because i realize i don't want my inbox to be full of people mad at me.

Protip for lemmy devs: if there was a 'disable inbox replies' button I wouldn't do this.

I think on voyager, you can disable notifications for posts/comments.

Nice. AFAICT there is no such option on lemmy.world in a web browser.

I don't hate Canada just to be clear. Yes, the people are lovely. For one thing, Canada's treatment of it's natives. I found this article that can explain my gripe much better than I can so check that out if it interests you. Also, I'll admit some of it is me being petty, but Pierre Poilievre would have won had he not alligned himself with Trump. Than Canada would have been in a very bad place as well. Lastly, Canada isn't much more affordable than the US. Y'all got healthcare though so I'll give you that one. I also like Coffee Crisp.

They're great, and I don't shit talk them, but sometimes you meet completely irrational people that are angry and full of hate. I got shit on a lot for trying to explain how politics really work in the US to be met with America hate and you're to blame for everything and we have our own problems. You can read about the racist twat in my comments, some Chinese--Canadian that is totally cool at shitting on people in America and loves to shit on Japanese people then calls me racist.

I'm like chill out, you're basically barking at people locked in a prison and telling them why don't you do something about it.

Sigh 六四事件?

I mean I know a lot of people on Lemmy are more privacy conscious and one practice I myself have done in that regard is periodically both purging all posts and comments and deleteing the account itself and making a fresh one.

idk

Every so often I'll go to the tail end of my acocunt history and simply delete anything that isn't particularly interesting.

Simply privacy.

Right. That makes total sense. But what I’m taking about is comments made on a post or comment that merely a few hours old.

I don't usually delete my comments but mistakes happen. Even if I notice and delete them immediately, the trace of my comment lives there, because Fediverse. Basically you cannot put back in Genie once it's out of bottle.

If more downvotes than upvotes, it's unpopular. To the bin with it.

I’ve done it because I’ve realized I misread something in the comment I replied to, making myself look stupid 🤷‍♂️

Okay that a fair reason and makes things make more sense. I appreciate the response!

Unpopular doesn’t mean it’s wrong. Stand by your opinions. And if rh think here’s a chance you’re wrong, allow people to change it. Deleting the comment doesn’t help anything.

there's a lot of paranoid mouthy kids here

Fair point. This helps.

Sometimes I accidentally reply to the wrong comment.

I expected deleted comment chains

Hey thats me!

On piefed you can give a reason something is deleted. Nifty feature.

I habitually delete about a month back to try and reduce the number of things that taken together could ID me. I’m not a particularly unique person but I’m sure with enough comments someone could get close.

Oh that’s cool. Maybe that will come to voyager soon?

Fair point. But I’m taking about comments that are minutes to hours old. I know I didn’t mention that and should have.

Doesn't even have to be something dumb. Sometimes I write a comment, post it, and then think "Do I really want to get involved in this?"

I make a new accounts and dump the old one. Either abandon it or delete it.

I've had lots of comments get downvoted because other people are wrong and I'm right (not always, sometimes it's the other way around) or because Lemmy insists an issue is black and white when there is nuance. Why should I delete when they're the ones that suck?

Internet points are meaningless and they're forgotten about in a week anyway. Hell, unlike Reddit, they don't even get tallied on your account; they are entirely per post, so even if I were trying to impress anyone, there's no lasting effect of a downvote. It's edifying when the zeitgeist agrees with me, but when they don't, that doesn't change the reason I was moved to comment in the first place.

I don't think Blorp supports this yet, does it?

I don't see any screenshots -- where did you post them?

Will you delete this comment? It has now more downvotes than upvotes

Sometimes my first reaction to shit-takes is anger. I usually don't want that to be my comment. I'm trying to stay empathetic and have a constructive discussion, because I do not want Lemmy to become like Reddit and I think empathy and arguing in good faith is what makes the difference.

So I'm usually only letting the anger out when my opposite is arguing in bad faith.

In addition to other comments, I've encountered a few weirdoes on here that repeatedly ask the same question and then delete it afterwards. No one is quite sure why they do this but they're easy to block

I generally strike it all out, add an edit line, explain that I misread something, and apologize.

That’s just who I am though. I’m not saying you should do it, but I’m suggesting an alternate action. I’d rather be honest that I fucked up than hide it because it shows growth, and I also hope that it encourages other to realize it’s ok to make a mistake and reflect.

I think enduring this now and then is healthy if you meant what you said

You gotta balance standing your ground when your stance is unpopular with understanding the mindset of others

Of course block anybody badgering you to the point of harassment

I usually only delete if I replied to the wrong comment or accidentally replied to the main post instead of a comment. There are some good reasons.

Also if I comment and then read down and I see I duplicated someone.

The reasoning is fair but it kinda sucks for the rest of us. Like, maybe you could roll a new account? I'm fairly certain your posts would be archived and retrievable no? Just inconvenient for regular people who don't care who you are anyway.

What is that? Another client?

I read under 3 replies, that you don't think they explain the frequency.
But they're the answers given by most and also the one that I would give. Maybe they do explain the frequency. Maybe our communities here are just more full of self doubt or self reflection than other websites.

Honestly I do both. I’m 90% sure it’s part of why I was shadow banned on Reddit (along with my use of old Reddit).

I see a lot of differing reasons people do it, all of which are legit. I wonder if it might make sense for Lemmy to add an optional delete reason field.

I delete if I made the comment in error, otherwise no

It’s unfortunately part of the the lemmy culture now. A lot of people instinctively react and post without thinking, which they later regret. We’ve lost a lot of critical thinking when it comes to the internet culture, so here we are.

Sometimes I do it because I comment in the wrong post or wrong comment thread.

DELETED

You rang?

In piefed I swear I can see the replies in my inbox after the comment is deleted by the user as I sometimes click on them and they show as deleted in the post comments.

There's a subset of fedi users who delete their comments after a while to save resources for their instance. It's probably not the majority of what you encounter, but there's enough that a lot of fedi software supports it as a feature.

BLOCKED.

Yeah. I think it’s this too. Or at least a lot of it.

I usually get to that point after writing but just before posting.