Link: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/gaining-and-sustaining/202607/why-conversations-leave-us-emotionally-exhausted

When we think about being present, we usually picture putting our phones away, slowing down, or practicing mindfulness. We imagine learning to quiet our thoughts and focus on the moment. But there’s another kind of presence that rarely gets discussed. It’s the kind that happens in our conversations. And it may be one of the overlooked reasons so many helpers, parents, leaders, and partners end conversations feeling emotionally drained.

Yeah, I'm still working on it but keeping distance from what people are telling you actually allows them to feel like you're closer to them. And also when telling people and seeing how they respond -- when they respond "well I . . . " you can tell they're immediately taking what you say and internalizing it rather than actually listening and responding to what you are saying.