Hi!

As the title says, please, as I'm looking for some inspiration :)

I've been looking to get some clothes for a while, but it's a bit tricky. Tyrannical country, so I can't try them on, and in most places I won't be able to return them if they don't fit/I don't like them. So I wanna be a bit careful about what I buy.

I took some of my measurements of hips, waist and bust and hope that's enough. But what to buy if I can't buy it all? 🤑

Underwear shouldn't be an issue, but the rest? Blazer? Blouse? Or a summer dress? I don't even know much about women's clothes even though I bought full outfits of my choice twice before (before realising my gender identity).

On the one hand, I feel it is my civic duty to get thigh-highs and that similar fabric to cover the the hands/arms, with a mini skirt and short top, taking a picture of my libreboot thinkpad with neofetch running. 😅

I also think what that some of what I'll enjoy myself in now will change when/if I transition more, and vice versa. So I don't know. Everything is on the table, but mostly I want something badass. :)

Thanks for reading and any help :)

My very first order of gender affirming clothes I got was black shiny leggings and a hoodie with flowers on it. That felt great! I was so stuck in grey/blue/black jeans & t-shirt that even a different pattern and lighter colours felt exciting. I later got a bra I stuffed for shape under t-shirts which was very fun. Then I got a very dramatic witchy dress I wore like three times. Then a bodycon dress. I loved the sensation of wearing something tight because I never did before. I also got a flower-print office skirt I liked. I wore all this in secret at home though. I also got a skater skirt and some bodysuits, two of which I actually still wear to this day!

Basically, I mostly got shapes, materials and pieces in general that just don't exist in the men's section and they sparked a great deal of joy. This was 8 years ago now and I've since grown out of most of the stuff I got at the beginning. It was all very cheap and not very stylish. But I don't regret getting the clothes I got, I had fun with them and they helped me learn about myself and find out what I like. I also had no idea about fashion back then so I had to experiment quite a bit and it took me a few years to really understand what looks good on me and what doesn't. And I'm still learning, probably.

edit: oh and also high-waisted pants! Loved when I first wore them and still do.

Damn, yeah ideas like this, and wearing the clothes only at home is pretty much what's on my mind, too.

I also had no idea about fashion back then so I had to experiment quite a bit and it took me a few years to really understand what looks good on me and what doesn’t.

x.x I'm gonna be extra friendly to my woman friends, so they will help me with make-up and stuff :)

Also happy to hear you had fun and didn't regret it.

Honestly I just went through the bestsellers on shein and bought what I was interested in. Obviously I wouldn't recommend buying stuff there now, back then I just didn't care and it was cheap.

I’ve been building up my wardrobe through a combination of thrift stores and depop. So far everything has been cheap with the most expensive purchases being a pair of heels and a pair of boots that were $60 each.

For inspiration into what kind of styles you might wanna try, I’d recommend pinterest. Scroll through #outfitinspo and as you like stuff the algo will feed you more stuff. Check the hashtags on posts to see what kind of styles they are and look into it more. You can also check out some of the stuff on the aesthetics wiki to get some idea of different styles. Personally, I aim for alt, y2k, and boho styles.

probably the first piece was a purse I bought myself as a teenager from a festival (it was hand-made by a local).

Then it was the hand-me-down jeans from my mom that fit me better than men's jeans and felt nicer to wear.

Then when I was on my own, it was skirts I bought from a department store.

Then I repressed for over a decade and during that time I had a few drab skirts and a couple simple, drab dresses that I exclusively wore at home because it made me feel better inexplicably.

Then when I transitioned, it was all the clothes: skirts, blouses, dresses (oh so many dresses: lemon dresses, long sleeveless dresses that combine with wraps well, colorful summer flowy dresses with straps, a strapless dress that felt perfect for a beach, formal black dresses, flowery spring dresses, etc.), wraps of various kinds (my favorite were soft cotton lounge wraps), and then a few sweaters for colder weather (turtle necks looked awful when I started HRT because my neck was so fat, but a few years in I think they look OK on me now, at least not horrible).

I do have a single blazer, I wore it to a party recently with a nice red blouse and plaid above-the-knee skirt and I think it went well?

In general a blazer (esp. with slacks) can come across as masculine, so do with that what you will.

Shoes are also a struggle, but my feet really changed with HRT and now I fit women's sizes much better.

Shoes are also a struggle, but my feet really changed with HRT and now I fit women’s sizes much better.

That's really interesting. I had to go to a special store that made women's shoes in sizes most stores don't.

yes, I go to Torrid to find shoes, they specialize in making shoes for pregnant and "plus-sized" women. My feet tend to be very wide, so their shoes tend to fit me better because they're made to be relatively wide and flexible.

but I even managed to go ice skating and wore women's ice skates rentals without issue, which I didn't think would ever work

On the one hand, I feel it is my civic duty to get thigh-highs and that similar fabric to cover the the hands/arms, with a mini skirt and short top, taking a picture of my libreboot thinkpad with neofetch running. 😅

i never did and probably never will. that's also why my code usually does not compile. i know.

i started in waves. everytime i went to a shop and searched for a fit i'd wear as everyday-fit. in part even for work. something i felt comfy in. that gave me a lot of basics (plain skirts, shirts in a more fem cut ...), that i can then combine with more fancy stuff. some of my drag-fits are getting a second life that way. a bit toned down. ;)

This jumper from monki. It's still my favourite jumper. Everyone grins when they see it.

Everyone grins when they see it.

Yuuuuup :)

It's pretty cute and kinda subtle. I like it.

It's also very soft. My only criticism is that the arms are quite short. I'm kinda like a gibbon.

Oh, you bet I'd post it to !unixsocks@lemmy.blahaj.zone !

Thank you for this write-up. Pretty cool story to read by itself :)

aside from that, it took me a while to feel confident going out with makeup

That's also what I have the most qualms about (or only qualms, kinda).

Thankfully the climate here is rather hot, without long, or particularly cold winters, so I can keep it light for now (wallet wise, too) :)

Before I transitioned, I was a girl-passing femboy, so it’s really tough to nail down what outfit or specific item made me feel feminine. But as my style continued to evolve, I continue to feel good.

Every day I live is a cold revenge against the people who don’t want me alive.

Every day I live is a cold revenge against the people who don’t want me alive.

:)

I'd also measure shoulder width and sleeve length for tops and dresses, and inseam (leg length) for pants - women's clothing comes in a lot of different shapes and they won't all fit.

I started transitioning over 11 years ago. One of my college friends gave me a huge box of hand-me-downs and told me to take anything I wanted, and donate the rest. I still have my favorite jacket from that even though it doesn't fit me any more

Your tastes will definitely change over time. I used to wanna try all fem clothing at the start, nowadays I'm usually in jeans and a T-shirt

The first thing I bought was a skirt from Next. I kinda hate it now. Then I bought a skirt from amazon that was considerably more spinny and also came in pink. Urban CoCo. The fallback for all newly hatched eggs and frankly I think it holds up great. I still get compliments on my Urban CoCo skirts afterall

Ooooh, I'll have to look into that! Thanks :)

I got a few maxi skirts, very loose and swishy sort. Enough androgynous people wear them that you can get by as a hipster if you don't want to be out, but they're swishy and fun enough to give the euphoria!

Every day I live is a cold revenge against the people who don’t want me alive.

Fucking right. <3.

a black double studded belt and leather skirt! still wear and love them sm

Your tastes will definitely change over time. I used to wanna try all fem clothing at the start, nowadays I'm usually in jeans and a T-shirt

It's hard to beat a well fitting shirt and jeans, regardless of gender. Getting women's cut shirts does help immensely though, even if it's subtle.

Euphoooooooria 😊

Was pretty overwhelming in the shops with the choices and all. Never liked clothes shopping.

Only went for top pieces, with the blouse in the picture and a similar one in green. Also a little vest and shirt underneath.
The vest absolutely sucks. Definitely gonna return that one. And while the blouses both seem a size too small, I was so happy trying them on. omfg. That this is even possible. I actually lack the words to articulate myself.