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username_1 programming.dev username_1@programming.dev
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Track_Shovel slrpnk.net Track_Shovel@slrpnk.net
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ImgurRefugee114 reddthat.com ImgurRefugee114@reddthat.com
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Found the guy who uses bool for gender options

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Jo Miran lemmy.ml JoMiran@lemmy.ml
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So...devastatingly handsome?

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surewhynotlem lemmy.world surewhynotlem@lemmy.world
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Whenever someone says females but doesn't specify the species, I assume they mean goats.

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DaddleDew lemmy.world DaddleDew@lemmy.world
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Given the context, I believe what they meant is when people use the word "females" to refer to women. Like the Ferengi do.

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Kowowow lemmy.ca Kowowow@lemmy.ca
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this reminds me of a mental pebble in my shoe, sometimes it feels like there is an age category problem, "woman" still feels too old/mature no matter how old I get and "girls" sounds too young at this point, "chicks" is my go to because feels vague enough but maybe I just need work on my vocabulary

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essell lemmy.world essell@lemmy.world
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So...devastatingly handsome?

Would you look at the lobes on that đŸ„°

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BillyClark piefed.social BillyClark@piefed.social
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Would you look at the lobes on that đŸ„°

And just look at that dashing smile. And such good hygiene. He clearly uses his tooth sharpener regularly.

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SeductiveTortoise piefed.social SeductiveTortoise@piefed.social
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Would you look at the lobes on that đŸ„°

You can clearly see he has the lobes for business 💕

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Dadifer lemmy.world Dadifer@lemmy.world
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this reminds me of a mental pebble in my shoe, sometimes it feels like there is an age category problem, "woman" still feels too old/mature no matter how old I get and "girls" sounds too young at this point, "chicks" is my go to because feels vague enough but maybe I just need work on my vocabulary

"Ladies"

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SeductiveTortoise piefed.social SeductiveTortoise@piefed.social
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Men... vile
bubbly and cloying and happy 😑

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BillyClark piefed.social BillyClark@piefed.social
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this reminds me of a mental pebble in my shoe, sometimes it feels like there is an age category problem, "woman" still feels too old/mature no matter how old I get and "girls" sounds too young at this point, "chicks" is my go to because feels vague enough but maybe I just need work on my vocabulary

I've been recently trying to phase my usage of "girls" out when referring to women, because it's unintentionally belittling. I've settled on just saying "woman" when referring to an adult woman in general.

Of course, if you're referring to a woman in person, you need to refer to her as "milady" and tip your hat. That's just basic etiquette.

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TachyonTele piefed.social TachyonTele@piefed.social
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Whenever someone says females but doesn't specify the species, I assume they mean goats.

"yeah man, same. I got two females at home and let me tell ya"

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TachyonTele piefed.social TachyonTele@piefed.social
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Are you legitimately stupid, like, are you on paper declaring that you are stupid?

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cadekat pawb.social cadekat@pawb.social
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"Ladies"

"Ladies" can come across as sleazy, imo. And sometimes you're in a situation where the class/status suggested by "lady" ends up sounding sarcastic.

"Gals" implies a level of friendship, and "dames" is too old timey.

It's a tight rope walk of sounding too familiar/formal, implying old/young, or being insulting/demeaning... I conclude that we need a new word.

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MohamedMoney feddit.org MohamedMoney@feddit.org
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"Ladies" can come across as sleazy, imo. And sometimes you're in a situation where the class/status suggested by "lady" ends up sounding sarcastic. "Gals" implies a level of friendship, and "dames" is too old timey. It's a tight rope walk of sounding too familiar/formal, implying old/young, or being insulting/demeaning... I conclude that we need a new word.

Just say 'women'

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cadekat pawb.social cadekat@pawb.social
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Just say 'women'

To quote the earlier comment:

"woman" still feels too old/mature no matter how old I get

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tordenflesk lemmy.world tordenflesk@lemmy.world
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To quote the earlier comment: "woman" still feels too old/mature no matter how old I get

Young women?

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Absolute_Axoltl feddit.uk Absolute_Axoltl@feddit.uk
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Someone is having a mare

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MinnesotaGoddam lemmy.world HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world
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"yeah man, same. I got two females at home and let me tell ya"

Chop chop dig dig chop chop dig dig

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MinnesotaGoddam lemmy.world HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world
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I've been recently trying to phase my usage of "girls" out when referring to women, because it's unintentionally belittling. I've settled on just saying "woman" when referring to an adult woman in general. Of course, if you're referring to a woman in person, you need to refer to her as "milady" and tip your hat. That's just basic etiquette.

Lady? Gal? Feminoid? I think context and tone matter a lot too.

I try to stick to pal and comrade these days but it's hard to beat decades of habit.

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rovingnothing29 lemmy.world rovingnothing29@lemmy.world
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So...devastatingly handsome?

Now we know. Knowledge equals profit after-all.

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MinnesotaGoddam lemmy.world HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world
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Given the context, I believe what they meant is when people use the word "females" to refer to women. Like the Ferengi do.

If you don't pronounce it like ferengi do, emphasis and all, are you really saying it right?

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MohamedMoney feddit.org MohamedMoney@feddit.org
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To quote the earlier comment: "woman" still feels too old/mature no matter how old I get

Yes, I read that. I also read your comment und you concluded (somewhat jokingly, I know), that 'we' need a new word for 'women'.

My, now more elaborate, response to that is, that 'we' don’t need a new word, you should learn to use the perfectly cromulent available ones.

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ch00f lemmy.world ch00f@lemmy.world
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/r/incels had a CSS feature that would insert little ferengi heads every time someone used the word “female.”

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DaddleDew lemmy.world DaddleDew@lemmy.world
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If you don't pronounce it like ferengi do, emphasis and all, are you really saying it right?

Hyoo-maAhns don't know how to pronounce it properly

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MinnesotaGoddam lemmy.world HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world
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Hyoo-maAhns don't know how to pronounce it properly

i just say they aren't having enough fun pronouncing it and why say things the boring way

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endless_nameless lemmy.world endless_nameless@lemmy.world
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Honestly I feel like I'm gonna get myself in trouble every time I use "female" at all. There isn't really another adjective to use though. Saying "woman boxer" has a totally different meaning than "female boxer" for example. Oh well, I don't really value the opinion of people who would fault me for stepping on linguistic bear trap anyway.

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macniel feddit.org DmMacniel@feddit.org
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You can clearly see he has the lobes for business 💕

but not the ...... biggest lobes as his cousin not him owns a moon.

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scarabic lemmy.world scarabic@lemmy.world
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Whenever someone says females but doesn't specify the species, I assume they mean goats.

I’m going to adopt that as a personal reading rule, right up there with “if the headline ends with a question mark, the answer is no.”

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scarabic lemmy.world scarabic@lemmy.world
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this reminds me of a mental pebble in my shoe, sometimes it feels like there is an age category problem, "woman" still feels too old/mature no matter how old I get and "girls" sounds too young at this point, "chicks" is my go to because feels vague enough but maybe I just need work on my vocabulary

Speaking generously, I can see what you mean. But I think people only have this problem when they are used to calling people “girls” far too long. If you shake that bad habit, you won’t find yourself coming into conflict with these terms so often.

May I suggest the term “young women” as a highly respectful way to refer to younger folks. And if you are truly in doubt or referring to a mixed group, “ladies” is an alternative too.

I don’t recommend “chicks.” Some people are okay with it but many are not. A chick is a newly hatched bird, so this is quite infantilizing.

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Poem_for_your_sprog lemmy.world Poem_for_your_sprog@lemmy.world
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Honestly I feel like I'm gonna get myself in trouble every time I use "female" at all. There isn't really another adjective to use though. Saying "woman boxer" has a totally different meaning than "female boxer" for example. Oh well, I don't really value the opinion of people who would fault me for stepping on linguistic bear trap anyway.

Female birds generally have less colorful plumage than male birds.

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scarabic lemmy.world scarabic@lemmy.world
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"Ladies" can come across as sleazy, imo. And sometimes you're in a situation where the class/status suggested by "lady" ends up sounding sarcastic. "Gals" implies a level of friendship, and "dames" is too old timey. It's a tight rope walk of sounding too familiar/formal, implying old/young, or being insulting/demeaning... I conclude that we need a new word.

I think we often forget about “young man” and “young woman.”

When someone is too young to safely call a woman, “young woman” is quite a compliment and gives her the respect of an adult anyway. If someone is just barely too old to be called a girl, they will probably find it neutral enough. And if someone is much too old to be called a girl they will appreciate it as flattery.

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scarabic lemmy.world scarabic@lemmy.world
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"Ladies" can come across as sleazy, imo. And sometimes you're in a situation where the class/status suggested by "lady" ends up sounding sarcastic. "Gals" implies a level of friendship, and "dames" is too old timey. It's a tight rope walk of sounding too familiar/formal, implying old/young, or being insulting/demeaning... I conclude that we need a new word.

I guess I can see some ways that “lady” or “ladies” could sound sleazy but I’m surprised if this is someone’s first or only association. “Lady” is literally a landed title, the equivalent of “Lord,” and the highly dignified counterpart to “gentleman.”

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Track_Shovel slrpnk.net Track_Shovel@slrpnk.net
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/r/incels had a CSS feature that would insert little ferengi heads every time someone used the word “female.”

That's amazing

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scarabic lemmy.world scarabic@lemmy.world
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Yep get memorizing, fool.

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Track_Shovel slrpnk.net Track_Shovel@slrpnk.net
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Honestly I feel like I'm gonna get myself in trouble every time I use "female" at all. There isn't really another adjective to use though. Saying "woman boxer" has a totally different meaning than "female boxer" for example. Oh well, I don't really value the opinion of people who would fault me for stepping on linguistic bear trap anyway.

I had a really fantastic laugh about this.

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SeductiveTortoise piefed.social SeductiveTortoise@piefed.social
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but not the ...... biggest lobes as his cousin not him owns a moon.

You think he should have them surgically shrunk to go as a fe-male? Behave!

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ricecake sh.itjust.works ricecake@sh.itjust.works
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this reminds me of a mental pebble in my shoe, sometimes it feels like there is an age category problem, "woman" still feels too old/mature no matter how old I get and "girls" sounds too young at this point, "chicks" is my go to because feels vague enough but maybe I just need work on my vocabulary

Girl is a child. Woman is an adult. Young woman if it's vaguely in between.

Female if you're doing medicine or science.

The girl lost her doll. The woman paid her taxes. The young women got dropped off at the movies. The female puffin lays one egg per season and shares the burden of caring for the puffling equally with their mate.

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Maultasche lemmy.world Maultasche@lemmy.world
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Found the guy who uses bool for gender options

What about using Boolean where Null is an option?

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troglodytis lemmy.world troglodytis@lemmy.world
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Honestly I feel like I'm gonna get myself in trouble every time I use "female" at all. There isn't really another adjective to use though. Saying "woman boxer" has a totally different meaning than "female boxer" for example. Oh well, I don't really value the opinion of people who would fault me for stepping on linguistic bear trap anyway.

Female is a great adjective and a poor noun.

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troglodytis lemmy.world troglodytis@lemmy.world
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Yes. Yes. That's fine.

Female is a great adjective and a poor noun.

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GreenKnight23 lemmy.world GreenKnight23@lemmy.world
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Female is a great adjective and a poor noun.

such a female thing to say.

/s

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cadekat pawb.social cadekat@pawb.social
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I guess I can see some ways that “lady” or “ladies” could sound sleazy but I’m surprised if this is someone’s first or only association. “Lady” is literally a landed title, the equivalent of “Lord,” and the highly dignified counterpart to “gentleman.”

No no, definitely not what I meant! In some circumstances, it can be sleazy (like "hey ladies").

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Kowowow lemmy.ca Kowowow@lemmy.ca
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"Ladies" can come across as sleazy, imo. And sometimes you're in a situation where the class/status suggested by "lady" ends up sounding sarcastic. "Gals" implies a level of friendship, and "dames" is too old timey. It's a tight rope walk of sounding too familiar/formal, implying old/young, or being insulting/demeaning... I conclude that we need a new word.

I don't know how ladies slipped my mind but I have to agree with you

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Kowowow lemmy.ca Kowowow@lemmy.ca
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Lady? Gal? Feminoid? I think context and tone matter a lot too. I try to stick to pal and comrade these days but it's hard to beat decades of habit.

But foids are known to spike cortisol levels

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Kowowow lemmy.ca Kowowow@lemmy.ca
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Speaking generously, I can see what you mean. But I think people only have this problem when they are used to calling people “girls” far too long. If you shake that bad habit, you won’t find yourself coming into conflict with these terms so often. May I suggest the term “young women” as a highly respectful way to refer to younger folks. And if you are truly in doubt or referring to a mixed grou...

Being in my thirties "young women" feels like I'm trying to play some sort of epstien judo

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Dadifer lemmy.world Dadifer@lemmy.world
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No no, definitely not what I meant! In some circumstances, it can be sleazy (like "hey ladies").

? That is the appropriate greeting.

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I_Fart_Glitter lemmy.world I_Fart_Glitter@lemmy.world
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And just look at that dashing smile. And such good hygiene. He clearly uses his tooth sharpener regularly.

His moogy does it for him.

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