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sarron2z lemmy.zip sarron2z@lemmy.zip
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schipelblorp sh.itjust.works schipelblorp@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2026-05-16
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Listening to sex workers, this is what the job can be for some of them at least.

And if you watch old French or Italian films, you'll know sex work can be sub rosa juggling multiple generous boyfriends.

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Starf4rged reddthat.com Starf4rged@reddthat.com
Joined: 2024-12-22
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Becoming emotionally dependent on someone you pay for intimacy is an extremely precarious thing, not just for the client but also the seller.
Please do not give yourself or them the risk of being tempted by that.
Go to a community center instead, volunteer at an animal center, go to a soup kitchen, donate some clothes at a shelter.
All these places can give you a sense of belonging if you are seeking a genuine connection, don't worry about being desperate, as long as you respect peoples boundaries it will get better with time.

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jaybone lemmy.zip jaybone@lemmy.zip
Joined: 2025-02-08
#4 · Quote Reply

Lemmy responses to comics always make things light hearted and humorous.

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darthsundhaft piefed.social darthsundhaft@piefed.social
Joined: 2026-01-19
#5 · Quote Reply

Can't say I haven't fantasized about doing something like this before.

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Solumbran lemmy.world Solumbran@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-06-14
#6 · Quote Reply

Lemmy responses to comics always make things light hearted and humorous.

"I don't like it when people think about reality"

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Blurntout lemmy.ca Blurntout@lemmy.ca
Joined: 2025-04-21
#7 · Quote Reply

This one’s for free but you gotta pay it forward

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hakunawazo lemmy.world hakunawazo@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-10-02
#8 · Quote Reply

It changes the tone of the comic whether the background consists of damaged wall plaster or cum stains.

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hoshikarakitaridia lemmy.world hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-31
#9 · Quote Reply

Becoming emotionally dependent on someone you pay for intimacy is an extremely precarious thing, not just for the client but also the seller. Please do not give yourself or them the risk of being tempted by that. Go to a community center instead, volunteer at an animal center, go to a soup kitchen, donate some clothes at a shelter. All these places can give you a sense of belonging if you are s...

Tbf that's not a hug, and that doesn't solve the issue of wanting a hug.

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rockSlayer lemmy.blahaj.zone rockSlayer@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2025-02-24
#10 · Quote Reply

I'm offering free hugs for all in need

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GreenKnight23 lemmy.world GreenKnight23@lemmy.world
Joined: 2024-09-21
#11 · Quote Reply

Can't say I haven't fantasized about doing something like this before.

same, and I'm married.

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StillAlive piefed.world StillAlive@piefed.world
Joined: 2025-11-09
#12 · Quote Reply

same, and I'm married.

Bruh

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GreenKnight23 lemmy.world GreenKnight23@lemmy.world
Joined: 2024-09-21
#13 · Quote Reply

Bruh

I love my wife. don't think otherwise. our intimacy is just...nonexistent.

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dontbelievethis sh.itjust.works dontbelievethis@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2025-06-07
#14 · Quote Reply

I'm offering free hugs for all in need

So close yet so far away.

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tacosanonymous lemmy.blahaj.zone tacosanonymous@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2026-07-31
#15 · Quote Reply

If you have to ask, you can’t afford it.

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Carl sh.itjust.works CanadianCarl@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2023-08-04
#16 · Quote Reply

I'm offering free hugs for all in need

I can't afford that.

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ByteJunk lemmy.world ByteJunk@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-04
#17 · Quote Reply

Tbf that's not a hug, and that doesn't solve the issue of wanting a hug.

Hugs are important because of what they mean - care, support, belonging.

Paying someone to do it won't solve it either. You can't replace the work and time of building up trusting and caring relationships with money.

As OP said - work in a food shelter, talk to people, invest your time in them - and eventually it'll work out, but not as payment.

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Tollana1234567 lemmy.today Tollana1234567@lemmy.today
Joined: 2025-06-04
#18 · (edited) Quote Reply

he should be looking for escorts then, they do non-sex things too, pay them to chat with the guys/gals, accompany them to functions or dinners.

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tigeruppercut lemmy.zip tigeruppercut@lemmy.zip
Joined: 2023-08-20
#19 · Quote Reply

There's a great documentary about a host club in Osaka, and how a lot of the customers are women who are also in the industry. Despite knowing how everything works they're also basically starved for real human connection so they pay for it anyway.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Great_Happiness_Space

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Tango piefed.ca Tango@piefed.ca
Joined: 2026-04-20
#20 · Quote Reply

So close yet so far away.

Doesn't anybody stay in one place anymore?

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mhz (ex lemm.ee) lemmy.ml 16mhz@lemmy.ml
Joined: 2025-06-03
#21 · Quote Reply

I love my wife. don't think otherwise. our intimacy is just...nonexistent.

You will be amazed to know that is the case in many marriages.

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GreenKnight23 lemmy.world GreenKnight23@lemmy.world
Joined: 2024-09-21
#22 · Quote Reply

You will be amazed to know that is the case in many marriages.

not too amazed, I've witnessed it myself in many other couples that I know.

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SkyeStarfall lemmy.blahaj.zone SkyeStarfall@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2023-06-12
#23 · Quote Reply

Hugs are important because of what they mean - care, support, belonging. Paying someone to do it won't solve it either. You can't replace the work and time of building up trusting and caring relationships with money. As OP said - work in a food shelter, talk to people, invest your time in them - and eventually it'll work out, but not as payment.

They're also important because physical touch is a need in and of itself. No matter what, in the end, we are still animals, with animalistic needs. You can't just think or will yourself out of them

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Akuchimoya startrek.website Akuchimoya@startrek.website
Joined: 2023-08-22
#24 · Quote Reply

Tbf that's not a hug, and that doesn't solve the issue of wanting a hug.

You're right that interactions are not hugs, but they create friendships with people with whom it is both socially acceptable and emotionally healthy to hug. If you don't hug your friends, you're missing out in life.

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prole lemmy.blahaj.zone prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2024-06-11
#25 · (edited) Quote Reply

Lemmy responses to comics always make things light hearted and humorous.

Really? To me this seems like a comic that's meant more for starting conversations than actual humor, because the subject matter is inherently political.

Also, it's just not very funny is it?

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DarthFreyr lemmy.world DarthFreyr@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-09-20
#26 · Quote Reply

You're right that interactions are not hugs, but they create friendships with people with whom it is both socially acceptable and emotionally healthy to hug. If you don't hug your friends, you're missing out in life.

TBH, the sort of people who would get to the point of paying a stranger for a hug wouldn't necessarily be the sort of people who would progress a social connection with a stranger to the point of hugging. Building up a relationship, platonic or otherwise, takes time and effort, and often the ones that best fill those roles in our lives are also those we don't regularly meet in person.

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multifariace lemmy.world multifariace@lemmy.world
Joined: 2024-03-10
#27 · Quote Reply

It changes the tone of the comic whether the background consists of damaged wall plaster or cum stains.

Plaster damage from cleaning up all the blood...and cum.

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RBWells lemmy.world RBWells@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-06-14
#28 · Quote Reply

Doesn't anybody stay in one place anymore?

It would be so nice to see your face at my door.

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HeyJoe lemmy.world HeyJoe@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-05
#29 · Quote Reply

not too amazed, I've witnessed it myself in many other couples that I know.

That really sucks... I am going through a divorce and we still have our moments of affection or more. Knowing that we won't know when the next time we will have this kind of connection with someone, if ever, means we are trying to enjoy this last part before its gone forever. We also have 2 kids so we will always be together in some way. My guess is this will continue until one of us actually does find someone else.

Anyway, go get it! Its like one of the best benefits of being married if you ask me. I couldnt imagine not being close with my partner a few times a week. Even just cuddling feels so relaxing.

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Wildmimic anarchist.nexus Wildmimic@anarchist.nexus
Joined: 2025-09-05
#30 · Quote Reply

I love my wife. don't think otherwise. our intimacy is just...nonexistent.

I've been there, it's not a fun place to be. If anything, it hurts even more than simply missing hugs.

As i have seen with my ex-wife, love alone sometimes isn't enough.

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Canonical_Warlock lemmy.dbzer0.com Canonical_Warlock@lemmy.dbzer0.com
Joined: 2024-12-04
#31 · Quote Reply

I desperately need a hair cut but I've been touch starved long enough that I may just black out from the endorphin rush the moment some poor stylist touches my hair.

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Tango piefed.ca Tango@piefed.ca
Joined: 2026-04-20
#32 · Quote Reply

It would be so nice to see your face at my door.

But it doesn't help to know

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