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Grail multiverse.soulism.net Grail@multiverse.soulism.net
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Just started playing Death Stranding and the main character has it! Although the game calls it aphenphosmphobia. And I'm not sure it's a phobia, since it's a very rational fear for him.

I also dislike being touched, and I'm glad to have a word for it. Previously I just used the word autism, which is more accurate, but less specific.

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Darkcoffee sh.itjust.works Darkcoffee@sh.itjust.works
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That you would admit to not knowing this is so humble, I'm touched- AAAAAH

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underthunder thelemmy.club underThunder@thelemmy.club
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Grail multiverse.soulism.net Grail@multiverse.soulism.net
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Yes, and as an officially verified autist, I think self-diagnosis is valid. Testing is expensive and isn't worth it for everyone.

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Triumph fedia.io Triumph@fedia.io
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This knowledge is touching, I'm afraid.

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ohmancer lemmy.world iconic_admin@lemmy.world
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Where is the line between a phobia and not liking something? I also don't like to be touched, I prefer not to be touched but I’m not “afraid” of being touched.

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TheFeatureCreature lemmy.ca TheFeatureCreature@lemmy.ca
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Where is the line between a phobia and not liking something? I also don't like to be touched, I prefer not to be touched but I’m not “afraid” of being touched.

That depends. These days, much of the time when people call something a "phobia" they really just mean "mildly dislike".

Phobias are irrational and excessive fear responses to various things. They are often very extreme and can be life-disrupting for the people that have them, depending on what the phobia is. A phobia for an everyday occurrence can really screw up someone's life and require extensive help to overcome it so they can improve their quality of life.

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ohmancer lemmy.world iconic_admin@lemmy.world
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That depends. These days, much of the time when people call something a "phobia" they really just mean "mildly dislike". Phobias are irrational and excessive fear responses to various things. They are often very extreme and can be life-disrupting for the people that have them, depending on what the phobia is. A phobia for an everyday occurrence can really screw up someone's life and require ext...

I agree that people really throw the word phobia around. Like OCD, you probably don’t have OCD if you like straight lines and symmetry, everyone likes those things.

Real OCD is a problem.

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underthunder thelemmy.club underThunder@thelemmy.club
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Yes, and as an officially verified autist, I think self-diagnosis is valid. Testing is expensive and isn't worth it for everyone.
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MentalEdge sopuli.xyz MentalEdge@sopuli.xyz
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Both terms are correct. There are a couple names.

Haphephobia is the easiest to pronounce though.

In the game we never really see Sam properly experience it. He just kinda pulls away from Deadman a little and he goes "oh you have a phobia".

The scene where they both cram into the shower to talk about BB should have had Sam on the floor in a fetal position.

But it doesn't. Several characters touch or go to touch Sam and he never reacts with more than an unspoken "pls no".

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waterbird lemmy.blahaj.zone waterbird@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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That depends. These days, much of the time when people call something a "phobia" they really just mean "mildly dislike". Phobias are irrational and excessive fear responses to various things. They are often very extreme and can be life-disrupting for the people that have them, depending on what the phobia is. A phobia for an everyday occurrence can really screw up someone's life and require ext...

It means more than just excessive fear. I have agoraphobia. It doesn’t cause panic attacks, it causes a shutdown for me and stresses me out if I know I have to go somewhere. I won’t be hyperventilating, but I will be struggling for force myself to Do The Thing.

For me, the agoraphobia is closer to the second meaning here.

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/phobia

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Grail multiverse.soulism.net Grail@multiverse.soulism.net
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I don't fucking know, I was a child when I got diagnosed.

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Grail multiverse.soulism.net Grail@multiverse.soulism.net
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Both terms are correct. There are a couple names. Haphephobia is the easiest to pronounce though. In the game we never really see Sam properly experience it. He just kinda pulls away from Deadman a little and he goes "oh you have a phobia". The scene where they both cram into the shower to talk about BB should have had Sam on the floor in a fetal position. But it doesn't. Several characters tou...

I dislike being touched and I react the same way as Sam does. It sucks and kinda hurts because of the overstimulation, but it doesn't debilitate Me. Just makes life a bit harder. My partners are very kind and ask permission before touching Me for intimate times.

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