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Stamets lemmy.dbzer0.com Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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P00ptart lemmy.world P00ptart@lemmy.world
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That used to drive me absolutely insane when I was young. And it was almost always swishy pants. Who'd have thought all that time that it was just someone else's ADHD rubbing mine the wrong way.

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Jo Miran lemmy.ml JoMiran@lemmy.ml
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I'm a pacer. If I cannot pace, I hurt myself discreetly. Digging my nails or my mechanical pencil into my skin (under the desk) tends to work. Not too much, just enough to create a sharp sensation to keep me focused.

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bloogoose lemmy.zip bloogoose@lemmy.zip
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spicy pancake lemmy.zip janus2@lemmy.zip
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If the screaming isn't rhythmic/repetitive and I can't feel it coming through my seat, I might actually prefer it. A constant noise is easier to drown out for me 😭

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Stamets lemmy.dbzer0.com Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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Please check Rule 1.

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bloogoose lemmy.zip bloogoose@lemmy.zip
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Please check Rule 1.
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Stamets lemmy.dbzer0.com Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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#8 · Quote Reply

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Again, check Rule 1. Like... click the link instead of just making an unwanted bitchy assessment about a rule you tacitly agreed to upon engaging with this community.

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bloogoose lemmy.zip bloogoose@lemmy.zip
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#9 · Quote Reply

Again, check Rule 1. Like... click the link instead of just making an unwanted bitchy assessment about a rule you tacitly agreed to upon engaging with this community.
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CapuccinoCoretto lemmy.world CapuccinoCoretto@lemmy.world
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I'm a pacer. If I cannot pace, I hurt myself discreetly. Digging my nails or my mechanical pencil into my skin (under the desk) tends to work. Not too much, just enough to create a sharp sensation to keep me focused.

Wild. I'm a pacer when I need to think, and a leg jiggler, but this is really interesting to me. That sharp sensation lets you focus on something other than the sensation?

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Stamets lemmy.dbzer0.com Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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#11 · (edited) Quote Reply

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You must be new here. Doubt you'll be here long. Goodbye.

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danc4498 lemmy.world danc4498@lemmy.world
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#12 · Quote Reply

Are you my brain talking to me?

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Stamets lemmy.dbzer0.com Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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#13 · Quote Reply

Are you my brain talking to me?

Yes. Feed me chicken nuggets.

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Jo Miran lemmy.ml JoMiran@lemmy.ml
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Wild. I'm a pacer when I need to think, and a leg jiggler, but this is really interesting to me. That sharp sensation lets you focus on something other than the sensation?

Yes. It kind of replaces the need to fidget or rock. Pacing truly increases my focus and effectiveness (read superpowers engage). Pain is just a coping mechanism to make sure my performance doesn't degrade right into fully disconnected from the moment.

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danc4498 lemmy.world danc4498@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-06-10
#15 · Quote Reply

Yes. Feed me chicken nuggets.

MORE???

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Stamets lemmy.dbzer0.com Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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#16 · Quote Reply

MORE???

MOAR

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0x0 infosec.pub 0x0@infosec.pub
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Did anyone here say it is or are you just making up scenarios in your head?

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zurohki aussie.zone zurohki@aussie.zone
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#18 · Quote Reply

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If everything in this group sounds like normal behaviour to you, it might be time to get diagnosed.

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ChicoSuave lemmy.world ChicoSuave@lemmy.world
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I wonder if ADHD folks get restless leg syndrome. If I don't move my legs feel like they're on fire and my brain is screaming the whole time. It's like there's a feedback loop that my brain reroutes to motor control so the buzz doesn't use cognitive processing power.

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atomicbocks sh.itjust.works atomicbocks@sh.itjust.works
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#20 · Quote Reply

I wonder if ADHD folks get restless leg syndrome. If I don't move my legs feel like they're on fire and my brain is screaming the whole time. It's like there's a feedback loop that my brain reroutes to motor control so the buzz doesn't use cognitive processing power.

AFAIK restless leg syndrome is absolutely a co-morbidity for ADHD. Especially adult ADHD. I have both.

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RobotsLeftHand lemmy.world treesapx@lemmy.world
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#21 · Quote Reply

I wonder if ADHD folks get restless leg syndrome. If I don't move my legs feel like they're on fire and my brain is screaming the whole time. It's like there's a feedback loop that my brain reroutes to motor control so the buzz doesn't use cognitive processing power.

I don't know if it's restless leg syndrome, but my leg just bounces on its own like it has a screensaver default. Sucks most when there are people demanding I stop because they don't realize I have to actively concentrate to not do it.

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Arcanepotato crazypeople.online Arcanepotato@crazypeople.online
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That used to drive me absolutely insane when I was young. And it was almost always swishy pants. Who'd have thought all that time that it was just someone else's ADHD rubbing mine the wrong way.

Same, I'm way more understanding about it now. I might still need to uxcuse myself or wear headphones but I now completely understand it's not really optional for them.

Same with echolalia. It now understand the person is likely doing this to process information. Even though it fucks with my ability to process what they are saying, I just take a bit more time and we're okay.

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Courtney (she/her/they) lemmy.blahaj.zone EggInDisguise@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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#23 · Quote Reply

Did anyone here say it is or are you just making up scenarios in your head?

It's the "I like pancakes" "oh so you hate waffles" "bitch that's a whole other thing" meme.

But in comment form.

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kindnesskills literature.cafe kindnesskills@literature.cafe
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#24 · (edited) Quote Reply

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Sounds like you only read the headline of rule one and not the explanation. You need to click on the rule, because it's a link (that's why the text is blue).

It'll lead you to this which explains what being a party pooper means in this community/context: https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/post/4051762.

Everyone can have a bad day and respond too quickly or with anger. You made a mistake, and broke the one rule of the community. Try to be gracious about it, and you'll be met with grace, I promise.

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0x0 infosec.pub 0x0@infosec.pub
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#25 · (edited) Quote Reply

AFAIK restless leg syndrome is absolutely a co-morbidity for ADHD. Especially adult ADHD. I have both.

Me too. Pramipexole helps while falling asleep but ever since i started vyvanse i find myself needing pramipexole less and less.

Its funny how ive had the best nights of sleep in my life while on amphetamines lol, i sleep like a baby now

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dil piefed.zip dil@piefed.zip
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#26 · Quote Reply

Yes. It kind of replaces the need to fidget or rock. Pacing truly increases my focus and effectiveness (read superpowers engage). Pain is just a coping mechanism to make sure my performance doesn't degrade right into fully disconnected from the moment.

I stopped doing it because the marks stopped fading, now im just back to tweaking internally

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Noodle07 lemmy.world Noodle07@lemmy.world
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#27 · Quote Reply

Me too. Pramipexole helps while falling asleep but ever since i started vyvanse i find myself needing pramipexole less and less. Its funny how ive had the best nights of sleep in my life while on amphetamines lol, i sleep like a baby now

I really want to try vyvanse 😔

And yeah my only ADHD superpower is napping on amphetamines 👌

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PNW clouds infosec.pub ericatty@infosec.pub
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#28 · Quote Reply

I'd be watching TV after dinner with my Dad and he thought it was funny because he could tell when I'd doze off. My foot would stop bouncing.
He'd wait until it started up again to talk to me :)
I miss him.

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cecinestpasunecommunication lemmy.dbzer0.com cecinestpasunecommunication@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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#29 · Quote Reply

Be still as if you are not a living thing. Do not do little exercises. Do not stretch. Do not exercise. That's what the gym is for. Do not get any use out of your time. Everything must be only one thing. This is very healthy and not at all the core drive of fascism.

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MehBlah lemmy.world MehBlah@lemmy.world
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#30 · Quote Reply

Anything I did to stem was quickly squashed by my mother. She couldn't stand that I would tell my kids it was okay to go ahead and shake their leg if they needed to.

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cecinestpasunecommunication lemmy.dbzer0.com cecinestpasunecommunication@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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#31 · Quote Reply

Stop calling them 'neurotypicals' start calling them 'oblivion cultists' or 'friends of entropy'.

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Passerby6497 lemmy.world Passerby6497@lemmy.world
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#32 · Quote Reply

I'm a pacer. If I cannot pace, I hurt myself discreetly. Digging my nails or my mechanical pencil into my skin (under the desk) tends to work. Not too much, just enough to create a sharp sensation to keep me focused.

I'm not a pacer but a leg bouncer who did something similar. When I was young I figured out how to give myself foot cramps so I didn't have to get yelled at for the bouncing. Still do it periodically just for the sensation.

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Passerby6497 lemmy.world Passerby6497@lemmy.world
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#33 · Quote Reply

I stopped doing it because the marks stopped fading, now im just back to tweaking internally

Figure out how to give yourself muscle cramps, its a great way to get pain and not have to worry about any marks. I learned how to do that as a kid and its helped me so much over the years.

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explodicle sh.itjust.works explodicle@sh.itjust.works
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#34 · Quote Reply

Stop calling them 'neurotypicals' start calling them 'oblivion cultists' or 'friends of entropy'.

Attention Surplus Hypoactivity Stasis

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Jank literature.cafe Jank@literature.cafe
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#35 · Quote Reply

That used to drive me absolutely insane when I was young. And it was almost always swishy pants. Who'd have thought all that time that it was just someone else's ADHD rubbing mine the wrong way.

I can feel the sound of those pants in my fingernails.

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Squirrelanna lemmy.blahaj.zone Squirrelanna@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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#36 · Quote Reply

I'd be watching TV after dinner with my Dad and he thought it was funny because he could tell when I'd doze off. My foot would stop bouncing. He'd wait until it started up again to talk to me :) I miss him.

That's really sweet and thoughtful. Thank you for sharing, it made me smile c:

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brown567 sh.itjust.works brown567@sh.itjust.works
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#37 · Quote Reply

It either bounces on the outside or it bounces on the inside, and I got stuff goin' on inside

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Whats_your_reasoning lemmy.world Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world
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#38 · (edited) Quote Reply

My younger brother used to cross his leg over his lap while sitting at the kitchen table, and bounce his foot repeatedly. I sat next to him, and I used to tell him to stop "wagging his foot at me."

Stims are great, I'm a stimmer myself and I get it. But bro, I'm trying to eat my dinner here. Point your shaking bare foot elsewhere.

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Whats_your_reasoning lemmy.world Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world
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#39 · (edited) Quote Reply

Attention Surplus Hypoactivity Stasis

If you take out "hypoactivity," the acronym becomes ASS.

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Whats_your_reasoning lemmy.world Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world
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#40 · Quote Reply

I wonder if ADHD folks get restless leg syndrome. If I don't move my legs feel like they're on fire and my brain is screaming the whole time. It's like there's a feedback loop that my brain reroutes to motor control so the buzz doesn't use cognitive processing power.

Sadly, we do. I once told someone that when I couldn't sleep, I got up and exercised my legs. They immediately went, "But exercise is the opposite of what you should do when you want to sleep!" Yeah, well, all the "traditional" advice for insomnia has done jack squat for me so far, and if it works, it works.

My restless legs just wouldn't let me sleep until I gave up and went, "You want to move? Fine, I'll make you move til you regret it." A relentless half hour on an exercise bike later, and I was finally able to fall asleep. Take that, "sleep hygiene."

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Whats_your_reasoning lemmy.world Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world
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#41 · (edited) Quote Reply

I'm a pacer. If I cannot pace, I hurt myself discreetly. Digging my nails or my mechanical pencil into my skin (under the desk) tends to work. Not too much, just enough to create a sharp sensation to keep me focused.

This makes me wonder if anyone else kind of bites on their fingers near the edge of their nail - not the tip of it, but the side perpendicular to it.

I say "kind of bites" because sometimes it's like a nip, sometimes I just press it against my teeth. Something about the sensation really hits the spot for me and I have no idea how long it's been a habit. It feels as satisfying as scratching an itch.

This might be more of my autistic sensory experience leaking into the ADHD forum, though.

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PhoenixDog lemmy.world PhoenixDog@lemmy.world
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#42 · Quote Reply

It either bounces on the outside or it bounces on the inside, and I got stuff goin' on inside

I had my adhd evaluation last week and had to have it over the phone as the doctor had a family emergency and needed to be home.

One of the questions was "more often or less often, how often to you bounce your leg, fidget with something, or other forms of outward stimulation."

I simply replied with "my leg hasn't stopped bouncing during this entire phone call"

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PhoenixDog lemmy.world PhoenixDog@lemmy.world
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#43 · Quote Reply

Anything I did to stem was quickly squashed by my mother. She couldn't stand that I would tell my kids it was okay to go ahead and shake their leg if they needed to.

Strange your kids even know your mother at this point.

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PhoenixDog lemmy.world PhoenixDog@lemmy.world
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#44 · Quote Reply

I wonder if ADHD folks get restless leg syndrome. If I don't move my legs feel like they're on fire and my brain is screaming the whole time. It's like there's a feedback loop that my brain reroutes to motor control so the buzz doesn't use cognitive processing power.

Shaking leg is directly linked to adhd.

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PhoenixDog lemmy.world PhoenixDog@lemmy.world
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#45 · Quote Reply

Sadly, we do. I once told someone that when I couldn't sleep, I got up and exercised my legs. They immediately went, "But exercise is the opposite of what you should do when you want to sleep!" Yeah, well, all the "traditional" advice for insomnia has done jack squat for me so far, and if it works, it works. My restless legs just wouldn't let me sleep until I gave up and went, "You want to move...

My partner is Audhd and has a cup of coffee before they go to bed.

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ChicoSuave lemmy.world ChicoSuave@lemmy.world
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#46 · Quote Reply

Sadly, we do. I once told someone that when I couldn't sleep, I got up and exercised my legs. They immediately went, "But exercise is the opposite of what you should do when you want to sleep!" Yeah, well, all the "traditional" advice for insomnia has done jack squat for me so far, and if it works, it works. My restless legs just wouldn't let me sleep until I gave up and went, "You want to move...

Exercise promotes better more restful sleep. You have the right of it by getting out of bed and burning off that energy.

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some_guy lemmy.sdf.org some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org
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#47 · Quote Reply

Most resonant post of the morning.

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edible_funk sh.itjust.works edible_funk@sh.itjust.works
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#48 · Quote Reply

My partner is Audhd and has a cup of coffee before they go to bed.

Coffee makes me sleepy and I'm a leg shaker. This vexes me.

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Simon_Shitewood lemmy.ml Simon_Shitewood@lemmy.ml
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#49 · Quote Reply

This makes me wonder if anyone else kind of bites on their fingers near the edge of their nail - not the tip of it, but the side perpendicular to it. I say "kind of bites" because sometimes it's like a nip, sometimes I just press it against my teeth. Something about the sensation really hits the spot for me and I have no idea how long it's been a habit. It feels as satisfying as scratching an i...

I do, but I'm also AuDHD so it's not really useful information.

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MehBlah lemmy.world MehBlah@lemmy.world
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#50 · (edited) Quote Reply

Strange your kids even know your mother at this point.

She is dead. I didn't go to the funeral. My kids hadn't seen her in years. Toxic to the her last day.

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Nangijala feddit.dk Nangijala@feddit.dk
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#51 · Quote Reply

When my math teacher in third grade called a meeting with me and my parents to scold me for drawing in my math book instead of filling in the answers to the math problems and I continued to draw my little animals, anyways.

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