The post in question

PTB, obviously.

Ah yes, Lemmy, so popular with kids it competes with Roblox for the pervs attention

My kid knew about gay people from the day he was born. PTB for sure.

Split on this. The assumption 5 year olds couldn't get this joke because its funny to be in a gay marriage but not yourself gay seems bigoted. Kids could get that just as easily as jokes about straight couples. At the same time rule says no jokes with death or sex. PTB I.M.O.

Edit:
On reflection placing sexuality in the category with drugs, death, and racism seems rough

sex.

It's not talking about sex though. Gay and bi people existing within a marriage has nothing to do with sex.

There is no law forcing sex and marriage to be intertwined, its just an assumption since they normally do. This joke mentions nothing about sex in the marriage, just a play on which genders each in the marriage are attracted to.since most people forget bi people exist

Or even sexuality really, because, once you actually raise your knowledge beyond "basic biology", it becomes eerily obvious that romantic attraction and sexual attraction aren't always in sync.

But regardless of that, why the fuck would you moderate an ONLINE FORUM based on what 3-5 year olds understand? They don't understand taxes, are tax jokes banned? They don't know how to drive, are road rage dad jokes off the list too?

The more I think about this, the more this mod can suck my clit. Am I supposed to disappear because I'm a bisexual person married with a kid? Am I supposed to not exist around my child because I might make a joke about being bisexual? Am I supposed to hide my own bisexuality until my kid is a teenager?

What the fuck is this gatekeeping?

Whenever I go to the store, I see at least 4 or 5 kids begging their parents to let them have an account.

Why is there no acronyms for "everybody sucks" or something?

• bad dad joke

• bad reason for removal

This is your typical "I'm not homophobic, I don't mind gay people, but" person. They don't "mind" gay/bi/lesbian/trans/queer people existing as long as they do it without them needing to acknowledge that existence.

Or to simplify it... they ARE homophobic, but because of current social trends they're not allowed to say it out loud and they don't want to get cancelled.

Gay people existing is political type.

Wtf? 10000% PTB.

Sexuality?????? “Likes to hold hands/be married with girls and/or boys” is not “sexual” and little kids can quite easily get that.

Seriously, is a kid with straight married parents not allowed to know their parents are married/like each other??? Tf

Not sure of any rule violations, but it doesn't feel like what I would think of as a dad joke. Normally I would call dad jokes something that's simple, absurd, maybe a bit punny, and generally gets a groan and head shake more than a laugh. This takes a bit of lateral thought to get, so maybe advanced level dad joke?

There's no requirement that a dad joke must be good to be allowed. In fact, that's kind of the point of a dad joke

Ptb. That the mod doesn't understand the difference between romantic and sexual attraction says a lot about them as a person. It says even more that they expect the jokes to be understandable by a 5yo.

On the bright side, this is Lemmy! Anyone can make a new Dad Jokes community that doesn't have that stupid rule.

But it should at least be in the spirit of a dad joke and this one clearly isn't for me. In fact it's too good of a joke to be a dad joke.

If it was removed for "doesn't fit community" I would 100% agree with the mod.

I'm going to say that's not a dad joke, but it's fucking hilarious. That said, the stated reason for removing it is idiotic.

The joke is good. It's just not a dad joke. That makes it a bad dad joke, but not a bad joke.

married with a kid

Hey, you dropped this: ,

Married with a kid is different than married to a kid haha, but thank you.

Didn’t you get the memo? Anyone not cis, hetero and following gendered stereotypes should never be in the same room as a kid or teen. /s

I agree with the other commenter: it’s finely veiled bigotry.

Exactly, have a guy at work like this, claims hes not homophobic but went on a full on rant about his 8-9 year old kid seeing two guys kissing/making out in front of his flat, I even tried to make him see the homophobia by asking if he would have cared if it was a guy and girl and he confirmed it was mainly about it being two guys..some people.

What does that mean? Most babies have a pretty limited understanding of the world. 😅

I’m queer and he has family members that are LGBT+. He’s known of our existence forever. He has seen his grandfathers kissing since his very start. He’s seen me dating other women. It’s just normal.

"I'm not gay but my husband is' is a regular old dad joke.

Babies can't see any shapes at all for a while:

https://www.aao.org/eye-health/tips-prevention/baby-vision-development-first-year

I kind of get what you're saying, but the idea that a newborn baby would even understand anything more than, "this person smells good and makes nice sounds" is probably a stretch. 😊

I was using exaggeration to make a point. You’re being pedantic.

That point is that gay and bi people are normal. My kid grew up with his mother as a queer woman. It’s normal and not something that needs to be gatekept for children.

I'm assuming they are gay and have a child.

PTB?

Power Tripping Bastard :)

Kids not knowing about sexuality and therefor the absolute basics of consent only helps child abusers, and the earlier you ingrain the concept of consent, the better off they will be later in life.

Basic knowledge about this thematic complex has to be introduced in the first few school years to make sure they

• know when somethings iffy, because all child abusers tell their victims that this is ok and completely normal
• know who to talk to in case of abuse, which must per definition include basic knowledge of what abuse entails in age-adapted language.

Hiding these basic facts about life itself only makes bigots feel better and child abusers very happy.

Another one of the bigots who think mentioning anything not straight is both sexual and political - PTB

Seems to me that even if you're trying to keep all mentions of sex/gender out of DadJokes (what is a Dad anyway and how is he different from a Mom?) you should at least make a suggestion that OP send their post over to UncleJokes, which needs more content.

So you wanted to say kids do not need to know that there are people out there that do not conform to the mom/dad scheme, even when taking sex explicitly out of the equation? This is probably even worse, because it makes you as bigoted as the mod this thread is about.

What's everyone so upset about? Clearly, the 3-6 year-olds on Lemmy have been protected!

...from knowledge about the existence of gay and/or bi people.

I agree, we need to ban all hetero representation so children don’t see it.

No more talks about mums and dads, ban any couples from interacting together in public spaces, remove them from all media.

I agree, we need to ban all hetero representation so children don’t see it.

No more talks about moms and dads, ban any hetero couples from interacting together in public spaces, remove them from all media.

I sometimes worry that the straight, cis folks aint right :/

Scrolling through the community quickly, there were like 3 jokes mentioning a husband's wife, one mentioning a car's manual transmission stalling, and one that's over a week old that includes the word "ass' which is directly breaking the no-profanity rule, yet somehow the concept of a gay couple is too confusing for a 6 year old? Oh and also a joke about "Cherenkov radiation" which I am 1000% confident no 6 year old on earth has ever heard of.

PTB

You are correct that I’m not right, but just for different reasons.

Sure is weird how for some reason people never mean this when they say kids shouldn’t be taught about sexuality 🤔

These days, both the straights and the straits are not OK.

I clocked Bert and Ernie as a gay couple as a five year old.

Maybe people should be reporting those other posts mentioning heterosexual couples to make a point.

I've reviewed the community's moderator log, and that is something they commonly do, in fact.