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What stereotype about LGBTQ+ people would you happily see disappear forever?
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LadyButterfly she/her piefed.blahaj.zone LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone
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ZDL lazysoci.al ZDL@lazysoci.al
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There's this weird stereotype that keeps popping up that queer culture is oversexed and primarily interested only in sexual matters. That needs to die a horrible, agonizing death.

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SillySized lemmy.ml gray@lemmy.ml
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Faking our identity for attention

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LadyButterfly she/her Moderator LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone
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There's this weird stereotype that keeps popping up that queer culture is oversexed and primarily interested only in sexual matters. That needs to die a horrible, agonizing death.

Can't talk. Busy queer wanking

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SharkWeek lemmy.blahaj.zone SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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There's this weird stereotype that keeps popping up that queer culture is oversexed and primarily interested only in sexual matters. That needs to die a horrible, agonizing death.
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Tollana1234567 lemmy.today Tollana1234567@lemmy.today
Joined: 2025-06-04
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that not all gay guys are feminine. also the top/vs bottom thing is apparently from YAIO and porn where masculinity is very heavily emphasized. also about lesbians, no a straight guy cant convince them to sleep with them, or they are "choosing to be lesbians" this all from PORN.(pay for gay). porn is pretty much well integrated into gay lingo and the community lgbtq+.

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ZDL lazysoci.al ZDL@lazysoci.al
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There's a difference between being naturally sexual and being interested only in sexual matters.

The way queer culture is portrayed, you'd think that we're stripping at the drop of a hat—any hat, anywhere—and getting jinky with anybody at any time.

I just find that portrayal really off-putting.

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Sylveon piefed.blahaj.zone sylveon@piefed.blahaj.zone
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This is maybe more of a category of stereotypes rather than a specific one, but I've realised that people often still make very binary assumptions about gender and sexuality.

They think that transition is a linear path and that every trans woman wants to get "the surgery" and then the transition will be "complete". In a lesbian couple one of them needs to "be the man". Or with sexuality, you're either attracted to a certain gender or not and there's no in between.

We use labels to help with communication, but reality is so much more nuanced and interesting!

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dkppunk piefed.social dkppunk@piefed.social
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I’d like to see all stereotypes disappear but if I had to pick one:

The idea that if a bisexual person is in a relationship with the opposite gender that means they are heterosexual now.

That’s not how it works, that’s not how any of this works. Just because I’m with a man doesn’t make me straight. I’m still attracted to women too.

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velma sh.itjust.works velma@sh.itjust.works
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I’d like to see all stereotypes disappear but if I had to pick one: The idea that if a bisexual person is in a relationship with the opposite gender that means they are heterosexual now. That’s not how it works, that’s not how any of this works. Just because I’m with a man doesn’t make me straight. I’m still attracted to women too.

Completely agree. I have had to clearly define that I am still bisexual even when I sleep with men. It’s like one of the defining characteristics of being bisexual.

To add: bisexuals are more likely to cheat than monosexuals.

Straight people cheat all the time. It’s not something bisexuals do at a higher rate than everyone else.

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ZDL lazysoci.al ZDL@lazysoci.al
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I’d like to see all stereotypes disappear but if I had to pick one: The idea that if a bisexual person is in a relationship with the opposite gender that means they are heterosexual now. That’s not how it works, that’s not how any of this works. Just because I’m with a man doesn’t make me straight. I’m still attracted to women too.

This right here. Dumbest take I ever saw was someone pointing out that me being bisexual means that sexual orientation is a choice since I switch between lesbian and heterosexual. Blew his mind when I asked him about those times I had both in bed...

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Wren lemmy.today Wren@lemmy.today
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That gender and sexuality are static. People can grow, change and figure things out as they go. While some trans people believe they have always been a specic gender regardless of presentation, others are more fluid. Sometimes I feel more into women, sometimes I'm more into men, but I'm still pansexual.

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birdwing lemmy.blahaj.zone birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2025-08-19
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All of them, but if I'd pick anything, it's the whole "gender ideology" bullshit.

If anything, it's gender ideology to:

  • forcibly segregate people by gender and limit them into two artificial brackets
  • mutilate minors by condemning them to surgeries they don't consent to
  • cheer on femicide
  • disparage mental health under the guise of 'man up'
  • reject self-consensual gender-affirming healthcare like HRT and surgeries for others or oneself
  • rape or kill others to ""gain"" a nonexistent honour back
  • put much of healthcare behind a (gendered) paywall
  • not provide uterine and penile transplants to trans people (part of gender affirming healthcare)
  • refuse to carry out an abortion
  • force people to birth children and force them out of equal-pay work, controlling them (the economic rapists' mindset)
  • and so on

it's never "family values", it's always all about controlling the other

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