Who's Rem?

Not ram I guess

Of course not. No one can afford ram.

https://breezewiki.com/rezero/wiki/Rem

Re:Zero

more than i ever got out of mine.

I'm pretty sure that's just someone's fanfic character. I've never seen them before.

Same-ies.

I just caught up after nearly a decade and this season is like: AAAAAAAAAH

Its a pretty popular character so you probably just arent enough of a weeb to know

🍃wooosh🍃

Stories like these warm my heart so much

Where is the joke tho?

I knew that but the whole fanfic thing threw me off a bit too much. If it was like "I didnt remember Ram had a sister" maybe

Would it be Sailor Moons or Sailors Moon?

There is a guy in my city who drives a blue Subaru with my comment as his license plate. Based on the comments here, I imagine even if someone recognized it as a Re:Zero plate, they probably wouldn't get half of what he did there.

As a dad now with a trans son I so get it. I'm blessed in I know who and what I am. I will never "get" what's going on in his head or understand what trans is or any of that shit. But I love him, I want him happy and I will defend whatever he decides to be until the ends of the world.

Note to everyone and self I use he/him because in my simple brain he has a dick he's a boy. Like me he doesn't give a shit because we joke about the old meme "I identify as an attack helicopter" and I tell people my pronouns are "dumb/ass" or if I'm being a dick "she/him"

Digressions aside. If it doesn't hurt anyone, and it makes someone happy, just let them be happy.

I don't know your kid or your relationship with them or anything, so I'm just speaking in generalities, but most trans people I know really appreciate being called by their preferred name and pronouns. If your kid is using certain pronouns with new people or with their friends that they are out to, it might be nice to give them a try. Maybe not, again I don't know you both, but just because someone is willing to joke about pronouns doesn't necessarily mean they don't actually care about them. Seems like you really care for your kid and I'm sure that if they wanted to be referred to with new pronouns that you'd be able to figure it out. Wishing you both the best.

Yeah man you should really be using the pronouns your child wants you to use. I imagine that they have accepted that this is the best relationship they can have with you. They're still your child and your unwavering support is important to building their self confidence regardless of whether they're cisgender or transgender.

I mean, it may be intentional because ita a dad joke thing. Like calling them Nintendos.

How much effort does it take to not use he/him though? Are you sure they're just saying they don't care so you don't feel bad about it?

I dunno, obviously I don't know you or your kid and you seem to be handling it much better than many would... It just seems weird to be so ambivalent to something so fundamental about your child.

I've had a good number of trans people in my classes over the years. I've frankly been shocked by the number of people who do not care if you guess their gender correctly. Obviously it isn't the norm, but they are out there.

Vibe-coded bot filters are becoming a landmark lately...

If he didn't just make fun of you to your face for liking the wrong things then he's ahead of the dad curve

that’s a self burn lol

Sailor Moonii

My dad never made fun of my interests and I do the same with my son. I can’t imagine doing that. My dad still keeps up with my son (his grandson’s) interests and will watch YouTube streamers and play Minecraft or whatever with him. 🙂

Sailor moons because there is only one, the other girls have different names

Also worth noting especially with younger people they can't disassociate online with offline.

Like way, way ahead of the curve. How is this a thing to complain about?

Do they have any idea how most parents are?

From someone that's been there, try to work on that mental switch. Even if the kid sees you as an exception, and really doesn't care if you don't, it's still a powerful thing to do it anyway. You can still crack jokes together and fuck around, but if you put in the effort to shift your language the rest of the time, it seriously uplifts someone that's in the process of finding their path as their authentic self.

And yeah, it is true that a decent number of kids in particular (as opposed to folks that are transitioning as adults) don't care about pronouns when their loved ones support them in every other way (or even just in most ways). They know some old fart has decades of brain patterns built up, and years of thinking of them as a given gender. They know it won't happen overnight, and thus aren't hurt by slips, or are hurt way less. But I've never met a trans kid that didn't feel happy and loved by a close family member putting in the effort anyway.

I promise you, the worst that can happen from trying is you get razzed for fucking up

How can you be sure they don't care? Could it be, instead, that they know it'll just be a pain in the ass to get you to do what they want, so they don't bother even if it'd make them happier? They're appeasing you so they can still have a relationship with you. You are refusing to appease them. Your child sounds more mature than you do.

I told my dad I was going to play board games with friends and he spelled out B-O-R-E-D and went on a rant about how much he hates board games and that they're for losers. We haven't spoken in about five years.

I don't think they're complaining

Sounds like you come from a line of good dads

I'm laughing that you're making the decision that they want to be identified as a girl. The point you're making is moot at this point but how you're attempting to make it is ignorant AF.

You're the one assuming shit here far more than I am and in fairness it's because you know jack shit about me and my kid.

Anyways, I find that funny.

How can anyone be sure of anything outside of what their actions tell us?

You're bang on my kid sounds more mature than I am but in fairness to me it's a low fucking bar.

What I will impart is that when they told me about being trans it was a good month before they told their mom not because he knew I would be more accepting but because I genuinely do not give a shit. I will love you unconditionally. We joke in my house that unless you're a furry I don't care what you are (and then yes, I make it very clear even if you were a furry I would still love you but will judge you harshly).

I think the big problem here which came up elsewhere is twofold.

1. This conversation exists outside of all additional context of my life and my kids life. People are pontificating on something in isolation.

2. Online is not offline. People are assuming that what we are typing here is the reality when it isn't.

Points taken what I will say is pronouns aren't top of mind with any of us. If anything I'm pretty big on using "buddy" which in this day and age is pretty gender neutral. Beyond that think of it as, he's a kid, I'm providing the safe space for him to be able to advocate for himself. If he wants me to use pronouns I will, but he needs to raise it. Not because I don't want to, but because he knows I love him unconditionally so he has an opportunity to show growth in himself and advocate that.

In all honesty he's shown far more growth than I did at his age all things considered.

The most grounded response and thank you. I commented elsewhere but ultimately I'm big on providing the space to do what you feel is comfortable so in that I'm more of a watch and wait.

My old man never really understood the stuff I liked (Battletech, D&D, Magic, Star Trek) but he knew they were important to me and that I wasn't unhealthy over them, and that was good enough for him.

Actually he managed to work Star Trek into the stuff he taught me like classical physics and quantum mechanics.

Resident Evil Zero for the Gamecube?

This made me smile

You can if you can make do with Dance Dance Revolution 3

I think you're missing the point though. If you actually don't give a fuck, and it would be something that they appreciate, why not change what you call them? Isn't that the right thing to do? If it actually cost you something then fine, there'd be an argument to not do it. Also, if you cared about it then there'd be an argument to not do it. Since you've said you don't care, why not just do it? If you can make your kid just a little happier, at no cost to yourself, why wouldn't you take that opportunity?

I wish I could say you're being selfish, but you aren't even doing that. It doesn't benefit you to not change. It's just spite I guess. You think it effects who you are to be nice to your child in a way that doesn't effect anything else.

Yeah, we don't know what the reality of the situation is. We only know what you've said. What you've said though is uncomfortable to hear. I don't like hearing about parents choosing to not do things that make their kid's life a little easier for absolutely no reason. If you actually don't care about what your child is called, and if you care about doing what's right for your child, then change. It's free, and I'm reasonable sure your child will appreciate it, probably more than you could realize. They obviously still want to be around you and don't want to make you uncomfortable, so return the favor.

As opposed to the sailor moonies, which is what you get when the unification church decides to go full L Ron Hubbard