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ZILtoid1991
lemmy.world
ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world Joined: 2024-03-16 |
IDK, but probably thanks to a lot of trauma (TL;DR: ableist bullying), I try my best to extend projects or just leave them unfinished. Sometimes I just start new ones for no other reason that I don't have to finish the previous ones on time. |
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kadotux
sopuli.xyz
kadotux@sopuli.xyzJoined: 2023-04-30 |
Sounds more like ADHD territory to me |
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Slowy
lemmy.world
Slowy@lemmy.worldJoined: 2023-06-20 |
What do you feel or think when you are approaching the end of the project? Are you seemingly unable to force yourself to finish or are you actively choosing to delay? |
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Arcanepotato
crazypeople.online
Arcanepotato@crazypeople.onlineJoined: 2025-05-24 |
Is the "on time" part the critical piece? Could it be persistent demand for autonomy? Aka Pathological Demand Avoidance? You might just be looking for affirmation about being autistic, so this next part might not be useful. If you are trying to solve the problem or at least learn more about it so you can see what you can change and what you need to accept, it would be helpful to know why you do this. For example, possible reasons to not finish a project:
Some of those slot more neatly into autism or ADHD but it doesn't mean it's one or the other! |
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SnoopSqueak
lemmy.today
SnoopSqueak@lemmy.todayJoined: 2026-07-09 |
Are you afraid of the judgment you might receive upon completion? It may also be a comfort thing. The end of a project means the end of a status quo you have come to expect. Change can be scary because we don't know whether the next thing will be worse. I'm no expert, just guessing. |
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residentoflaniakea
discuss.tchncs.de
residentoflaniakea@discuss.tchncs.de Joined: 2025-03-08 |
I think lot's of people here provide good input but clearly no one can answer that for you even if you had provided more detail. If this is a concern for you and not just a curiosity then it is worth while to sit with this question and live, in your mind, through the experience on what it means to finish a project. |
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cAUzapNEAGLb
lemmy.world
cAUzapNEAGLb@lemmy.world Joined: 2024-02-13 |
If its not, i definitely also independently struggle with that For me its the perfectionism and false sense of finalitity that gets me - i (attempt) to counter those thoughts with:
And then i ship it - and let go - and its almost always good enough if not really well done and then it quickly fades into the past as the next project captures my hyperfocus (for better and worse lol) |
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jellohound420
piefed.social
jellohound420@piefed.social Joined: 2026-07-21 |
I experience this with video games, I get most of the way through them and then just leave them there, but I don't know that in my case that it's an autistic thing. I guess I experience something somewhat similar though as another autistic person, so there's that? |
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ruuster13
lemmy.zip
ruuster13@lemmy.zip Joined: 2025-07-09 |
When you're engaged in a project, your brain is producing dopamine and you are happy. If the project ends, you'll go back to the nether space where you need to find the next project. We hates that space. |
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