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The original was posted on /r/bestofredditorupdates by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 on 2026-08-08 04:00:08+00:00.

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I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/bellaboo123

Originally posted to r/AITAH

AITAH if I told my neighbour she won’t get a penny from me?

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Original Post: July 17, 2026

I (19f) live on a cul de sac estate where no one gets along, it’s very cliquey. Where my house is positioned I have my drive in front of my gates in which I can park on, and there’s a long grass verge. To stop people from constantly digging up the verge and making it a pool of mud I have put up wooden stakes with white tips on to preserve the grass and also make the stakes known enough.

As I came back home today one of my neighbours has stormed up to me and demanded money because, she herself has reversed into one of the stakes and it has caused “significant” damage to her back bumper. I in which told her that if she has reversed into it, it’s her fault.

A bit of backstory but my entire street has wooden stakes as also to protect the grass verges, I simply obtained permission from the local council which I was then able to put them up.

She then didn’t like that answer and said, “if you don’t pay up, there will be significant damage, I can guarantee that!” She threatened to call the police for criminal damage and also told me to watch my back, but I stood my ground.

WIBTA if I just ignored her and went on with my life?

AITAH has no consensus bot, OOP was unanimously NTA

Relevant / Top Comments

OOP explains what a verge is

OOP: It’s a patch or strip of grass in which is close to the road, path or driveway

Commenter 1: Nope. The way a person drives and damages their own vehicle should be their problem.

Commenter 2: Send her a bill for damaged stakes.

And notify appropriate authorities of the threats.

Commenter 3: NTA. The stakes are marked clearly it sounds like. She’s just mad that she wasn’t paying attention and damaged her own car. Stand your ground.

Update: August 1, 2026 (over two weeks later)

UPDATE: AITAH if I told my neighbour she won’t get a penny?

So neighbour called the council, thinking that she could get them to remove my posts/stakes.

I had a knock on the door a few days ago from someone from my local council, but I didn’t answer as he knocked quite aggressively. I rang up and spoke to someone within the council which told me she had created a complaint against my posts and that I would have to remove them BUT I could apply for a shrubbery license and put bushes in.

Best part is that now everyone on my street also have to remove their stakes. The neighbour who complained is known to be quite aggressive (walks like she’s 10 men) and it’s a very cliquey street with my neighbours across the road from me being the “influential and popular” well known neighbours.

A few days after this happened, neighbour 1 (aggressor) spoke to neighbour 2 (popular) and had a long 45 minute conversation facing my house and pointing to my stakes. What I believe happened was neighbour 2 told neighbour 1 that if she rang up and made a complaint that everyone would have to take them out and she told neighbour 1 that if that happened then there would be backlash to her as everyone including neighbour 2 has stakes and doesn’t want them to be removed.

Well as you know we’re all now receiving a letter to say they need removing and I also found out neighbour 1 had tried to retract her complaint but the lady at the council told her tough luck, FAFO. LOL. A win win for me in this case as I can now plant lovely flowered shrubs and she looks like TA.

Relevant Comments

Commenter 1: I would put cameras up where you’re gonna plant your bushes this way if she backs up and damages them then you can have visual proof.

OOP: I’ve put up 2 cameras, and I have my ring doorbell to cover all angles

Commenter 2: Like, the facts of the story make it sound like you're in the right.

But then the neighbour is aggressive and the council knocks too aggressively and the neighbour walks aggressively like 10 men, and now I can't help but wonder if it's just you seeing hostility everywhere.

OOP: It’s been a battle for 7 years of living here, my mum and her were once friends but there was a day my mum was gardening on the phone, and she didn’t say hello and that was it, she’s held a grudge since

Commenter 3: You said you got permission from the council to put up the stakes and now they're demanding you remove them? Did AI hallucinate this story?

From your OP:

A bit of backstory but my entire street has wooden stakes as also to protect the grass verges, I simply obtained permission from the local council which I was then able to put them up.

OOP: No, I do have permission which is a recorded call on my ring cameras in my house upstairs, because it’s caused such an issue they’ve revoked my permission

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THIS IS A REPOST SUB - I AM NOT OOP

Always some little bitch ruining it for everyone. Least no one blames op.