Edit: I do not understand why I am getting downvoted here? It should be fairly obvious that this is not a sexual thing? Do people disagree with it being beautiful?

Oh? A shitpost? Oh, oh, this is in shower thoughts....

I think you're still allowed to do this without being a dad without it being creepy, FYI. I hope you didn't throw your life away on children just to be able to do this because you thought it made you look like a creep otherwise! I mean, that would be crazy right?

EDIT: Thinking further on this-- Like, only a creep would admit that misplaced sexual energy, right? I mean, I've never looked at a woman breastfeeding a child and wanted to jerk it.

EDIT2: To be fair, if she were breastfeeding two other hot women or dudes or whatever. Adults. Doing adult play fetish things. I'd probably jerk it. But like, those streams shouldn't cross, yo.

I'm not a dad and breastfeeding is a heartwarming thing to me as well.

Lol... the replies are pretty savage on this one. Could it possibly be because of OP's instance?

Haha, just a bonus being able to watch my wife breastfeed our child. It's so cozy

Why is this a shitpost?

Dude read what you said. You're like happy you can gawk your wife put the boob to your baby's face or some shit. Its weird, and theres no way to word it that sounds how you intend.

No heart confirmed

Hmm.. Why is it weird? Is this some puritanical breasts = sex thing?

It's the most natural thing in the world. A newborn having a loving moment with its mom. Watching breastfeeding does not necessarily entail "gawking" at the breast itself.

Do people disagree with it being beautiful?

I guess I disagree. I just see it as some necessary function, not something beautiful. That said, I also don't find other functional things "beautiful", like bridges or waterfalls or whatever. But some people do for whatever reason.

You can't word that to not sound creepy. We get it, its encapsulates all micro and macros and the cycles of the universe, but you can't say "I like to watch my baby be breastfed" without sounding a little creepy.

Yeah yeah yeah thats not what I meant. I meant theres no way to state your opinion of this without sounding weird.

I mean... breastfeeding is a natural part of human and mammal existence. If you see it happening as a father or relative, then you're seeing a sign that things seem to be going healthily and relatively happily.

You also have to remember that what was likely part of your earlier attraction to your mate (reproductive organs) can later be seen in a completely different light. The breasts as a mechanism of nourishment, and of course the birth canal, delivering new life (and your personal offspring) in to the world.

So in these cases, there's a sense of transformation of one's viewpoint. Which can indeed be impressive, breathtaking, and yeah... beautiful. I don't see any reason any of that would necessarily be "creepy" for the person having that experience.

Should have tagged you in my comment above:
@comradepenguin@lemmy.ml

Try saying "I like watching babies breastfeed" without sounding creepy right now.

News at 10:

This just in.

Guy accidentally uses wrong word to describe breastfeeding and is getting downvoted.

Over to Diane.

Got it. So just strip away all that relevant context and pretend that it's some babies-breastfeeding fetish, and not actually father-child-mother related.

So here's a question-- would you say you've personally graduated from a certain horndog phase of younger life, one in which it's all too easy to view women as objects? And are you a father yourself?

You're trying really really hard to shame me here or something. But go for it dude. Be mad I said that. Have at it. Because it is true. "Oh yay I can finally watch my wife breastfeed the baby!" Just enjoy your child, no need to announce that you can finally watch them eat like a thorn has been removed from your side. Either way, the post is weird. I have seen all of my.kids breastfeed and never felt the need to announce it, or say anything at all about it. Its weird to do that.

You’re trying really really hard to shame me here or something.

I'm not aware of anyone here trying "really hard to shame you." Sorry if I came on too strong there, mate.

I have seen all of my.kids breastfeed and never felt the need to announce it, or say anything at all about it. Its weird to do that.

Alright, 'preciate your honesty, there. So evidently you never felt your attitude about breastfeeding transform from pre-fatherhood to post-fatherhood, is that correct? But yeah, I can definitely understand not every dad having that journey of sorts, and that's just how that works.

As for being 'weird,' I can certainly understand how some might feel that way (just look at the vote score!), but to me, I rather appreciated OP's thoughts in a place which is of course "ShowerThoughts" and nothing more remarkable than that. I actually do admire the honesty and bit of bravery by OP saying that, especially as it gets back to what I mentioned earlier-- the transformative qualities of being in long relationships.

If that's still not making sense, part of what I'm trying to get at is that when we're young, our hormones tend to have a major role in our mutual attraction, and then in the child-raising phase, things can shift considerably, and we can see each other with amazingly different eyes. Including 'sexual' matters. And then, as we age, our romantic relationships can shift in many ways in terms of nuance of friendship. And for sure, sadly or unsadly, we can also grow shockingly apart from someone we once loved dearly.

Bah. Mini-essay that nobody needed to hear... XD

its always going to be uncomfortable for me but im a heterosexual guy and a boob man at that. Ultimately that my problem to deal with though. Generally given the special clothes and mosdesty doodads that pretty much all women use with it in public its not that bad. Just makes it wierd to look in the direction. like im invading their privacy. Its kinda funny the way the brain is.

Lot of assumptions here. I'm on my 4th, whatever desensitization you think I haven't been through I have. It doesn't make this any less weird. My girl would look at me like I'm weird if I said "Y'know babe I just love watching you breastfeed, its so beautiful". Its just one of those things you appreciate and dont bother putting into words because that makes it weird. Some things dont need to be expressed through words, and those same things definitely come across as weird when posted about online to share with everyone. Thats what I mean, the act of breastfeeding itself or even just seeing it isn't weird. Its the announcement and speaking of it that mangles the moment.

Its the announcement and speaking of it that mangles the moment.

True enough, upon many things indeed...

I mean, different people handle the vagaries of childhood differently. Different people handle the intrinsic beauty of the female form differently, and sometimes words are best not spoken, as you say. Perhaps indeed my mind got corrupted (and expanded) about all this by a certain set of fine, memorable gentlemen, one of which managed to put out a certain song!

Eric Idle - The Galaxian Song:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iO_hENp5B4Q

There are places on this planet where mothers just breastfeed in public and nobody cares. There are places where they only do it in private. And then there are places where it's something in between. Some do it in private because they don't want creepy stares. Some dgaf any more because they haven't slept for longer than an hour at a time since giving birth. More reasons exist for either preference.

You laid the creepy landmine yourself so that's the most likely explanation for any down vote. Also, as a young parent you will learn that nobody cares about your thoughts on parenthood outside of a small circle of close family and friends. The same applies to being shown pictures, or worse, videos of your kid.

Any slightly controversial post illustrated with an image has the look of attempted rage bait too.

And thanks so much for answering from the 13yo segment of the crowd, right? That certainly always helps with complex matters like these, right? XD

Dad or not, I've found it's all about your facial expression in determining whether the feeder finds someone watching to be creepy or not. That's why whenever I see a woman breastfeeding, I abruptly stop whatever I'm doing, open my eyes as wide as possible, stare directly, unblinking, and start slowly nodding encouragingly, so they know that I approve, while a big, toothy grin blossoms on my face to make it further known that I find the sight beautiful. Then I add a thumbs up at the end, once my grin is as wide as possible, just to make it all official.

Surprisingly I think it may actually accelerate the feeding process, because the mothers always stop breastfeeding soon after I finish non-verbally communicating that I find what they're doing to be beautiful, in a non-creepy way. Humans are amazing! 😍

Don’t you see the emotional connection with the mother and the baby?

She's so soothed by your support that her milk flowed more freely. You're doing a real service and should be commended.

I read this persons comment, and like, I met a guy once who didnt appreciate music. Music

He was the biggest film head Ive ever met, but didnt feel anything for music. Thats what this persons comment reminded me of. Some people are just different. I dont veiw death the same way a lot of folks do. If they dont feel nothing about a mom breast feeding, thats absolutely fine. I didnt feel much for it myself, and I nursed for 16months. If I had to do it again, I dont want to do it again.

Please bring her a glass of water and a snack. It is cozy, but she cant move, please be her arms lol

Liking to watch the mother of your child care for that child, is not creepy. He didnt say he liked watching all women breastfeed, he said he liked watching his wife nurturing their baby, and exressed a change in world view on the supject, which is pretty cool.

When my tits were full back in the day, I could squirt milk across the room. I just made an image in my head squirting you with breast milk, mid way through your words here, and had a good laugh.

Let people engage with the content man. Why you gatekeeping expressions of joy?

This says so much more about you, than OP. Its not a bad thing you feel this way for you, but everyone is different. Your wife thinking its a weird thing, doesnt mean his wife will find it wierd. Maybe they are bonding over it.

I absolutely hated nursing, but I can understand someone else enjoying it. ya know?

i see behaviors that encourage survival that have been reinforced by millenia of evolution

one could call this an "emotional connection" i guess but emotions themselves are very purpose oriented

to you. without it sounding wierd to you

I always bring her a small towel, a clean pacifier, some wet towels, and often some tea and/or snacks.

I forgot when I dislike something it prevents everyone else from posting about it sorry.

Alright going around each part of this thread with your own response hours later is annoying.

congrats on your little life here :)

Man discovers how forums work for the first time, mind is ..annoyed.

I could walk through each point you felt you absolutely needed to respond as you scrolled this

like a sane normal person!? never ;)

Not a shower thought.

I feel like if you can read a thread in one go you can respond in kind. But you probably wanted to blast me with notifications.

When my wife was breastfeeding, I was told my grandfather was quite old fashioned in his views on breastfeeding (it should be done in private. At a family gathering, my wife went off to another room, to not make him feel uncomfortable. Shortly afterwards, we realised my grandfather had noticed she was missing, and went to keep her company. He would rather feel uncomfortable himself than let my wife feel pushed out. (He was completely unaware of the previous discussions)

Thank you <3

Humans are emotional creatures and make life and death decisions based on them. It's a flawed system, but it has worked adequately so far. For example, taking care of the people in your tribe boils down to emotions. This sort of cohesion keeps the tribe together and safe, so I would consider that a successful survival mechanisim.

We couldn't breastfeed our baby, she just wasnt for taking it, so we had to use bottles.

Worked out great for me because feeding my baby felt like a kind of magic.

Humans have emotions, yes, but it is not why we succeeded. ALL animals have emotions. If we blame our success on our emotions, then every animal should be as successful as we are. which they aren't. Humans are the Wise Man for a reason. Our primary adaptions that allowed is to survive over other animals is our intelligence and broad diet. might not be as romantic as our emotions think it should be, but that's what the evidence says.

That’s true, but intelligence is only necessary for certain kinds of success. Fruit flies, rats, cockroaches, and e. Coli are incredibly successful too. They can go pretty much everywhere and conquer the place in no time. They can’t really build stuff, but that’s not even needed for the kind of success they are aiming for.

Humans are social animals, just like rats and seagulls. They all need intelligence to understand their friends. This allows them to work together and succeed as a group.

Simpler animals may not have much intelligence, but they do have emotions. I would say that’s also a useful survival mechanism, but it’s just one tier below. When you have both, you open all sorts of interesting doors.