Women can self-loathe too. The mistake some men make is thinking they're all the same.

She found out he can't spell tries

Its called avoidant bonding type.

Impossible challenge: write a greentext without making it about a 'girl'

This sounds pretty typical to me.

They like each others looks, and start talking a bit. She realizes just how many red flags anon is raising, and starts to backpedal.

Fuck women impossible to understand amirite.

Edit: nothing is black and white, especially when it come to people. I was just pointing out one of the likely scenario that hadn't been pointed out when I posted.

https://sh.itjust.works/post/62957191

Just for you

Is it a blatant repost? Yes

Is it about a 'girl'? No

😅

Most "greentext" is propaganda to make everyone hate each other.

So you just stop bonding?

Go find some other greentexts then and post them here.

Thats not a problem with "liking someone back." I think the post would have read along the lines of " i hate when someone isn't who they seem to be" in your scenario.

Yeah, some people want to be abused too, and they feel the ick if the person isn't abusive and starts avoiding them.

Women are not a unified organism controller by a singular hive mind? Isn't that the job of Queen Kerrigan?

Basically yes. Once things get too "close" or too "real" people with that attachment style tend to get really scared and bail.

/> greentext about trying to woo a woman again

Which is ironic cos no bonding gets done in that case

I don't really think it's that simple.

I think it's about that weird thing people (not women) do that makes them attracted to strangers but not friends. I find it mentioned everywhere, both online and offline.

I think that's what anon is experiencing too.

I really don't understand why people just lose all attraction as soon as mysteriousness is no longer a factor. And I've seen it happen with my own damn eyes, to me AND others.

I don't get it.

It's as if as soon as I become readily available to anyone, I suddenly become much more worthless and disposable too... Suddenly every other aspect of theif life takes priority and I'm number last. I guess because other things are only available conditionally whereas I'm pretty much always available? Idk.

Also if I'm not interested in someone, that someone always wants to interact. It's as if life constantly works to spite me.

Edit: I'm so glad I didn't get downvoted to oblivion...I feel so validated. Thanks y'all...

Nah I was raised female and legit had friends like this some women (as with men) just never grow up. On a very tangentially related note I've been reflecting recently on the very primal attractiveness of a man who is visibly strong and horny enough to fuck me up but who is also visibly restraining themselves. The testosterone + self control combo is just an immediate vagina geyser.

And of course it turned out moot is directly linked to the Epstein class.

How can you tell he's horny? Is he rocking a hard on all day?

Edit: I'm cluing in this attractiveness was during sex and not just general attractiveness

There's all kinds of people out there, that's for sure. Some women (and men) do like the bulky, rough on the edges but overall caring type, but some don't appreciate that virility and attention from a partner and prefer a more candid approach, others are almost self-destructive and inevitably go for guys that I wouldn't give the time of day, to each their own.

My point is mostly that there're a lot of reasons people don't click, there's nothing wrong with that.

Perhaps, that's a good point. It is a green text though, and my bet is that the pic is unrelated.

Nah, Kerrigan is the Queen Bitch of the Universe. Only controls bitches.

To be miserable.

And they are very very good at making themselves miserable, and going on a rant about how they this is your fault and all men are awful.

Your job in life is to avoid folks who choose to be miserable. good luck

Ideally

they lose attraction because they were never attracted to the person. they are attracted to the fantasy of the person.

and once you become too 'real' you destroy the fantasy and they have no more interest.

Why do you think romance books are SO HOT right now? because they are pure fantasy and lots of ladies want nothing but a fantasy romance and they are addicted to daydreaming, and they compare the real world romance to and it and angry it doesn't 'live up' to the storybooks they read.

it's like if a a guy was very angry and mad that he didn't have superpowers after watching a bunch of Marvel movies or comic books... it's absurd... people would mock and laugh at him.

but you if you tell women that they will just claim you are a misogynist and you are defending men for 'failing' by not being minotaur billionaires that they feel they 'deserve'.

i had an ex who broke up with me because I wouldn't physically beat her, and like kept trying to goad me into punching and hitting her.

and no not in a bdsm way, it was in a 'my daddy beat my mom and that's what i think love is' way. she basically said I don't love her unless I 'show her what a real man I am by making her stay with me'.

that was one of the most fucked up nights of my life. took me like two years to get over that. some people are truly and seriously emotionally fucked up and think they are 'right' and everyone else is 'wrong'.

and then they go around complaining to everyone how nobody is 'deep' enough for them or something similar. i notice folks like that love to think they are like the most 'deep' person who ever lived... shit's so weird.

Why do you think romance books are SO HOT right now? because they are pure fantasy and lots of ladies want nothing but a fantasy romance and they are addicted to daydreaming, and they compare the real world romance to and it and angry it doesn’t ‘live up’ to the storybooks they read.

The irony is that a bunch of boys got into incel culture because a lot of the media they consumed had women as a prize or "side effect" of being the hero or a "good guy", but got blindsided by real life not giving them any.

Which makes it all double gay and square fake

This is why you date, wheat from chaff and all that. The day you find someone perfect is the day you can stop looking

Yeah, the whole situation is too vague to read for certain, even if it really happened.

I do find it more likely that this was a "Never meet your crushes" than an "OMG wtf would they like me" just out of the blue.

Emmy trying not to be a terrible place:

D/s kink. Girl wants to "date up" - dating a guy who is superior to her. The guy she wants has lots of other options with women, and so is not very interested in her. So she has to work to win him over and prove that - even though she is average in every way (except for being smokin hot), actually deep down inside in some way that doesnt manifest in the real world at all, she is the most specialist girl in the whole wide world.

But she can only maintain this fantasy as long as he plays his role of not being interested in her until she has proved herself. In Anon's case, he's autistic, and so initially ignored her. Then his attempts at "flirting" were cold and stone-faced, showing he has only a small amount of interest but he still needs to be convinced. But then Anon broke the fantasy by asking her out before she had "proved" herself.

Anon's biggest problem was not being attractive enough to have lots of other girls intersted in him so he would actually not care if this girl liked him. If he did this instead, he would both improve his odds with this girl without even trying, and also not care if she decided she actually didn't like him.

If you think of it like everyone has their ideal "closeness" range, it makes more sense.

Some people like to be extremely close and become one combined person. Others like to keep partners at arm's length. Neither one is "wrong", they're just incompatible with each other.

If you get two compatible avoidant people, they tend to keep things casual and aloof, but know each other very well over the years. They just don't usually live in the same house.

or you just stop looking because you are sick of all the miserable bullshit and you just want to enjoy your life without other people's miserable bullshit weirdo nonsense in it.

and you're shocked that... you feel really good most days instead of feeling like shit most days... almost as of how other people treat you has a huge impact on your mental health and cutting out people who treat you poorly makes you feel a lot better about life.

that's not at all impossible, a lot of the time it's really about a guy

I think this is what you want.

Getting to know people better can change your feelings about them... sometimes it makes them more attractive and sometimes less. I don't know if anyone has found me less attractive after getting to know me but I've certainly had that happen with girls I've been attracted to.

If it's a common experience for you it's probably worth exploring whether or not it's a you problem, and if so if it's something you can and should correct. There's no shortage of crappy, shallow people so maybe not but being introspective and honest with yourself is always good for you.

It's funny, I have had that exact experience with guys when I was young. The second I started returning the interest, they would drop me like I was a venomous snake and go flirt with someone else.

Until I met my boyfriend I just thought men didn't want women to like them back. Color me confused when the pre historic version of incel/manosphere culture began bitching about women playing hard to get back in the late 2000s/early 2010s on various forums.

Was over here like: y'all are the ones who run for the hills whenever a girl shows you she likes you, though. 🤷‍♀️

I mean yea that's also an option. Being happy alone should always come before being happy with someone else, if at all.

Also in my experience, a lot of women don't like to openly express consent in spoken communication. If im in a situation where i think we should kiss, ill ask the first time and they'll often say yes, and later confess to me that asking kinda killed the mood for them. Like sorry but consent is important and I'm not one to bank on my autisitc ass misreading subtle body language.

No one is more convinced that you can pull women than a woman whom is attracted to you. Now you just gotta live up to that fantasy even if IRL most women wouldn't give you the time of day.

Listen to the titty frog. This is wisdom

Why should i never meet my crushes? Should i just chase people i feel neutral about instead? A good crush inspires me to be romantic, carefully plan dates, and even take better care of myself, which is a nice cycle cause some of those things boost my confidence anyway even if the crush doesn't feel the same way.

I usually need to get to know someone before they are attractive. I describe it as me being greedy, i want the full package not just one that looks nice.

Oh I'm not trying to say it's "bad" fundamentally in and of itself or anything like that. I was just trying to give a basic explanation of why a more avoidant person might bail in that situation. I'm not trying to imply that someone with a more avoidant attachment style can't have a real or meaningful relationship, those were just the words I felt would make the most sense to the person I was explaining it to for a very basic bare bones explanation.

This could be a good strategy to find someone too. People are more attractive when they feel good about themselves.

this also works for sandwiches. enjoy every sandwich.

Typically for a man at least, if you aren't active looking, you're never going to find anyone. Feeling good about yourself isn't going to attract people... being attractive and approaching them is really what you have to do.

Is this why I always got ghosted? I was beginning to think they were just cruelly toying with me...