Unmatched someone: I was talking about how the movie Avatar is a blatant allegory for native/indigenous populations and the person got offended that I would "put real life events into a movie about blue people"

Been unmatched: the person had a series of 4 almost identical selfies but each one had different anime boys edited in as if they were hanging out (amazing bit. Perfect joke) and my opening line was "i hate when people have only group photos. It makes it so difficult to tell when one I matched with". I was called an idiot and unmatched within 5 minutes.

Me two ugly and dumb

In her introduction she made it a point to mention that she’s an INTP and wanted to know what type I was. I simply said that those types of personality tests aren’t really my thing. I got a reply back, something to the effect of “Well thanks for showing up front what a toxic and hateful human being you are!”

So yeah guys, sorry about being so toxic and hateful for not being into personality tests.

Lol, I used to work for a big corporation which made these tests (16 personalities in specific) mandatory during job training. After I debunked that shite as bogus I got the afternoon off.

In another life I matched with this girl, picked her up, no joke the first thing she said to me in person after just meeting her was that she loved me. I just picked her up and saw her for the first time. I dropped her off right there. I didnt use it much after that so I never got to shine and have someone unmatch me.

i have a couple of women on dating apps who repeatedly match me then accusing me of being someone else and threaten to report me. I block them.

also lots of them IRL and on dating apps refuse to interact with me further once they find out where I grew up or that my parents aren't educated. because that means i'm not from a 'good family'. I also find this totally insane... but I guess it's fairly normal for people to judge you based on your parents/hometown?

I will say the weirdest fight I ever got in in a relationship/dating was a Russian woman who lost it on me because I eat breakfast cereal. She went on this rant about how cereal/granola is for children and grown men can only eat toast, fruit, or eggs/sausage breakfast. She was so weird, but a every Russian woman I have dated has really backwards ideas about gender roles and they also disapproved of my lack of heavy drinking.

Wtf? I feel like where someone is from matters the least out of any dating quality when searching for a partner.

Honestly if anything growing up a certain way and then no longer being that shows growth and willingness to change. Both good qualities.

Vegan kinkster unmatching people with a leather kink.

In the sense the poster is talking about you're correct mostly, but when you're marrying outside the country/culture it is harder and may not be worth it for some.

according to the women I meet you can't ever change. probably because they themselves haven't ever changed.

like I have had people argue with me that I am a Catholic because I was born into a catholic family and baptized, even though I haven't ever been to church since I was like 10 years old. they tell me I'm lying to myself when I say I'm agnostic/atheist. It's weird.

Even if you were, you'd probably still get rejected for not being whatever arbitrary letter combination she was looking for.

ive never used one but I knew a guy who did not like who killed roger rabbit because it was to unrealistic.

I worked for one of those companies that paid like 15k per employee to spend like half a day figuring out which of 5 types you are. Somehow I got all 5 and confused quite a few people.

It's weird when kink people kink shame others

I couldn't take off next month and fly to another continent

About 3 lines in back and forth the girl said "by the way, I don't and won't ever give head". I said thats kind of a deal breaker and she unmatched me.

A girl canceled a date once because I'm not on Facebook or anything else. (I asked her out in person).

She combed through socials as a kind of background check and interpreted my absence as suspicious. Modern problems.

Pretty emotional for a T

I have no way to confirm accuracy but this made me wonder how much cow hide is thrown away and not made into leather. About 15% apparently ends up not being worth the shipping and such so it ends up in landfills. Millions of cows having wasted parts, all because every American doesn't have a proper leather kink... Sheesh

it was a couple. we vibed, i stayed over one night at their house, got drunk at their bar and set a bunch of alarms on their Google nest. it was really nice to experience something that was entirely my fault

A wiser person than I, I would have tried to discuss it and convince them they couldn't possibly be. All the while thinking I'm putting myself down and saying reasons I'm flawed and them somehow taking it as me being kind and vulnerable. Relatonshps are probably better that way. Where I take the I out of them /s

got a match and first question was if I was an EU citizen, I am, but decided to reply "no" just for fun. Then she asked me if I was here legally and on the path of citizenship, I replied yes just to see where this was going.

"alright, contact me again when you're an EU citizen"

My last relationship ended because I told her I used to smoke weed. When I met her, I had already been about 18 months without a smoke, we didn't start dating until 6 months after first getting to know each others. So by the time things got "official" I had been about 2 years without a single smoke. But according to her, that was a deal breaker and apparently people can't change, I think she was trying to tell me that I'll start smoking at any moment now.

Well, I guess she was right, since last weekend I smoked two joints, one on Friday and one on the Saturday. But this was about 14 months after we broke up. But yeah, she was totally correct with that one. The only good thing was that we were officially dating for like 6 to 8 weeks, so it wasn't like a huge loss and devastation.

Anyway, that sort of put me off from dating, probably for good. I decided that if someone knocks on my door and tells me that we are now dating, I'll try it out. But I won't be seeking anything anymore. Its not worth the hassle at this point, I'm getting too old and I'm a introvert anyway. I'm fine with hanging alone at home, I can listen to whatever music I want, I can watch whatever movie/tv-show I want, I can play whatever game I like, I come and go however I want.

set a bunch of alarms on their Google nest.

Whats that?

Even if I wanted to play along, I wouldn’t be able to answer immediately and have to take the test just to find out.

Seems a good way to make red lines clear, no? Personally i think head is just so.. artificial

Nest. Home automation system, if i remember right.

What's interesting is that both perspectives are valid. Of course she could have asked why you don't have social media, and when you spout off about privacy and big tech then she would cancel for a different reason.

16 Pesonalities probably? It depends on your mood of course, which answers you choose. But given that, and two runs, the two profiles were surprisingly accurate in my case. Even learned a few new things about myself. If you take it with a grain of salt, it's not a bad thing.

This person took it too seriously, obviously.

I can't remember anyone giving me any particular reason

I mean, the Catholic kids who had to take CCD class after school tried to tell me the same thing, but we were 7. I’ve never had an adult tell me that parental religion is inescapable.

I don't disagree with the first part. The second I couldn't be more on a different page with ya. I like getting head as much as any sex act. More than most other things in fact. I could deep dive into why but absolutely nobody cares.

Giving head as a sex act is a physical manifestation of putting someone before yourself. There a lots of valid reasons why someone wouldn’t want to give/receive it, but the mechanic at work here I think is how that was the first thing she decided to share. Kind of a weird line in the sand to draw immediately lol

I think I'm too poor and/or stupid to understand any of that. I'm just imagining that house from the Simpsons, the one with the voice of Pierce Brosnan

I care.

Wtf!? I have type 2 diabetes and I still can't resist some peanut butter crunch on occasion

Soo offensive to blue people! Check your privilege and shit.

This is more of a TellLemmy phrased as a AskLemmy.

I have had women match with me just to reject me in DMs.

Or you’d spend a nice weekend configuring a new Gentoo system

Valid take btw ^

I like to answer the questions I ask so people have a frame of reference for what I'm looking for in an answer.

It must be hard out there for people with a citizenship kink.

unmatched because i had a verified check mark and they didn't know how to get one (neither did i)

ULTRAHOUSE 3000

Let's hear it. I care too.

kink shaming is my kink

“No, I’m not going to use it for crime, I just need a realistic passport because my girlfriend is kind of a freak.”

I dunno. Giving head almost feels selfish to me, like I’m vamping their chi and banking it.

I get direct control of their pleasure epicenter and a front-row seat for every orgasm I cultivate and (harvest? extract? whatever).

And aside from getting to feast on their pleasure, getting excellent sensory feedback (body, scent, taste, etc), tbh it’s just hugely fulfilling to take the intimacy they trusted me with and give it back as a memorable experience.

I’m competitive, and basically a succubus, but IMO anything less than partner-centric sex leaves too much on the table to be worthwhile. QED

Selfish? For giving head? They’re a lucky guy/gal