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StillAlive piefed.world StillAlive@piefed.world
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BigTrout75 lemmy.world BigTrout75@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-06-16
#2 · Quote Reply

Slow news day

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bamboo lemmy.blahaj.zone bamboo@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2023-06-20
#3 · Quote Reply

Slow news day

Clearly the author pulled a Slowpoke card

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VitoRobles lemmy.today VitoRobles@lemmy.today
Joined: 2025-01-26
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I don't care. Why would you want to be with a woman who isn't accepting of pop culture?

Even grandmas play Pokemon Go GTFO of here.

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DosDude Site Admin Joined: 2026-02-16
#5 · Quote Reply

I don't care. Why would you want to be with a woman who isn't accepting of pop culture? Even grandmas play Pokemon Go GTFO of here.

Be thankful that the app is filtering out the bad apples in advanced.

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misk piefed.social misk@piefed.social
Joined: 2025-03-15
#6 · (edited) Quote Reply

I don’t know any single guys that collect Pokémon cards. I know two guys that collect Pokémon cards, are married and have children. Maybe women don’t want autistic children because likelihood of that is admittedly increased in this small sample. They’re missing out but you can’t force people to like something they don’t.

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🇰 🌀 🇱 🇦 🇳 🇦 🇰 🇮 pawb.social Kolanaki@pawb.social
Joined: 2024-10-06
#7 · Quote Reply

Is there a dating app just for geeks and nerds? Easy as hell to find like-minded men; I haven't talked to any like-minded women since high school. I don't really like hanging out with super serious people. They never laugh at my jokes.

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RobotToaster mander.xyz RobotToaster@mander.xyz
Joined: 2023-09-13
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Wasn't that the app that leaked a massive database of women's IDs?

Just checked, it happened twice. https://consumerrights.wiki/w/Tea_Dating_Advice

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Tundra sh.itjust.works Tundra@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2025-06-30
#9 · (edited) Quote Reply

Is there a dating app just for geeks and nerds? Easy as hell to find like-minded men; I haven't talked to any like-minded women since high school. I don't really like hanging out with super serious people. They never laugh at my jokes.

https://alovoa.com/

It has an fdroid application and their whole thing is about being open source and ad free, so I assume the people using it are one of us

https://f-droid.org/packages/com.alovoa.expo/

*edit

the app is a waste of time, fails to create an account but you can on the website. then fails to log in.

stick to the website and create a webapp for it

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FatVegan leminal.space FatVegan@leminal.space
Joined: 2025-11-05
#10 · Quote Reply

I don't care. Why would you want to be with a woman who isn't accepting of pop culture? Even grandmas play Pokemon Go GTFO of here.

Because it's dumb? Idk.

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misk piefed.social misk@piefed.social
Joined: 2025-03-15
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Wasn't that the app that leaked a massive database of women's IDs? Just checked, it happened twice. https://consumerrights.wiki/w/Tea_Dating_Advice

I think that leak is probably why this kind of analysis is possible at all.

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atro_city fedia.io atro_city@fedia.io
Joined: 2023-08-05
#12 · (edited) Quote Reply

Imagine this app existing for the opposite sex.

How is this even implemented? How do you keep a certain sex off of the app? Especially trans people, what do they do with them? And non-binary people too.

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sensation (she/they) sh.itjust.works sensation@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2026-07-15
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Wasn't that the app that leaked a massive database of women's IDs? Just checked, it happened twice. https://consumerrights.wiki/w/Tea_Dating_Advice

Thank you for introducing me to this website.

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Aussiemandeus aussie.zone Aussiemandeus@aussie.zone
Joined: 2023-07-31
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I don’t know any single guys that collect Pokémon cards. I know two guys that collect Pokémon cards, are married and have children. Maybe women don’t want autistic children because likelihood of that is admittedly increased in this small sample. They’re missing out but you can’t force people to like something they don’t.

I'm not sure what you're being down votes for.

I assume people read your post as "people who collect pokemon cards are autistic " but i assumed it was the two people you know who collect cards and are married are both autistic hence mentioning your small sample size

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misk piefed.social misk@piefed.social
Joined: 2025-03-15
#15 · (edited) Quote Reply

I'm not sure what you're being down votes for. I assume people read your post as "people who collect pokemon cards are autistic " but i assumed it was the two people you know who collect cards and are married are both autistic hence mentioning your small sample size

My original comment was a bit more direct so I updated it to clarify a little and you probably read that version.

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Cypher aussie.zone Cypher@aussie.zone
Joined: 2023-06-14
#16 · Quote Reply

The data these women are spilling on men is outrageous, they’re putting up full names, birthdays, photos that often identify addresses and making claims that are straight up defamatory.

It needs to be shut down as the users have no right to be sharing others information in this way.

Before anyone throws around accusations I’m married and I’m not featured on this disgusting app.

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mHtt lemmy.ca mHtt@lemmy.ca
Joined: 2026-08-10
#17 · Quote Reply

shit attracts shit nothing new here.

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Assassassin lemmy.dbzer0.com Assassassin@lemmy.dbzer0.com
Joined: 2025-09-26
#18 · Quote Reply

Because it's dumb? Idk.

You're dumb

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Smaile lemmy.ca Smaile@lemmy.ca
Joined: 2026-01-28
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https://alovoa.com/ It has an fdroid application and their whole thing is about being open source and ad free, so I assume the people using it are one of us https://f-droid.org/packages/com.alovoa.expo/ *edit the app is a waste of time, fails to create an account but you can on the website. then fails to log in. stick to the website and create a webapp for it

Hmmm, better chance this thing will work then a lot of others.

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mystrawberrymind piefed.ca mystrawberrymind@piefed.ca
Joined: 2025-12-11
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I don’t know any single guys that collect Pokémon cards. I know two guys that collect Pokémon cards, are married and have children. Maybe women don’t want autistic children because likelihood of that is admittedly increased in this small sample. They’re missing out but you can’t force people to like something they don’t.

I’m sure if two people are dating and one says they like pokemon, it’s cool haha whatever. But if the dating profile is all the other person has to go off of, then they can make assumptions like, well he could be too childish or too nerdy, etc. lol

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DoucheBagMcSwag lemmy.dbzer0.com DoucheBagMcSwag@lemmy.dbzer0.com
Joined: 2023-07-01
#21 · Quote Reply

Pokemon - ✅

Pokemon TCG reselling - 🚩

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dil piefed.zip dil@piefed.zip
Joined: 2025-06-16
#22 · Quote Reply

Type of girl that uses this app is not one im interested in, none of my friends do, their tea app is their gcs and it's prob more effective

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BillyTheKid2 lemmy.ca BillyTheKid2@lemmy.ca
Joined: 2025-11-03
#23 · Quote Reply

Imagine this app existing for the opposite sex. How is this even implemented? How do you keep a certain sex off of the app? Especially trans people, what do they do with them? And non-binary people too.

They require video or id confirmation. It's creepy as hell. Either a "video selfie" or give photo id

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BillyTheKid2 lemmy.ca BillyTheKid2@lemmy.ca
Joined: 2025-11-03
#24 · Quote Reply

Because it's dumb? Idk.

So is smoking but as long as they don't blow the smoke it my face it doesn't bother me.

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Captain Aggravated sh.itjust.works captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2023-06-20
#25 · Quote Reply

I don't care. Why would you want to be with a woman who isn't accepting of pop culture? Even grandmas play Pokemon Go GTFO of here.

It's more about their hobby of defamation and libel.

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HubertManne piefed.social HubertManne@piefed.social
Joined: 2025-03-13
#26 · Quote Reply

Is there a dating app just for geeks and nerds? Easy as hell to find like-minded men; I haven't talked to any like-minded women since high school. I don't really like hanging out with super serious people. They never laugh at my jokes.

conventions and pen and paper rpg groups are the best bet.

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Kairos lemmy.today LodeMike@lemmy.today
Joined: 2023-12-26
#27 · Quote Reply

The data these women are spilling on men is outrageous, they’re putting up full names, birthdays, photos that often identify addresses and making claims that are straight up defamatory. It needs to be shut down as the users have no right to be sharing others information in this way. Before anyone throws around accusations I’m married and I’m not featured on this disgusting app.

If men did the same thing to women, people would have a much different reaction.

And I get that sexism makes it completely reasonable for women to act differently and/or defend themselves but that's not what this is.

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PumaStoleMyBluff lemmy.world PumaStoleMyBluff@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-08-04
#28 · Quote Reply

Type of girl that uses this app is not one im interested in, none of my friends do, their tea app is their gcs and it's prob more effective

...glasgow coma scale?

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Ajen sh.itjust.works Ajen@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2023-06-14
#29 · Quote Reply

Rage bait. Yes, the app is creepy, but the first actual quote the article gives is in this paragraph:

And then there’s the phrase. Post after post across the app uses some version of the same line: “he collects women like Pokémon cards.”

None of the quotes truly support the headline, imo.

Also, that app is creepy af and should probably be illegal on privacy grounds.

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AngryCommieKender lemmy.world AngryCommieKender@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-08-02
#30 · Quote Reply

Type of girl that uses this app is not one im interested in, none of my friends do, their tea app is their gcs and it's prob more effective

Global Cdefense Sinitiative?

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droppedtacos lemmy.world droppedtacos@lemmy.world
Joined: 2025-12-19
#31 · Quote Reply

Type of girl that uses this app is not one im interested in, none of my friends do, their tea app is their gcs and it's prob more effective

Graded Combat Sport?

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JackbyDev programming.dev JackbyDev@programming.dev
Joined: 2023-06-13
#32 · Quote Reply

Rage bait. Yes, the app is creepy, but the first actual quote the article gives is in this paragraph: And then there’s the phrase. Post after post across the app uses some version of the same line: “he collects women like Pokémon cards.” None of the quotes truly support the headline, imo. Also, that app is creepy af and should probably be illegal on privacy grounds.

Yeah, that part really shows the entire methodology of the article is bullshit.

And then there’s the phrase. Post after post across the app uses some version of the same line: “he collects women like Pokémon cards.” That’s not a joke somebody made once. That’s the app’s house insult, used so often it might as well ship with the keyboard. The man on the receiving end doesn’t even have to play. You could have never touched a card in your life and still catch this one.

They're proving that this instance of a negative mention of Pokemon doesn't even have to do with someone being interested in the hobby which is the entire premise of the article. But they never mention filtering for this, and then just go on to say that liking Pokemon is the worst hobby stats wise. Not that I'm expecting perfect methodology for something like this, but this is a pretty fucking glaring issue they even openly admit but somehow don't see the problem with it.

Saying someone collects women like Pokemon cards is just an insult about someone being a player, it doesn't have anything to do with someone's hobbies. It could easily be said as collecting women like any other commonly collected item.

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Auli lemmy.ca Auli@lemmy.ca
Joined: 2023-06-17
#33 · Quote Reply

Because it's dumb? Idk.

And routing for sports teams is dumb and collecting cars is dumb. I mean I could go on and on.

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dil piefed.zip dil@piefed.zip
Joined: 2025-06-16
#34 · (edited) Quote Reply

...glasgow coma scale?

If my point gets across, idc, if I'm using any social media (including lemmy) I'm probably high af looking for a distraction.

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dil piefed.zip dil@piefed.zip
Joined: 2025-06-16
#35 · Quote Reply

Global Cdefense Sinitiative?

Group Chats

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dil piefed.zip dil@piefed.zip
Joined: 2025-06-16
#36 · Quote Reply

...glasgow coma scale?

Commenting on tiktok has probably made me devolve tho, wouldnt be suprised if using that app makes you show signs of brain damage

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BCsven lemmy.ca BCsven@lemmy.ca
Joined: 2023-06-17
#37 · Quote Reply

If you’re a man, you can’t download it,

How does that work?

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BCsven lemmy.ca BCsven@lemmy.ca
Joined: 2023-06-17
#38 · Quote Reply

Type of girl that uses this app is not one im interested in, none of my friends do, their tea app is their gcs and it's prob more effective

I'm old so maybe not relevant, but I think all those dating apps are stupid.

One, the dating app provider doesn't want you to find a match because you'd stop using the app, they want endless engagent.

Two, I hear my younger coworkers and youth say they couldn't find a match, because none of them were good looking enough. So all the suggestions they ignored based on a picture. This really isn't how you find a good life partner, this skips interaction and personality connections that you get in live encounters.

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I Cast Fist programming.dev ICastFist@programming.dev
Joined: 2023-06-22
#39 · (edited) Quote Reply

I'm old so maybe not relevant, but I think all those dating apps are stupid. One, the dating app provider doesn't want you to find a match because you'd stop using the app, they want endless engagent. Two, I hear my younger coworkers and youth say they couldn't find a match, because none of them were good looking enough. So all the suggestions they ignored based on a picture. This really isn't ...

this skips interaction and personality connections that you get in live encounters.

See, the problem is that those people aren't going out enough to interact with strangers. Men are increasingly unlikely to make a move because there's both the fear of rejection and the fear of an overreaction.

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dil piefed.zip dil@piefed.zip
Joined: 2025-06-16
#40 · Quote Reply

I'm old so maybe not relevant, but I think all those dating apps are stupid. One, the dating app provider doesn't want you to find a match because you'd stop using the app, they want endless engagent. Two, I hear my younger coworkers and youth say they couldn't find a match, because none of them were good looking enough. So all the suggestions they ignored based on a picture. This really isn't ...

It's not a dating app, its for like exposing men and talking about it, only woman can join and its id verified, but all the woman ik discuss all that amongst themselves and don't need an app, they already have community. I guess it is for ppl who sleep with strangers using those apps? idk, will never be my problem lol.

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ikidd lemmy.dbzer0.com ikidd@lemmy.dbzer0.com
Joined: 2026-04-23
#41 · Quote Reply

If you’re a man, you can’t download it, How does that work?

Your phone explodes in your hand when it detects testosterone or the patriarchy.

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