alternative approach is to try to break down who you are, repeatedly and continuously. To try new things, to change the situation. Leave a city without warning and move somewhere you don't know the language. Abandon your belongings, your phone, your identity and start over. Change the situation entirely. Begin to understand what is you and what is the world. If you move from place to place, and you find yourself always confronted by the same types of people, maybe you are seeing a reflection of something you are bringing with you from place to place.

There is a very western identity of "knowing" who you are while simultaneously having done no exploration of who that person might be. I find it very curious.

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Jax sh.itjust.works Jax@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2023-08-22
#8 · Quote Reply

I’ll add: take care of your teeth cuz they’re expensive, and learn to cook before you move out.

Or get used to eating burnt food, that worked for me

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moonshadow slrpnk.net moonshadow@slrpnk.net
Joined: 2025-11-12
#9 · Quote Reply

KILL YOUR MASTERS

If you fear dying you're already dead. Always for love, never from fear. A better world is possible. Coconut oil is a 1:1 butter substitute that's both cheaper and better for you

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Melobol lemmy.ml Melobol@lemmy.ml
Joined: 2023-06-24
#10 · (edited) Quote Reply

Keep learning new things.
Learn cursive and develop your own handwriting.
Writing down things physically makes learning way easier. And keeps your brain young - because, there is a reason why dementia is hitting some people in their 40s.

Edit: brush your teeth and floss every day. If you don't like to floss every day get a water flosser for those days.

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njm1314 lemmy.world njm1314@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-06-21
#11 · Quote Reply

I don't know about number four my friend. I was going through some of my old CD cases of that long ago and there's more than a few that I deeply regret.

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cookiemonster beehaw.org cookiemonster@beehaw.org
Joined: 2026-03-05
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Do your best. Make the best choice you can and consciously decide against second-guessing yourself later. Feel free to learn about yourself from any inclination to second-guess, it could be your morals chaffing against your actions.

Be kind. To those you love and those you don’t. Give yourself some grace when imperfections monopolize your focus.

Learn about yourself. It’s going to be a lot easier to make decisions when you know yourself.

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abbadon420 sh.itjust.works abbadon420@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2025-06-28
#13 · Quote Reply

Wear sunscreen

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AmbitiousProcess (they/them) piefed.social AmbitiousProcess@piefed.social
Joined: 2025-06-06
#14 · Quote Reply

Don't make trends your identity.

You don't want to look back on your life and all the photos you have of yourself, just to realize every fashion choice, purchase, event you went to, and way you talked was all because it was seen as cool, trendy, or "normal."

Live your life in a way that feels right and true to who you are, and what your values are, not what anybody else things is "right" for you to do.

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Melllvar startrek.website charonn0@startrek.website
Joined: 2023-07-03
#15 · Quote Reply

Start saving for old age now. It might seem like a long way off, and you might not have much money right now to begin with, but being young and poor is way better than being old and poor.

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redrum lemmy.ml redrumBot@lemmy.ml
Joined: 2023-06-25
#16 · Quote Reply

My advice:

  1. Don't trust the advice of generations that have left a world worse that they were born into.

  2. molotov coktail instructions

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tacocollector2 lemmy.blahaj.zone tacocollector2@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2026-03-07
#17 · Quote Reply

I’ll add: take care of your teeth cuz they’re expensive, and learn to cook before you move out.

Both of these can be outsourced though. You can replace your teeth, and order takeout. You can’t replace your body or your mind.

But in general I agree with you.

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faythofdragons slrpnk.net faythofdragons@slrpnk.net
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#18 · Quote Reply

Or get used to eating burnt food, that worked for me

Hey, burnt offerings were made to the gods of old, right?

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Hanrahan slrpnk.net hanrahan@slrpnk.net
Joined: 2023-03-14
#19 · Quote Reply

don't listen to your elders, they're the dipshits that have the planet in this mess politically and particularly ecologically, they don't know shit.

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Zorsith lemmy.blahaj.zone Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2024-03-01
#20 · Quote Reply

Be willing to burn bridges. Some people really do need to be told to fuck off.

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CanadaPlus lemmy.sdf.org CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org
Joined: 2023-06-12
#21 · (edited) Quote Reply

Learn a second language and keep up with the language your parents speak. You will regret being a brat about not wanting to speak this language especially as your family members pass.

Languages are the one thing that gets harder as you get older. Kinda why immersion schooling seems like a decent idea, even if it delays other skills a bit.

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CanadaPlus lemmy.sdf.org CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org
Joined: 2023-06-12
#22 · (edited) Quote Reply

KILL YOUR MASTERS If you fear dying you're already dead. Always for love, never from fear. A better world is possible. Coconut oil is a 1:1 butter substitute that's both cheaper and better for you

Other plant oils are even better yet, if you don't insist on the consistency. Except peanut, maybe? I forget.

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MaKaNaS tardigram.com MaKaNaS@tardigram.com
Joined: 2025-03-20
#23 · (edited) Quote Reply

Start saving for old age now. It might seem like a long way off, and you might not have much money right now to begin with, but being young and poor is way better than being old and poor.

@charonn0@startrek.website The only wealth that matters is time
@crash_thepose@lemmy.ml

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picnicolas slrpnk.net picnicolas@slrpnk.net
Joined: 2023-06-15
#24 · Quote Reply

This life has no meaning. Absolutely none. Do what you enjoy. You don't need a "purpose," grind culture is toxic and will only lead to burnout. Slow down and listen to the birds sing.

What’s your advice for younger folks? Nihilism!

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chicken lemmy.dbzer0.com chicken@lemmy.dbzer0.com
Joined: 2023-06-30
#25 · Quote Reply

Don't get a job

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shrek_is_love lemmy.ml shrek_is_love@lemmy.ml
Joined: 2026-02-09
#26 · Quote Reply

Wear Sunscreen

If I could offer you only one tip for the future,
Sunscreen would be it

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Arcden lemmy.zip dlsloop@lemmy.zip
Joined: 2026-01-19
#27 · (edited) Quote Reply

do you think that you should do what you enjoy at the expense of another person? like (in an extreme example) to harm/assault/ hurt someone because you enjoy it?

I don't know why you are being downvoted. This is an excellent question. Personally, no, but that's because I feel empathy towards other people and enjoy cooperation/community.

However, imagine if you were born without empathy or even enjoyed hurting others. Does that make you a bad person? Our society would certainly see it that way. You would be ostracized/incarcerated for not being the same as others because you enjoy hurting people. But does that make your existence wrong? I don't think so. To be honest I don't think there is such a thing as wrong and right, just selfish and selfless behaviors.

All this to say, I would say no and certainly don't condone it, but if you ask someone else they may say yes. Who is to say that either one of us is right?

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RiverRock lemmy.ml RiverRock@lemmy.ml
Joined: 2025-11-23
#28 · Quote Reply

Never, ever stop asking why

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HubertManne piefed.social HubertManne@piefed.social
Joined: 2025-03-13
#29 · Quote Reply

but as much effort as you can into math. There is the common trope about it being useless and that is I think due to peoples misunderstanding of it. Math is mental abstraction. Math problems are like excersise. No on complains push ups have not real world value. Its understood that doing them gets your body in better shape to do physical things. Similarly math helps your mind be in better shape to do mental things. Unfortunately you don't really do it after you are no longer in school so its not bad to try and use it whenever you can. Add your purchases up in your head and try and figure out price per quantity and compare products. do suduko. Also grab elementary logic if you can as it gives a math like framework for reason.

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workgood lemmy.dbzer0.com workgood@lemmy.dbzer0.com
Joined: 2026-03-01
#30 · Quote Reply

I don't know why you are being downvoted. This is an excellent question. Personally, no, but that's because I feel empathy towards other people and enjoy cooperation/community. However, imagine if you were born without empathy or even enjoyed hurting others. Does that make you a bad person? Our society would certainly see it that way. You would be ostracized/incarcerated for not being the same ...
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absGeekNZ lemmy.nz absGeekNZ@lemmy.nz
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#31 · Quote Reply

What’s your advice for younger folks? Nihilism!

Optimistic Nihilism, is quite a good philosophical framework.

But I would recommend a mixture of optimistic nihilism and stoicism.

If nothing has any inherent meaning, the things you chose to be meaningful are as valid as any other choice.

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pheusie programming.dev pheusie@programming.dev
Joined: 2026-02-28
#32 · Quote Reply

I don't know why you are being downvoted. This is an excellent question. Personally, no, but that's because I feel empathy towards other people and enjoy cooperation/community. However, imagine if you were born without empathy or even enjoyed hurting others. Does that make you a bad person? Our society would certainly see it that way. You would be ostracized/incarcerated for not being the same ...

Ah..., the conundrums of subjective morality.

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frog_brawler lemmy.world frog_brawler@lemmy.world
Joined: 2024-05-29
#33 · (edited) Quote Reply

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mic_check_one_two lemmy.dbzer0.com mic_check_one_two@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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#34 · Quote Reply

What’s your advice for younger folks? Nihilism!

If you take nihilism far enough, you loop back around to absurdism instead. And that’s where things go from “why bother? Nothing matters so what is the point” to “why not? Nothing matters so I might as well enjoy life.”

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Arcden lemmy.zip dlsloop@lemmy.zip
Joined: 2026-01-19
#35 · Quote Reply

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But who defines them? If there is no god to determine that then that belief is entirely subjective. What one person views as good will be bad to another. How do you determine who is right?

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MerryJaneDoe lemmy.world MerryJaneDoe@lemmy.world
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#36 · Quote Reply

Keep learning new things. Learn cursive and develop your own handwriting. Writing down things physically makes learning way easier. And keeps your brain young - because, there is a reason why dementia is hitting some people in their 40s. Edit: brush your teeth and floss every day. If you don't like to floss every day get a water flosser for those days.

Cursive as a primary concern and dental hygiene as an afterthought? Hot take...

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Santati lemmy.ml Santati@lemmy.ml
Joined: 2026-03-03
#37 · (edited) Quote Reply

Cursive as a primary concern and dental hygiene as an afterthought? Hot take...

If you learn cursive poorly enough, then you can pose as your own doctor, and get all the medicine you need. It just makes sense.

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MerryJaneDoe lemmy.world MerryJaneDoe@lemmy.world
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#38 · Quote Reply

Start saving for old age now. It might seem like a long way off, and you might not have much money right now to begin with, but being young and poor is way better than being old and poor.

Don't "save".

Invest.

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Crash lemmy.ml crash_thepose@lemmy.ml
Joined: 2024-02-03
#39 · Quote Reply

I think hedonism is important, but it comes at a cost. The candle the burns twice as bright and all that. At the same time if you never fuck around, you'll never find out. I think far too often young people go through life thinking they already know who they are, instead of treating life as an opportunity to find out who they are. They become calcified, ossified in their beliefs about their own...

Super interesting perspective. Thank you!

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Crash lemmy.ml crash_thepose@lemmy.ml
Joined: 2024-02-03
#40 · Quote Reply

I don't know why you are being downvoted. This is an excellent question. Personally, no, but that's because I feel empathy towards other people and enjoy cooperation/community. However, imagine if you were born without empathy or even enjoyed hurting others. Does that make you a bad person? Our society would certainly see it that way. You would be ostracized/incarcerated for not being the same ...

Thank you for this response!

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Crash lemmy.ml crash_thepose@lemmy.ml
Joined: 2024-02-03
#41 · Quote Reply

don't listen to your elders, they're the dipshits that have the planet in this mess politically and particularly ecologically, they don't know shit.

Okay youngins make sure you do the opposite of what everyone says in this threat!

I agree with you but I'm also just being silly . Maybe the better argument is be selective as to which elders you listen to.

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Crash lemmy.ml crash_thepose@lemmy.ml
Joined: 2024-02-03
#42 · Quote Reply

Learn a second language and keep up with the language your parents speak. You will regret being a brat about not wanting to speak this language especially as your family members pass. Languages are the one thing that gets harder as you get older. Kinda why immersion schooling seems like a decent idea, even if it delays other skills a bit.

Genuinely one of my biggest regrets . I was so resistant as a kid

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Crash lemmy.ml crash_thepose@lemmy.ml
Joined: 2024-02-03
#43 · Quote Reply

Learn how to micro dose acid, lift weights and eat right, don't sell your soul to some corporation

Better yet: learn to microdose acid WHILE lifting weights.

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Crash lemmy.ml crash_thepose@lemmy.ml
Joined: 2024-02-03
#44 · Quote Reply

I don't know about number four my friend. I was going through some of my old CD cases of that long ago and there's more than a few that I deeply regret.

Hah fair enough !

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BarneyPiccolo lemmy.today BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.today
Joined: 2025-06-30
#45 · Quote Reply

  • People are the most suspicious of the behavior they are most guilty of. The guy who thinks everyone is stealing from him, is probably stealing from everybody else. If it's your boss, keep an eye on your paycheck. The person who always thinks their person is cheating on them, is probably a cheater. People do this because they're trying to excuse they're own behavior - "I only do it because everyone else is doing it to me," even if they aren't.

  • Commit to doing something difficult, even if it's just a hobby, like running, working out, playing a musical instrument, writing, painting, learning a language, cooking, reading classic novels, birdwatching, etc. Having something that's important to you, and investing deeply into it, will fulfill your soul, and give you something good to hang onto when times get tough. And they will get tough. And don't tolerate people around you who dismiss or are disrespectful about it. It's important to YOU, that's all that matters. Their validation is irrelevant.

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hbar lemmy.ml hbar@lemmy.ml
Joined: 2023-06-02
#46 · Quote Reply

It's way easier getting in shape young. Don't put it off.

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Melobol lemmy.ml Melobol@lemmy.ml
Joined: 2023-06-24
#47 · Quote Reply

Cursive as a primary concern and dental hygiene as an afterthought? Hot take...

Keeping your mind young is primary concern.
Dental hygiene you should already have.

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UltraGiGaGigantic lemmy.ml UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml
Joined: 2024-08-23
#48 · Quote Reply

Other plant oils are even better yet, if you don't insist on the consistency. Except peanut, maybe? I forget.

So vegetable oil?

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workgood lemmy.dbzer0.com workgood@lemmy.dbzer0.com
Joined: 2026-03-01
#49 · Quote Reply

But who defines them? If there is no god to determine that then that belief is entirely subjective. What one person views as good will be bad to another. How do you determine who is right?
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Weirdfish lemmy.world Weirdfish@lemmy.world
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#50 · Quote Reply

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Absolutely second the don't have kids. Best decision I made in life.

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CanadaPlus lemmy.sdf.org CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org
Joined: 2023-06-12
#51 · (edited) Quote Reply

So vegetable oil?

There's many kinds, but yes.

I know canola has the lowest saturated fat of them all, which is also why it doesn't smoke easily.

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