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The original was posted on /r/bestofredditorupdates by /u/Direct-Caterpillar77 on 2026-08-07 04:02:02+00:00.

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I am not The OOP, OOP is u/heartbreakaccount313

It turns out I should have been worried about the friend of my fiancé that everyone told me not to worry about

Originally posted to r/TrueOffMyChest

Thanks to u/queenlegolas for suggesting this BoRU

TRIGGER WARNING: Infidelity and assault

Original Post  March 31, 2026

This is hard for me to write. The man that I thought was the love of my life has decided to be someone else instead. They grew up together. Their families are close. When I first met him I was wary because of how close they are but he [along with everyone else who knows them] assured me there is nothing between them. "They are like brother and sister." And I was stupid enough to believe it.

Last week I was assaulted at my job. One of my eyes is swollen shut and it hurts like hell. I'm a nurse and I was assaulted by a patient that I had administered naloxone to I am at home resting and my fiancé was with me until he found out that his close friend was in a small car accident. A van backed into her car in a carpark. She wasn't even inside but my fiancé lost it when he found out. He left our flat to be with her even though she was with her boyfriend. She wasn't hurt but my fiancé said he thought she was, and it made him realise that he loves her and "can't lose her." He told me he confessed his love to her and she said she feels the same and it broke something inside me.

I don't even know why I'm writing this. It won't bring him back.

RELEVANT COMMENTS

itsyaboi69

Why would you want him back?

He is in love with someone else. Good riddance.

Better now than after getting married.

OOP

I love him. I know it's stupid but I thought he was the love of my life and I miss him so much even though it hasn't even been a week since he left. I miss him so much.

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EpiphanyKingOfSorrow

I'm so sorry you were assaulted. I hope that the patient sees charges. Change of pace in the comments. Don't be sad and heartbroken. Be glad and be determined now. He may have sworn love to her. But I don't think it's returned, no matter what he said. Remember, she has a boyfriend. I would ask said boyfriend if he knows about the situation. Because chances are he doesn't. Before anyone tells you not to say anything. If the shoe was on the other foot, wouldn't you want the boyfriend to let you know if he found out your boyfriend was confessing his love to his girlfriend. Then, if I were you, all the people who said you shouldn't worry, I would cut them off. I wouldn't even message them. Finally, I would go out to eat and enjoy myself because I need to celebrate someone removing himself in my life.

OOP

She does feel the same.

Her boyfriend told me she broke up with him. He is not staying in their flat any longer because my fiancé is there now.

Edit: I appreciate the Reddit cares messages I am getting. I promise I am not that bad. I have no plans to go down that road. But I appreciate that everyone wants to help.

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anarie

Make sure everyone (ESPECIALLY the ones who said not to worry) knows why you're splitting up. Be specific and intentional, and make it clear that he's romantically pursuing once viewed as a SIBLING. I have been in your shoes, albeit we weren't yet engaged. He tried so hard to convince me she wasn't a threat. I believed him, even allowed her to move in with us–and let her girlfriend move in too. It took 8 months for them to cheat together, less than 24 hours for me to find out, and I was over out within the week after the three of them tried to convince me to stay and continue contributing to bills. Oh, and they kicked me out of my own bed.

TLDR: Run.

OOP

My fiancé is staying in her flat and she broke up with her boyfriend. Everyone knows that they are together now. They are not hiding it. Everyone knows and hearing people talk about them hurts so much.

Update  July 31, 2026 (4 months later)

I heard that my ex-fiancé proposed to her. His family, her family and our friends are all over the moon about them being together. No thought for me or her ex-boyfriend and our lives being torn apart. I have only seen and spoken to her ex-boyfriend once since the incident I mentioned in my other post. Wherever he is, I just hope he is doing well. Imagine my ex and his ex saying it wasn't cheating because they left us first. As if that makes it better. After my ex-fiancé left I had to deal with cancelling everything for our wedding and getting our flat sorted out and signing a new lease. I had to block him, and everyone who keep telling me it was fate or they were meant to be together. I am trying to move on but I don't know how. I thought I would be marrying the love of my life tomorrow but instead he wants to marry someone else.

Also I don't know if anyone will care about this but I had to turn off my ability to receive chats. I received several telling me that my assault was deserved or that my attacker was right. I got tired of seeing those notifications so I turned it off.

Edit: so thank you to everyone who is sending me Reddit care messages, but I'm all right for that. None of those thoughts or intentions.

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Of all the childhood friend stealing yo man stories I read this is probably the cleanest one. Really best case if your partner is going to leave better now than later.