Okay bud. Right. Totally my fault you misjudged me because I didn’t feel like explaining it all to you. Absolute fair! And totally makes you not a hypocrite.

Enjoy your evening.

Without an artist name mentioned in the title, yeah it'd make it to your feed.

It's odd though (if you're using Voyager's filtering that is) that this post made it to your feed as I always tag the artist in the titles on my post. It's at the end formatted like "[artist name]" so it's more clear for people.

Perhaps try adding her name in square brackets to your filter instead?

Wow you really bring the reddit to lemmy.

The mods on r/comics are unhinged with the level they ban people and what they allow. It's literally a porn subreddit now

Is it because she hates fascists?

She isn't saying that at all.

She is saying that those women complain about their spouse all the time. Nothing about those men actual abilities.

You making that connection says more about you than about her comics.

Tried it a couple of weeks ago.

Forgot to pre-bake the dough, so it had to sit in the oven for like an hour just to be fully cooked.

Was pretty good, although it just tastes like pizza. It is cool if you want to do something fancy for a dinner, but not at all worth it if you just bake it for yourself.

The fuck is that?

How many pizza layers does it have?

LMAO!

Says the guy defending a Reddit troll.

I’ll give it a go. Thanks. Appreciate the help.

or just being generally lazy. the most extreme is both mooching off thier parents

also because shes a woman that is making fun of the norms of "traditional man", thats why people hate her. they never say anything when a man makes misogynistic comics.

the commentor you responded, hates her because she makes fun of fascists, and MEN who think thier traditional roles should not be challenged by a women.

they cant stand it because its a women making the comic, and comic is about people like incels.

I can’t fucking stand her.

Yeah, we got that. Stop complaining. And stop opening the post you hate.

Gotta love those endorphins, eh?

It's called Quiche.

I don't think that's the case, i did not have close contact with my ex's colleages, but the 3 pairs i got to know pretty much confirmed the complaints - hubbys rather gaming all night long than caring for the newborn child or working on his education that he started years ago, using very aggressive voice when talking with their wives, not even touching anything in the household outside of making a mess and so on.

I was very bad regarding chores because of my permanent mental overload (oh how much i tried to live up to expectations only to fail again and again), but at least i tried and she recognized it (She always said the most important thing was that i kept trying. Actually, that really was the most important thing, because it helped me develop at least some skill regarding self-care). I also loved to cook elaborate meals for her, even when it stressed the fuck out of me, and was able to bake our own rye bread for about 3 years which she absolutely loved. I also always was able to make her birthday a very special event (one time i filled the entire living room with helium filled balloons over night which she really loved - we played around like children in there, and the cats were thrilled too lol).

When talking with the wives, there was an absolute absence of things like these in their marriages. I'd say their complaints were absolutely valid.

We shouldn't give a damn about penis sizes. Though I get that may be easy to say as someone with a humongous dong /s

I agree with everything except that women make better leaders, because i'd rather call it "different". Leadership styles do differ, but which one is better depends on the situation. My wife was absolutely great at planning and improvising when something went wrong, while not having the calm needed for fine, detailed work - threading a needle was a pain for her, constructing something from Ikea made her really tilt; I OTOH absolutely suck at improvising (planning is fine, although realizing the plans is hard), while having no issue with very sensitive and rather annoying tasks, i simply kept my pace and cool throughout.

We really were a good match in general, and would still be together if it weren't for my other issues which made us slowly drift apart and smothered what we had. We still care for each other a lot and visit one another every few weeks and message daily, but how it currently stands we are both better off alone.

Strangely I cope a lot better with the situation than her - i have a more active social life than i ever had before because i finally broke free of my permanent mental overload by living alone and being able to set my own rules, while her social circle currently crumbles without a clear reason why (although i think a lot of her acquaintances do resent her for dropping me, and gossip seems to spread like wildfire - she doesn't deserve that at all, but even where i personally told people that I fully agree with the decision to separate, it doesn't help at all)

TIL "spotted dick" is actually food.

My best friend was convinced that my ex wanted to get pregnant even though we'd been together for years and she had zero desire to have children. Nothing I said convinced him. I really don't get it because it's just not that uncommon anymore for people to not want kids.

You aren’t clocking the situation correctly.

I'm not responding to the situation at large, I'm responding to your comment in isolation.

someone who trashes their partner (implying habituality), isn’t someone to trust with sensitive information

I don't believe I agree with this, with the qualifier that I also don't agree with trash talking your partner to begin with. I don't think you're right that if someone talks negatively about their partner that they can't be trusted with information. Maybe it's a cultural thing.

Also note that I said “trash-talking” where you said “venting.”

I'll use trash talking from now on if it helps.

As someone who is below average I’ve had to have multiple people tell me that sex with someone not as well endowed isn’t worse, it’s different. You can’t really boil the intricacies of copulation down to “Bigger = Better”.

This is quite a male take. Women don't really complain about this and it isn't anywhere near comparable to not helping with housework.

Besides, we need to normalize talking about competent partners. So many women I know are in terrible relationships because they've convinced themselves that all men are awful.

It's food as well

I never understood why I should be jealous as a polyamorous person.

Like I also get to bang other people. There's literally nothing to be jealous of

I've been saying for years that "men are trash" is just the woke version of "boys will be boys" because it still normalizes shitty behavior amongst men.

To quote a poet, "the clitoris doesn't care how big anyone's dick is"

I mean you're 100% right. Downvoters are just haters. This comic isn't about the husband making her a social pariah through competence, it's that she's bad at socializing and reading the room.

Mostly the women complaining are just looking at having their feelings validated, you don't need to share your own story to do that. If you're asked to share a story you pick one that fits the theme. That's just basic socializing.

I mean it's also just a comic. Like it's supposed to be a joke so it's going to take liberties, but this conversation about it is weird lol.

If you do this about your spouse to your friends, they are gonna know because all your friends hate them or are awkward around them.

I think that, at least for me, a friend with whom you have a romantic angle isn't a partner (in the sense of a girlfriend or a boyfriend or yk). I do think that both (sexual and romantic) are needed, but again, that's only for me; different people might have different concepts of what a relationship like that will or should be and that's fine.

At one point I was trying to tell artists about lemmy/piefed/etc...
every time I posted on r/comics I would get auto-modded/ auto-removed comment. It was unfortunate. We may have less people here...but they are generally nicer. At the very least actual human beings. Thats been my experience last 2-2 years now.

I would be soooo fat knowing you. That sounds amazing.

I think the main problem with most relationships is the myth that "opposite poles get attracted to each other". No, the more you have in common with someone else, the more succesful, peaceful and enjoyable the relationship will be. That's not always the case, for sure, and there's obviously exceptions to that rule nevertheless, but are in the end just that, exceptions, not the norm, and when you date someone that doesn't at least share your core interests, views and principles, you could and definitely will get constant arguments and fights because of the constant and often serious and intense clashes of expectations and ways of seeing and living life.

I don't even think that there exists such thing as "male" or "female" leadership. Leadership is just leadership, it's genderless, just like a rock is just a rock.

Ultimately, things just do exist, they don't have genders. If anything, they're only by their materiality and their objective and/or intrinsical features, not by something so subjective and arbitrary as gender.

Some African and Native South-American "male" leadership styles are more similar to what in the Western culture would be considered a "female" leadership style.

Risotto isn't something I usually cook, maybe I should try it sometime. I don't normally stir rice when cooking it anyway. Currently got very cheap white rice which can be a little sticky compared to the basmati rice I usually cook with, but its not a massive problem.

I think the main problem with most relationships is the myth that “opposite poles get attracted to each other”

Imma go beyond this.

The problem with the intergenerational "wisdom" being transferred is that a lot of this shit lost why they were memes worth spreading in the first place. It's not "opposites attract", its "marriage and raising a family and creating a good home environment requires a diverse skillset, and being different people allows you to bring that diverse skillset so that you can be self sufficient in your family group and have a degree of personal autonomy due to being able to dedicate yourself to different social groups and activities, while returning to each other and appreciating the time you have together."

It came out a little through the generational loss.

Women don’t really complain about this and it isn’t anywhere near comparable to not helping with housework.

shitty partners shitty, etc, but...

Fellas, would you rather have a huge dick and not do housework, or a tiny dick and do housework?

I don't get it. If you have a dick that's too big, you don't have to put it all in

Most of my friends in relationships are happy there, but my wife and I are still notoriously happy in ours. I recently had a therapist comment about how we handle conflict surprisingly well after I explained it to her

Yeah, and I'm good with that definition. But the problem is that most people are just interpretating it as if it were "I hatr parties and she loves parties, so we'll be the perfect marriage with no doubt", while that will cause so many problems because of these are two ways of socialization that are in the antipodes of each other.
I myself hate parties as I'm heavily introverted and, also, I'm autistic, so I don't really get well in large groups or people (or even in small groups of people if I don't know them), and I also just hate the ambience of a party.

Even with more small things it does apply. Like, I love anime, so I'd never date with someone who hates it.

And it obviously will be more important when it's about trascendental things such as religion, political views or philosophical stances.

But most people just take it as "if you hate X, you have to date with someone that loves X" or "if you love Y, you have to date with someone who hates Y"; that's not how it works.

True complementarity needs to be built upon a strongly shared core of expectations, values, thoughts, ideas, visions of the world and ways of living life, because otherwise there will be little or not intelligibility.

Yeah, my wife and I have a general rule that if it goes in the laundry basket it gets cold regular duty then high heat tumble dry unless otherwise stated (as in each time it's in there). I've got a few hang drys and so I just say I'm doing the laundry when they're in it. And I always fold because I'm the one who's more peculiar about how my dresser is organized.

There's a certain point in peculiarity where if you need the chore done that way you can do it yourself or you can learn to live with how your partner does it

I think the fact that you were able to identify your own struggles, while still maintaining a good relationship is huge. I think “different” is a better descriptor here over my saying it’s “better.” It’s always nuanced and everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. When you find that those blocks all naturally interlock together and you support one another to fill those gaps, that demonstrates a really healthy connection.

This is why I occasionally piss on the floor. Keeps some ammunition in the wife's bank.

I've embraced it. With exes on good terms I know I'm someone they had a good time with but it ended for some reason. For one woman I'm a damaged bitch who threw away something good to be a slut (I realized monogamy wasn't something I could agree to after she told me she needed it, didn't cheat), and for the woman she and I had been dating at the time I'm still a bad ex, but I was one of the least bad exes she'd had yet.

I also had one woman who pressured me into romantic stuff I absolutely didn't want who actually did try to spread damaging lies about me, but people in the community believed me over her because she kept pulling the same crap and I was a respected member of the community. That one sucked, but nothing she pulled after was half as bad as an afternoon during.

Ope, that hits hard, but with the added bonus of I don't remember who put what where so something may be somewhere for a reason (like the pomegranates on the table that are there specifically so I dearil them today after work), but I may not remember the reason or it seems like effort I don't feel like spending to act on it. And slowly why it's there may fade. Or I just left the bag on the counter because I was very hungry for the Chinese food that was inside it on Friday…

My apartment is finally largely unpacked and so when it's finished I'm hoping to build a habit of regularly tidying up again. I develop it occasionally between periods of life beating the shit out of my household

Hey I'll clean and be my GF/Wife's best friend but I just don't give much of a fuck about cooking.

I'll still do it, and funnily enough doing it for other people after I've already eaten sounds fine. But I despise cooking for myself and I'm really mediocre at it.

And in that same vein hearing that there are good partners is important for people with bad ones. Some people think that they can't get a partner that's good (often assuming all people of a gender or social role are similar in some vein) and by countering that narrative you can help friends find happiness.

One woman I play d&d with is given a few hours every week or two to go out and play a game with friends while her husband watches the kids. Someone whose husband either doesn't or can't competently watch their kids may need to hear that some dads are more than capable of having a few hours alone with an infant and toddler so their wife can maintain a social life outside of just parent friends.