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LPT: When someone compliments you, just say "thank you" instead of deflecting.
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The original was posted on /r/lifeprotips by /u/l7ed on 2026-06-14 16:24:41+00:00.


"I love that shirt!"

"Oh, this old thing? It was like $10."

"Great job on the presentation!"

"Honestly I had no idea what I was doing."

"You're a really good listener."

"I'm actually terrible, I just nod a lot."

We deflect compliments because we think we're being humble. But what we're really doing is telling the other person they're wrong. They put energy into noticing something about you, and you threw it back in their face.

Now I just say: "Thank you, that means a lot."

That's it. No self-deprecation. No redirection. Just acceptance.

It feels weird at first, almost arrogant. But it's not. It's letting someone be kind to you without making them work for it.

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