Everything in moderation, including moderation.

Hanlon's razor: never attribute to maliciousness that which can be explained by stupidity. With a corallary: never attribute to stupidity that which can be explained by mere ignorance.

Also: embrace the impermanence.

"Go with the decision that would make the better story if you had to tell someone about it"*

*Keeps me from being stuck at home when I could do something more fun

As a person with adhd, for me it is: "Better make a little progress than none at all." If i spend even 15 to 30 minutes once every few days, i will eventually get the result, than not doing it at all. Also, spening a lot of time and effort will exhaust me quickly, compared to just 15 to 30 minutes.

This is a great rule to follow!! This framing has helped me break past the inability to get started on a task so many times.

This rule goes along with another one. Firtsly i make my things work at all, even if they suck. I can always improve them or add something new later. This rule allows me return to my old projects, and every time do new incremental progress.

"Be the kind of person you admire."

Call out bullshit when I see it, regardless of who it's coming from.

It's served me well enough so far.

fuck it dog life's a risk

for people: start with kindness there will be enough time to give them a hard time, if they suck.

also: give them chances to normalise the relationship (but know boundaries!)

Don't borrow trouble.

There's no rules except those I agree to

As a recovering people pleaser: Not my circus, not my monkeys.

I've had to learn to stop trying to fix everything for everyone all the time.

Ooof that is a hard one for me! I almost never finish anything, I need to live more like this

I always try to do my best.

My "best" changes a lot from day to day - some days it's all I can do just to make it through.

But I think people can see that I care, and that i'm trying. And trying is what matters.

To crush my enemies. See them driven before me and here the lamentations of their women.

I'm done hiding.

Are you complying with rule 1 of this community? (Note: asking, not accusing.)

Machi Bhasad (or "Expect a Riot").

My mother brought me up to be quiet and deferential. That ... changed ... around my late '20s and early '30s.

Also helps to not overthink what's being done. Just Do It. Takes 90% less time to just act

I try to do this; but, I live in Ohio. Malicious ignorance is a way around here... ಠ_ಠ

This is the problem that i struggle with. I think too much before doing anything.

It's a quote from conan the barbarian and is in jest it's an old reference so I imagine the under 40's won't get it.

That was not an answer to the question asked.

I know where the quote is from. I don't need to see a reminder of violence against women in this particular space.

"Not my circus, not my monkeys" is a great rule to live by. I like that one a lot.

It’s cliche as fuck but:

Live every day like it’s your last and don’t get hung up on the past

It’s not always easy to follow, but after nearly dying before I was 30, I consider my life to be a second chance, a gift that I don’t want to waste. I do still sometimes get hung up on the past, but at least now, I can take a few breaths, think about the BS that almost killed me, and I can move forward with my life.

Try not to be a dick. I just feel if everyone followed that then the world might be a better place.

Everything is temporary until you etch your name in human history.

never stagnate

Same energy as "fuck it we ball"