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Tennessee House passes bill allowing private citizens to refuse recognition of same-sex marriages
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Optional lemmy.world homesweethomeMrL@lemmy.world
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#52 · Quote Reply

I dont get it. I refuse to acknowledge the existence of lima beans ... because they are gross ... but it doesnt mean they dont exist. Do I get a special snowflake lima bean law?

It depends. Does your special one true Sky Man Lord want you to rule the world with an iron fist against non-believers? If so, you may already be a winner!

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GlendatheGayWitch lemmy.world GlendatheGayWitch@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-12-19
#53 · Quote Reply

You can do paperwork for these things. Marriage is convenient though. We need laws that just say "yeah I trust my friend/relative to decide for me" like a non marriage

Paperwork didn't help the partners of AIDS victims who were kept out of the hospital and heard of their partner's passing via the obituaries and then kicked out of their house.

Even today, there are families who would separate sane sex partners and do the same awful things. Marriage guarantees rights, paperwork does nothing to stop the horrible people in our lives that would lash out at the first chance.

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Wilco lemmy.zip Wilco@lemmy.zip
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#54 · Quote Reply

It depends. Does your special one true Sky Man Lord want you to rule the world with an iron fist against non-believers? If so, you may already be a winner!

Nice. Lima beans are officially outlawed then. Spread the good word of the Sky Man Lord.

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Gaja0 lemmy.zip Gaja0@lemmy.zip
Joined: 2025-06-30
#55 · Quote Reply

You can do paperwork for these things Please explain to me how exactly could I "do paperwork" to restore, for example the spousal communications privilege and the spousal testimonial privilege that would both be taken away from me if my marriage was dissolved. And do you really expect people to just start pre-emptively filling out paperwork to notify every single hospital they might possibly ev...

I get your point. I'm saying these should extend past marriages.

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Formfiller lemmy.world Formfiller@lemmy.world
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#56 · Quote Reply

Why does anyone live in Tennessee?

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sharkaccident lemmy.world sharkaccident@lemmy.world
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#57 · Quote Reply

Give it to them. Excuse me? Absolutely fucking not. You don't get to concede my marriage, and to be frank, fuck you for even suggesting it. Instead government issues and recognizes contractual unions between two consenting adults. Marriage is not a "contract". A contract binds two parties to an agreement. Marriage binds many third parties to be obligated to recognize it for things like hospital...

I think you missed the main term in my response. Union. A union is a recognized formation of parts that work together for a common interest or purpose.

A "union" could be designated to have all rights and privileges that you lay out as only reserved for marriage. But a union could also go further. It could go into any level of granularity that the people of the union specify that might be ambiguous with typical "marriage rights". If marriage defines everything then what's the point of a prenup? Also, ALL of your examples can be superseded by other legal agreements, contracts, wills, etc. For example, a signed power of attorney takes priority of hospital decisions.

I'm making quite the opposite point on same-sex marriage.

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sharkaccident lemmy.world sharkaccident@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-19
#58 · Quote Reply

It does not have to be separate. No legally recognized marriage for anyone. You want marriage, go to a priest. No reason for gov to stick their nose in. It is pretty much a violation of separation of church and state to take a religious term from a religious ritual like marriage and giving it legal weight.

I think you made my point better than me.

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sharkaccident lemmy.world sharkaccident@lemmy.world
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#59 · (edited) Quote Reply

How would you protect the rights that go with marriage if you abolish marriage? Those include the right to visit your spouse in the hospital, right to attend spouse's funeral, right to name spouse for inheritance purposes with legal weight, right to live in the housing you shared with your spouse after your spouse dies, right for your spouse to make medical decisions should you be unable to mak...

Your recognized "union" provides all of those rights and goes to any level of detail you wish. For example, imagine a union, will, POA, all wrapped up into one.

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sharkaccident lemmy.world sharkaccident@lemmy.world
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#60 · Quote Reply

Paperwork didn't help the partners of AIDS victims who were kept out of the hospital and heard of their partner's passing via the obituaries and then kicked out of their house. Even today, there are families who would separate sane sex partners and do the same awful things. Marriage guarantees rights, paperwork does nothing to stop the horrible people in our lives that would lash out at the fir...

If there "unions" and not "marriages" it wouldn't have been issue.

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sharkaccident lemmy.world sharkaccident@lemmy.world
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#61 · Quote Reply

You can do paperwork for these things Please explain to me how exactly could I "do paperwork" to restore, for example the spousal communications privilege and the spousal testimonial privilege that would both be taken away from me if my marriage was dissolved. And do you really expect people to just start pre-emptively filling out paperwork to notify every single hospital they might possibly ev...

Please explain to me how exactly could I “do paperwork”

You enter into a contractual union that is recognized by the federal government.

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sharkaccident lemmy.world sharkaccident@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-19
#62 · Quote Reply

a family member who is super conservative and religious came up with this same idea back then, and I was on board Maybe that's a sign that this is not something that you should be on board with. As a gay man, I find people like you to be MORE frustrating than the ultra conservative bigots. The bigots I expect to be bigoted. Folks who side with bigoted positions who might otherwise be decent, ho...

@Noxy. Question. Would you rather be "married", with no rights or privileges, to your spouse or be in a "union" with your spouse with rights and privileges?

I hate to say it but religious people claim the word marriage. You can fight all you want but it won't change the outcome.

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DarkFuture lemmy.world DarkFuture@lemmy.world
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#63 · Quote Reply

Anything to be a bigot, I guess.

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NotMyOldRedditName lemmy.world NotMyOldRedditName@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-08-24
#64 · (edited) Quote Reply

private citizens never faced punishment for not recognizing same-sex marriages in their private lives. they want private citizens to be able to enforce their opinions in the public square. Like that idiot pharmacist wanting to not fulfill birth control orders. eff them all.

Nothing stops that pharmacist from doing that though, its a company policy that would allow or prevent it.

If the company policy is they can't refuse then they can refuse and lose their job.

For a small owner run business it could be different though like we wont make you a wedding cake.

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DarkFuture lemmy.world DarkFuture@lemmy.world
Joined: 2024-11-06
#65 · Quote Reply

Why does anyone live in Tennessee?

Once you incest you just can't stop.

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HubertManne piefed.social HubertManne@piefed.social
Joined: 2025-03-13
#66 · Quote Reply

Nothing stops that pharmacist from doing that though, its a company policy that would allow or prevent it. If the company policy is they can't refuse then they can refuse and lose their job. For a small owner run business it could be different though like we wont make you a wedding cake.

I very much doubt this. there are a lot of regulations in that industry and you can't have pharmacists or pharmacies just willy nilly deciding to not fill prescriptions.

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NotMyOldRedditName lemmy.world NotMyOldRedditName@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-08-24
#67 · Quote Reply

I very much doubt this. there are a lot of regulations in that industry and you can't have pharmacists or pharmacies just willy nilly deciding to not fill prescriptions.

The pharmacy no, the pharmacists absolutely, they'll just lose their job.

This bill is about the individual, so it doesn't really change anything in this example.

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HubertManne piefed.social HubertManne@piefed.social
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#68 · Quote Reply

The pharmacy no, the pharmacists absolutely, they'll just lose their job. This bill is about the individual, so it doesn't really change anything in this example.

that seems reveresed but even then I have doubt. pharmacies should have plenty of regulation and pharmacist is one of those jobs where you have to be licensed. It kinda sounds like at the end you are agreeing with my statement though that private citizens have never been blocked from doing things in their private lives.

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FreshParsnip lemmy.ca FreshParsnip@lemmy.ca
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#69 · Quote Reply

I dont get it. I refuse to acknowledge the existence of lima beans ... because they are gross ... but it doesnt mean they dont exist. Do I get a special snowflake lima bean law?

I don't recognize eggs or cilantro as food

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NotMyOldRedditName lemmy.world NotMyOldRedditName@lemmy.world
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#70 · (edited) Quote Reply

that seems reveresed but even then I have doubt. pharmacies should have plenty of regulation and pharmacist is one of those jobs where you have to be licensed. It kinda sounds like at the end you are agreeing with my statement though that private citizens have never been blocked from doing things in their private lives.

Yes, I was saying that they can and still do what they want, but can/will still face punishment if they decide to do it because individuality has no place in a company setting. Its the company rules that will dictate if they can or can't do something, and those company rules may also be dictated by laws.

That pharmacist would (should) have faced punishment because it was at work.

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FreshParsnip lemmy.ca FreshParsnip@lemmy.ca
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#71 · Quote Reply

Why not? The usa passed a law requiring a fruit to be a vegetable (the tomato). It's anything goes when constructing their brave new world.

Next they'll declare pi equals 3

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JcbAzPx lemmy.world JcbAzPx@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-06
#72 · Quote Reply

Uncle Clarence is chomping at the bit to hear a case to overturn Obergefell. He said as much in his concurring opinion of Dobbs.

Nevermind that it's the same thing that makes his own marriage legal...

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alonsohmtz feddit.uk alonsohmtz@feddit.uk
Joined: 2026-02-17
#73 · (edited) Quote Reply

I dont get it. I refuse to acknowledge the existence of lima beans ... because they are gross ... but it doesnt mean they dont exist. Do I get a special snowflake lima bean law?
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Noxy pawb.social noxypaws@pawb.social
Joined: 2024-12-16
#74 · Quote Reply

Please explain to me how exactly could I “do paperwork” You enter into a contractual union that is recognized by the federal government.

That's not how contracts work

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Noxy pawb.social noxypaws@pawb.social
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#75 · Quote Reply

I think you missed the main term in my response. Union. A union is a recognized formation of parts that work together for a common interest or purpose. A "union" could be designated to have all rights and privileges that you lay out as only reserved for marriage. But a union could also go further. It could go into any level of granularity that the people of the union specify that might be ambig...

That's a lot of "could" and "would" doing a lot of work while ultimately still in support of fascist bigoted bullshit.

All hypothetical shit when the actual, currently working concept of marriage already exists

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Noxy pawb.social noxypaws@pawb.social
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#76 · Quote Reply

@Noxy. Question. Would you rather be "married", with no rights or privileges, to your spouse or be in a "union" with your spouse with rights and privileges? I hate to say it but religious people claim the word marriage. You can fight all you want but it won't change the outcome.

I reject your premise. I have already been married for twelve years. Both of your options take that away from me in one form or another.

I don't give a millionth of a shit what bigots hiding behind religion think or say. They are my oppressors. I give their opinions zero regard or respect. They are fundamentally bad and I will never concede.

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GlendatheGayWitch lemmy.world GlendatheGayWitch@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-12-19
#77 · Quote Reply

Your recognized "union" provides all of those rights and goes to any level of detail you wish. For example, imagine a union, will, POA, all wrapped up into one.

The laws for POA would have to change to allow for such a union. There would have to be some kind of protection for wills as well, because there are going to be fights from people against the LGBTQ community.

If all marriages were dissolved and became unions, that might work. Otherwise, it would be a separate but equal thing.

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YiddishMcSquidish lemmy.today YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today
Joined: 2025-03-10
#78 · Quote Reply

Nice. Lima beans are officially outlawed then. Spread the good word of the Sky Man Lord.

Sky cake!

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Soggy lemmy.world Soggy@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-01
#79 · Quote Reply

Why not? The usa passed a law requiring a fruit to be a vegetable (the tomato). It's anything goes when constructing their brave new world.

"Vegetable" isn't a botanical term, and I doubt something like cucumber or corn or snow peas would get the same pushback. The legal designation matters for taxation and is totally normal.

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Soggy lemmy.world Soggy@lemmy.world
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#80 · Quote Reply

@Noxy. Question. Would you rather be "married", with no rights or privileges, to your spouse or be in a "union" with your spouse with rights and privileges? I hate to say it but religious people claim the word marriage. You can fight all you want but it won't change the outcome.

Fuck em. Stop giving religious people special rights and permissions and exceptions and privilege. Give them no new things and start taking away old ones.

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HubertManne piefed.social HubertManne@piefed.social
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#81 · Quote Reply

Yes, I was saying that they can and still do what they want, but can/will still face punishment if they decide to do it because individuality has no place in a company setting. Its the company rules that will dictate if they can or can't do something, and those company rules may also be dictated by laws. That pharmacist would (should) have faced punishment because it was at work.

ah I see what you mean now. your saying the law won't protect them in that setting. maybe. republicans are pretty good at double standards in the way they do things.

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skulblaka sh.itjust.works skulblaka@sh.itjust.works
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#82 · Quote Reply

The Dems should push to abolish interracial marriage, just so Clarence can go home to his bulldog wife and tell her she has to leave the house because he voted to make her illegal.

He already did that back in 2022 and made a loud argument that his own marriage should be annulled.

https://www.nbcnews.com/politics/supreme-court/thomas-wants-supreme-court-overturn-landmark-rulings-legalized-contrac-rcna35228

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Canaconda lemmy.ca Canconda@lemmy.ca
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#83 · Quote Reply

Anything to be a bigot, I guess.

You know we could solve this problem pretty easily if everyone would just admit citrus fruits turn people gay and make kids trans.

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Buddahriffic lemmy.world Buddahriffic@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-06-30
#84 · Quote Reply

Probably stems from latent slavery where whites were land owners.

No, it's older than that. It's what militant civilizations were based on, this idea that it was fine and normal to go around with your warriors and dominate other groups while doing everything you could to prevent other groups from dominating you.

Just instead of swords and spears being the main arena to determine who dominates who, now there's a system where words determine who dominates the other in a particular issue and it is enforced by warriors that answers to another neutral (in theory, not always in practice) power.

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Wilco lemmy.zip Wilco@lemmy.zip
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#85 · Quote Reply

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Yes, but a marriage is legal, this person is basically disbelieving a piece of paper (marriage license). I just want to disbelieve a bean ... Basically the same. Its all organic.

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sharkaccident lemmy.world sharkaccident@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-19
#86 · Quote Reply

That's not how contracts work

!That's not how contracts work!<

Which part? The entities entering into a contract or the judicial branch honoring contracts?

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sharkaccident lemmy.world sharkaccident@lemmy.world
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#87 · Quote Reply

That's a lot of "could" and "would" doing a lot of work while ultimately still in support of fascist bigoted bullshit. All hypothetical shit when the actual, currently working concept of marriage already exists

Now you lost me. Are you saying the current system of marriage works and at the same time insisting I'm the one against same sex marriage?

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Noxy pawb.social noxypaws@pawb.social
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#88 · Quote Reply

!That's not how contracts work!&lt; Which part? The entities entering into a contract or the judicial branch honoring contracts?

The part where a contract between two parties (spouses) has any power over anyone else who didn't sign the contract, like hospitals for visitation for example.

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Noxy pawb.social noxypaws@pawb.social
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#89 · Quote Reply

I get your point. I'm saying these should extend past marriages.

Why take my marriage of 12 years away then?

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Noxy pawb.social noxypaws@pawb.social
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#90 · Quote Reply

Now you lost me. Are you saying the current system of marriage works and at the same time insisting I'm the one against same sex marriage?

Yes to both. Your original suggestion is to strip me and my husband of our marriage.

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sharkaccident lemmy.world sharkaccident@lemmy.world
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#91 · Quote Reply

The part where a contract between two parties (spouses) has any power over anyone else who didn't sign the contract, like hospitals for visitation for example.

My hospital didn't sign my medical power of attorney. Yours did?

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sharkaccident lemmy.world sharkaccident@lemmy.world
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#92 · Quote Reply

Yes to both. Your original suggestion is to strip me and my husband of our marriage.

No, I'm trying to get your family recognized nationwide by using a different term to remove the barrier to rights and privileges. I'm separating church and state. I'm suggesting the freedom to get "married" by whatever religion accepts people for who they are. I'm saying the government should recognize when two people decide to contribute to society as one.

You can do both is my point. Get a certificate of union from the government (establish rights) and then go get married by whomever you want. Again problem solved.

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Gaja0 lemmy.zip Gaja0@lemmy.zip
Joined: 2025-06-30
#93 · Quote Reply

Why take my marriage of 12 years away then?

Man, fuck your strawmans and fuck you. I support gay marriage. Try spinning that however will boost your moral superiority, but I'm not engaging with your bad faith bullshit.

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