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The original was posted on /r/autism by /u/Organic_Future6909 on 2026-08-18 11:40:40+00:00.

When an autistic person is isolated and discriminated against by society, the common answer is: "oh well I mean they have a social disability of course that they will struggle socially".

And even if this is partly true, there is just something that doesn't fit in, a piece of the puzzle that we're missing.

Because yeah, obviously autism comes with social struggles and those struggles will cause bad social outcomes, but it's me or those outcomes are a little bit... Disproportionate?

The social deficits of an autistic person (usually level 1) can be a weird voice tone, abnormal eye contact, weird body language, trouble understanding things like sarcasm, etc.

And even if those symptoms can impact us socially, the social ostracize that autistic people face for it is absurd.

When you ask an autistic individual their social problems, most of the time they won't say "oh sometimes I don't understand sarcasm jokes hahaha" or "oh my friends think that I'm angry when I'm not", their description of social issues would be: "people literally hate me for no reason by just seeing me, I get constantly bullied and rejected by strangers or even friends and family, people who are supposed to be my support group ghost me, etc".

This is weird considering that even in the mildest cases where the social deficits can be easily accommodated, autists still heavily struggle with random acts of bullying or discrimination.

Something even more weird, is how NT individuals who break important social boundaries at a higher level than most autists don't struggle with this, for example individuals with ASPD are way more prone to commit crimes statistically but they don't suffer from the same social rejection as autistic individuals, how is literally being a criminal way less socially punishing than having abnormal eye contact?

So, the question is: what is exactly a "social issue" and how can we point out difference between a normal social inconvenience and straight up discrimination over mild social clumsiness, is the constant rejection against autistic people proportionate with their social deficits or society has a bias against them similar to racism or homophobia?

Idk, but I feel like there's something more to the reasons behind the social exclusion against autistic folks from NT's.