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Retro-Hax
feddit.org
RetroHax@feddit.orgJoined: 2026-01-26 |
Like i dont seem to get it >.> Like i get it if your like having Sex with your Partner atleast because its your Partner :P |
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Shadow
lemmy.ca
Shadow@lemmy.caJoined: 2023-06-22 |
Not as good as being with someone whom you have a close emotional bond with, but way better than masturbating. |
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Retro-Hax
feddit.org
RetroHax@feddit.orgJoined: 2026-01-26 |
Not as good as being with someone whom you have a close emotional bond with, but way better than masturbating.
For me i am honestly more of a Fan of honestly just a Fan of Masturbating honestly >.> Just seems weird to me to have Sex with "not your Partner" basically for me :( |
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nomad
infosec.pub
Nomad@infosec.pub Joined: 2023-06-16 |
For me i am honestly more of a Fan of honestly just a Fan of Masturbating honestly >.> Like i do have Friends with "Thicc Bodies" who even made Advances towards me but i was just always like no :( Just seems weird to me to have Sex with "not your Partner" basically for me :( Like i am SOMEWHERE on the Ace Spectrum but like itd rather have Sex with my Partner who i trust more and have more...
That's fine because good sex is about intimacy. Intimacy is something reserved for very close people. Sounds pretty normal for somebody with a partner. Hookup culture is maybe a way to help with the loneliness and maybe stumbling into a relationship or even avoiding it. Anxiously avoidant people for example prefer swapping partners regularly to avoid the emotional bond to their partners forming. There are asexual people for sure, but there are much more suppressing their urges or preferring to masturbate to avoid closeness. |
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Retro-Hax
feddit.org
RetroHax@feddit.orgJoined: 2026-01-26 |
That's fine because good sex is about intimacy. Intimacy is something reserved for very close people. Sounds pretty normal for somebody with a partner. Hookup culture is maybe a way to help with the loneliness and maybe stumbling into a relationship or even avoiding it. Anxiously avoidant people for example prefer swapping partners regularly to avoid the emotional bond to their partners forming...
I dont have a Partner at all XD |
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Dr. Bob
lemmy.ca
DrBob@lemmy.caJoined: 2023-07-05 |
It can be fun, and a great boost to the ego to know you are desirable. It can sometimes be easier to be open with a stranger knowing that you will probably never see them again. People do this kind of thing on holiday all the time, relax and maybe try something a little new. |
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CarbonIceDragon
pawb.social
CarbonIceDragon@pawb.socialJoined: 2023-06-05 |
Are they actually strangers at that point in a hook-up? Ive no personal familiarity with the concept but I guess I was under the impression there was an element of socializing/getting to know the other person after meeting up with them before things proceeded, at least so the people involved could get comfortable enough with eachother? |
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Retro-Hax
feddit.org
RetroHax@feddit.orgJoined: 2026-01-26 |
Are they actually strangers at that point in a hook-up? Ive no personal familiarity with the concept but I guess I was under the impression there was an element of socializing/getting to know the other person after meeting up with them before things proceeded, at least so the people involved could get comfortable enough with eachother?
My First Boyfriend ever was at 19 Years Old a 28 Year Old Guy who i find quite attractive >.> |
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Retro-Hax
feddit.org
RetroHax@feddit.orgJoined: 2026-01-26 |
It can be fun, and a great boost to the ego to know you are desirable. It can sometimes be easier to be open with a stranger knowing that you will probably never see them again. People do this kind of thing on holiday all the time, relax and maybe try something a little new.
eh i nowadays dont even care about being desireable considering that what i "attract" is mostly Creepy Weirdo Men who wanna Fetishize me in a Weird Way >.> |
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leriotdelac
lemmy.zip
leriotdelac@lemmy.zip Joined: 2025-08-10 |
I know a few couples that were hook-up partners in the beginning and managed to build strong relationships with each other. Also, for some other a hookup might be a low-pressure adventure, and others, naturally, compensate deeper issues with quick sex. |
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nomad
infosec.pub
Nomad@infosec.pub Joined: 2023-06-16 |
I dont have a Partner at all XD Besides i am lonely ut sadly most People just fetishize me and thats just sto gross for me that i cant ever do any kind of Hookups >.>
That's my point though. Social media is not the place for this. Get a healthy outlet with a professional that can help and knows what you are going through. |
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Aielman15
lemmy.world
Aielman15@lemmy.worldJoined: 2023-07-08 |
I feel like it's for people who like sex but don't care about forming a lasting relationship. It's massively unappealing to me, but so is porn, and that's certainly pretty popular across the globe and ages, so what do I know. |
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Dr. Bob
lemmy.ca
DrBob@lemmy.caJoined: 2023-07-05 |
eh i nowadays dont even care about being desireable considering that what i "attract" is mostly Creepy Weirdo Men who wanna Fetishize me in a Weird Way >.> Sadly i am also too far away for most People considering that the Next Major Big Cities are 2 Hours away -.- Also it takes quite a Mental toll on me to travel 2 Hours via Train to someone as most just wanna have Sex and thats it >.&...
I missed the sub when I replied, apologies. All of that is OK too. There are times when I don't feel like sex and I have declined partners and strangers. It works for some of us and not for others. I don't like soup either. It's not a preference, I just don't. Don't feel bad for how you are. |
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Dr. Bob
lemmy.ca
DrBob@lemmy.caJoined: 2023-07-05 |
Are they actually strangers at that point in a hook-up? Ive no personal familiarity with the concept but I guess I was under the impression there was an element of socializing/getting to know the other person after meeting up with them before things proceeded, at least so the people involved could get comfortable enough with eachother?
Usually yes, there is some socializing. There are situations such as in sex clubs or similar situations where there is minimal communication. Allegedly in Berghein there is a room that is pitch black and you enter wearing nothing but socks. In those cases it is just about sex. |
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SuperNovaStar
lemmy.blahaj.zone
SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zoneJoined: 2024-11-12 |
Are they actually strangers at that point in a hook-up? Ive no personal familiarity with the concept but I guess I was under the impression there was an element of socializing/getting to know the other person after meeting up with them before things proceeded, at least so the people involved could get comfortable enough with eachother?
That's what I was going to say, certainly anyone I interact with doesn't stay a stranger very long. Especially because I tend to view sex as a way of getting to know someone and showing them love and affection. I can't say that I've ever had sex with a stranger but I have definitely had sex with people I only met a few hours ago. Even though we didn't keep seeing each other I do really like them and would probably be friends if we lived near one another. |
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Acemod
Moderator
Acemod@lemmy.worldJoined: 2024-04-16 |
My First Boyfriend ever was at 19 Years Old a 28 Year Old Guy who i find quite attractive >.> tho after a Month of then also immidially Dating they dropped me basically for a 16 Year Old which was basically the sole Reason of me saying F It to Hookups in general -.-
I hope you reported that person. |
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