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TotallynotJessica lemmy.blahaj.zone TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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natebluehooves pawb.social natebluehooves@pawb.social
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I recently cut my parents out of my life after trying one last time to talk to them. I cannot stress enough how hard having no hobbies or interests fucks me up. like I thought I liked pc games, but it turns out i was just using it as an escape.

now that there’s nobody over my shoulder to get angry at me for my preferences I don’t know how to function.

edit: a word >~<

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Mora pawb.social Mora@pawb.social
Joined: 2024-03-10
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I recently cut my parents out of my life after trying one last time to talk to them. I cannot stress enough how hard having no hobbies or interests fucks me up. like I thought I liked pc games, but it turns out i was just using it as an escape. now that there’s nobody over my shoulder to get angry at me for my preferences I don’t know how to function. edit: a word &gt;~&lt;

I can relate with that and it really sucks. So while I can't give any advice because I too am still in the 'trying to figure shit out' phase, I offer the only comfort I can give right now: _We are not alone in this._ā¤ļø

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Eq0 literature.cafe Eq0@literature.cafe
Joined: 2023-08-01
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I recently cut my parents out of my life after trying one last time to talk to them. I cannot stress enough how hard having no hobbies or interests fucks me up. like I thought I liked pc games, but it turns out i was just using it as an escape. now that there’s nobody over my shoulder to get angry at me for my preferences I don’t know how to function. edit: a word &gt;~&lt;

As a temporary fix, I would advise a ā€œfake it till you make itā€ approach. Think about something you would like to like, and dive into it. In a while, you can reconsider and either keep going or drop it for something else.

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natebluehooves pawb.social natebluehooves@pawb.social
Joined: 2023-06-03
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As a temporary fix, I would advise a ā€œfake it till you make itā€ approach. Think about something you would like to like, and dive into it. In a while, you can reconsider and either keep going or drop it for something else.

NGL that sounds like a good idea. i’ve got a backpack and stuff for hiking. never got around to it yet but that may be fun!

I have an AI rig at home but that topic gets you tarred and feathered in current year. not the best hobby anyways because it’s a PITA to get performance out of.

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eurodyne piefed.world eurodyne@piefed.world
Joined: 2026-07-25
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Sorry you’re having a rough day. ā¤ļø

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Dave2 lemmy.blahaj.zone Dave2@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2024-07-31
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not very related to this but one time I was going out of the dormitory and my high school dorm had us writing the date and hour with our signature whenever we left and when we were back, and while I was writing it I realised I didnt know which day it was (neither did I think to check my phone, would be rude mid conversation with the dorm teacher) so I asked him which day it was, he told me and I wrote the day, then I realised I didnt know the month (as number, of course I knew the month!). That room was so incredibly silent.

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maria ~ lemmy.blahaj.zone Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2023-07-05
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wow that is accurate for too many peeps at once.

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gandalf_die_12te lemmy.blahaj.zone gandalf_der_12te@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2024-06-10
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NGL that sounds like a good idea. i’ve got a backpack and stuff for hiking. never got around to it yet but that may be fun! I have an AI rig at home but that topic gets you tarred and feathered in current year. not the best hobby anyways because it’s a PITA to get performance out of.

put the tar in a jar and sell it, easy source of income

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zener_diode feddit.org zener_diode@feddit.org
Joined: 2025-04-06
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As a temporary fix, I would advise a ā€œfake it till you make itā€ approach. Think about something you would like to like, and dive into it. In a while, you can reconsider and either keep going or drop it for something else.

Wait, that's "faking it"?

Well shit, that's how like ... 80% of my hobbies started. The rest are from other people who pulled me in.

How do normal people get hobbies?

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eepydeeby lemmy.blahaj.zone eepydeeby@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2025-03-15
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I recently cut my parents out of my life after trying one last time to talk to them. I cannot stress enough how hard having no hobbies or interests fucks me up. like I thought I liked pc games, but it turns out i was just using it as an escape. now that there’s nobody over my shoulder to get angry at me for my preferences I don’t know how to function. edit: a word &gt;~&lt;

It takes a long time to bring down the fortress, but youll get it done brick by brick šŸ¤

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Eq0 literature.cafe Eq0@literature.cafe
Joined: 2023-08-01
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Wait, that's "faking it"? Well shit, that's how like ... 80% of my hobbies started. The rest are from other people who pulled me in. How do normal people get hobbies?

Some people immediately burn with passion about a random thing and are immediately 100% invested

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Chakravanti multiverse.soulism.net Chakravanti@multiverse.soulism.net
Joined: 2026-07-13
#13 · Quote Reply

Daria

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dihutenosa piefed.social dihutenosa@piefed.social
Joined: 2025-06-04
#14 · Quote Reply

English is not my naive language. What does "how they see themselves as a person" mean? Probably not about mirrors or selfies…

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Chakravanti multiverse.soulism.net Chakravanti@multiverse.soulism.net
Joined: 2026-07-13
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Some people immediately burn with passion about a random thing and are immediately 100% invested

Tic Tac K.O. - Dragons vs. Unicorns

Well out of print but Noble Knights has a good one.

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Gabadabs lemmy.blahaj.zone Gabadabs@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2024-03-01
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English is not my naive language. What does "how they see themselves as a person" mean? Probably not about mirrors or selfies…

Their persepctive on who they are, their own identity. Do they like themselves, what do they feel their place in the world is?

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dihutenosa piefed.social dihutenosa@piefed.social
Joined: 2025-06-04
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Their persepctive on who they are, their own identity. Do they like themselves, what do they feel their place in the world is?

Hoo boy, that's a set of really hard questions, I'd struggle immensely with them, although I'm well-adjusted to my life.

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