After a post of shame where I found out this is where I look for support, I now have multiple questions

1. How do I delete a post?

2. How do I follow a user?

3. I use thunder, is it just missing following ppl and dm'ing or am I blind?

To delete a post in Thunder, click the ... on the post, the "Post", then "Delete post".

You can't follow users on Lemmy, only communities.

And it's not just you, I can't work out how to DM people in Thunder either 🤷

Thanks man

About following users, that can be somewhat achieved with RSS - Lemmy provides a feed for each user's post history.

DM writing in thunder is not implemented (yet). I use the webui.

Reference:
https://github.com/thunder-app/thunder/issues/1697

Tell me more

I am not familiar with fediverse apps, but you could pick the feed for a given user, put in a RSS reader, and open new entries if the app can pick links for a given instance.

As for the feed itself, for example, for your profile directly on Lemmy World, it's the signal icon to the right of the interrogation symbol at the bottom has the link for it, and you put the link in the RSS reader:

Truly, each day I realize I have less knowledge than I thought.

Kind sir, I dont even understand what I dont understand from what you wrote 😂

RSS feeds are a way to receive posts without having to access a site directly.

The "RSS reader", a program to display posts fetched from RSS feeds, usually gets new posts through the feed's link you provide.

This link updates the contents it delivers each time a new post is made.

RSS readers often have the option to open a post's original link through your default browse or a custom browser.

If the app you use can open links from Lemmy, a functionality from Android apps, you can use the RSS reader to get new posts from users you want to follow.

Does it make more sense now? Not asking angrily, btw. (absence of tone in text is a bit of a PITA "<.< )

Alternatively, to follow users, you could try using Friendica and/or Mbin. Both are compatible with Lemmy communities, and can follow users as well. However, I am not aware of any apps for them, meaning you'd need to use them on browsers.

Okay let me get this, so RSS feeds get posts without having access to the site, but how do they differ from the app I use "Thunder", like from what I understand the RSS reader is an app aswell, and you somehow embed I believe certain links into it so it auto fetches them? Or like embed communities and it auto gets posts?

In the scope of the post, I was commenting about following users specifically. But yeah, RSS is generally an "app", a program aside from the others. And you you embed links, yes.

Wouldn't that be a complete hassle, having to manually embed multiple communities over and over, you got reasons why you dont use an app instead, I'm speaking mobile app wise, not desktop

The time it takes to browse each feed and to go to the next builds over time and can be tiresome after a while. Plus sites usually don't allow hiding seen posts (e.g. Twitter), and the ones that do are usually slow at that (e.g. Mastodon). And also, RSS feeds allow having a local backup of who you follow, without the risk of shadowbans (e.g. Youtube silently unsubscribing you) or the site you had those you follow go dark overnight (e.g. kbin.social). And lastly, it helps controlling just how much clogging there is in your feed - after all, people only have so much time on Earth.

So generally speaking, I'd say it is slow at first, but helps in the long run.

Appreciate your responses man, learned something new today, not sure it's my cup of tea, but I can understand the full control appeal

I left Thunder for Blorp because of the lack of its DM capability (it can only read, not write). However, I have since learned that direct messages are not private anyway (I guess that's why they're no longer called "private messages," hmm...), so I have barely touched that feature, haha.

Everything you do in Lemmy is not private. Your instance needs to send everything to other instances, and the data is stored unencrypted in the database. Every time you vote on a post that action is sent to every other instance that has a subscribing user in that community. You can see that in action here: https://lemvotes.org/

For DMs, they are only stored in the sending and receiving instance, but for sure the sys admins of those two instances can look in their database and see the messages in plain text.

Lemmy allows you to enter your Matrix ID in your profile, then (at least in the default Lemmy site) a new button appears on your profile page for others, who can click the button to secure message you on Matrix (which is E2E encrypted).

Dang, thanks for the enlightenment. This all makes me not wanna finance Lemmy development when DMs could easily be PMs... The popups were otherwise making me think twice... Though I suppose at least it's still better than Reddit...