Childhood maybe? The past in general? The countryside? There are too many... people just see the bad parts of their life now and here, and the good parts of those things, while ignoring the ways those other things are worse in many other important ways (eg healthcare, personal freedom, LGBT+ rights, etc)

I can't help but notice that a lot of japanimation uses casual sexual assault as just a way of meeting cute and saying "Hello".

I think people don’t romanticize enough. Yes, the world is full of horrors, and they seem to be impossible for people to fix, but there is a lot of wonder that surrounds us.

Things in my life that are “normal” and in my opinion underromanticized: 1) How the hell do I live with a creature that doesn’t speak and we are able to not only coexist without problems, but we comfort each other and enjoy spending time together? 2) My husband and I were born 6k km apart, and yet we are pretty perfectly matched for each other. 3) I have survived for as long as I have because of a network of humans who would never know me, and who tried to build systems and devices to improve the world beyond their direct benefit.

Sometimes I like to imagine a monologue from David Attenborough describing human societies the way he would a termite colony- we're so specialized and cooperative! In response to an earthquake in Venezuela, dozens of other countries sent teams of rescuers- as kind as that is, it’s not exactly a surprise. When I about how awed I would be to hear that termites do that for neighboring conspecific colonies though, it puts it in perspective.

I heart this comment.

it just makes me look bitter and angry ... which, as a person, I try not to be.

Just as an aside- I don’t pay a lot of attention to usernames, but I have strong associations with yours and thoughtfulness. You seem like you try to understand your emotions, and those of others, which doesn’t really line up well with bitter and angry.

Sorry if that’s too much, but there are a few usernames that stick out as notably reasonable to me and yours is one of them.

Jealousy. It's entirely unhealthy and we should stop treating it as a part of a "healthy" relationship.

Skepticism. A healthy amount is good, too much and you lose your imagination.

All I'll say is there's nothing as perfect and good as it appears. Nothing.

Dogs.

It's also arguably true that e.g. Stephen Miller is exactly as perfect and good as he appears, because he doesn't appear to be good at all.

Jealousy in relationships? Jealousy of what, specifically?

I wouldn't be so sure.

So, just to be clear, I am talking specifically about Jealousy and not about Envy, which are two very different thing we, for some reason, often conflate and confuse.

Jealousy means to want to keep something to oneself, specifically one's partner in this case. I am not advocating here that everyone should be polyamorous.

But possessiveness of one's partner is often a very toxic, unhealthy thing. The idea of "belonging" to someone. That friendship with someone of the same gender and/or sex as your partner could be a threat. That romantic involvement should necessarily mean overall preferment in every domain. etc.

(To be clear, I do think monogamy is inherently harmful, but that's not the point I'm making here. I recognise that other opinion is rather more controversial, and that I am less well able to justify and argument for it)