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I wonder if there is ant other situation in life where strangers are as openly mean to each other as they are to their teammates in video games?
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doomslang lemmy.zip doomslang@lemmy.zip
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Zarobi aussie.zone Zarobi@aussie.zone
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Lemmy comments

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Mouselemming sh.itjust.works Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2023-07-12
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Lemmy comments

No, that's more of a Reddit thing.

Lemmings have been much more reasonable and supportive in my experience, even kind.

Even when someone disagrees with me vehemently, they might use rude words to tell me just how full of shit my comment is, but they don't say "you should kill yourself" like redditors used to (before I left, who knows now that it's all bots).

I hope it stays that way. Anonymity can bring out cruelty, but it can also allow people to express themselves warmly without social posturing.

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Botzo lemmy.world Botzo@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-06-12
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Fucking NPCs on the freeway!

/s of course, but yeah: road rage.

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northernlights lemmy.today northernlights@lemmy.today
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Yep, car drivers

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Zarobi aussie.zone Zarobi@aussie.zone
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No, that's more of a Reddit thing. Lemmings have been much more reasonable and supportive in my experience, even kind. Even when someone disagrees with me vehemently, they might use rude words to tell me just how full of shit my comment is, but they don't say "you should kill yourself" like redditors used to (before I left, who knows now that it's all bots). I hope it stays that way. Anonymity ...

I've had the opposite experience.

Most common failure point seems to be people not actually reading my comment properly, and attacking me based on what they "think" I wrote; usually some polarised version that twists my meaning completely. Like in this example, imagine someone replying "so you're saying all Lemmy users are illiterate assholes?!?!" Then everyone agrees with them for some reason, it's pointless trying to clarify at that point.

I've stopped contributing as much because I can't be bothered dealing with the nuclear fallout anymore.

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🇰 🌀 🇱 🇦 🇳 🇦 🇰 🇮 pawb.social Kolanaki@pawb.social
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The internet. The freeway. Prisons...

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foggy lemmy.world foggy@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-02
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A preemptive /s

What a bad thread.

Delete your account. Never come back.

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zout fedia.io zout@fedia.io
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You didn't see that video of Zelensky visiting the White House?

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Mouselemming sh.itjust.works Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works
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I've had the opposite experience. Most common failure point seems to be people not actually reading my comment properly, and attacking me based on what they "think" I wrote; usually some polarised version that twists my meaning completely. Like in this example, imagine someone replying "so you're saying all Lemmy users are illiterate assholes?!?!" Then everyone agrees with them for some reason,...

I'm not sure who downvoted you, it wasn't me. I'm sorry you've had that experience here and hope it improves.

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Zarobi aussie.zone Zarobi@aussie.zone
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I'm not sure who downvoted you, it wasn't me. I'm sorry you've had that experience here and hope it improves.

Thanks :)

I remove my own upvote from my comments because I like when it starts at 0

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Mouselemming sh.itjust.works Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2023-07-12
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Thanks :) I remove my own upvote from my comments because I like when it starts at 0

Oh! That's interesting, does it ever cause folks to hop on the downvote train?
(If you answer I won't see it until tomorrow, I'm shutting down for bed)
Anyway, "because I like it" is a good enough reason!

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Babalugats feddit.uk Babalugats@feddit.uk
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Zionists have entered the room..

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bigmamoth lemmy.world bigmamoth@lemmy.world
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Parisian subway

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Zarobi aussie.zone Zarobi@aussie.zone
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Oh! That's interesting, does it ever cause folks to hop on the downvote train? (If you answer I won't see it until tomorrow, I'm shutting down for bed) Anyway, "because I like it" is a good enough reason!

I do sometimes wonder if people see the 0, and that biases their opinion or something. More often I get confused replies wondering why my comment seems broken though 😂

I'm a retired programmer, so starting at 0 makes sense to me. I always thought it was weird that you "like" your own comments by default. I don't like them, I'm neutral towards them.

I used to do it on Reddit as well, but they disabled that feature. Unironically one of the reasons I left that place lol

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BananaPeal sh.itjust.works BananaPeal@sh.itjust.works
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Does a roast count?

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BradleyUffner lemmy.world BradleyUffner@lemmy.world
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War?

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Simulation6 sopuli.xyz Simulation6@sopuli.xyz
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Poker game.

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M137 lemmy.today M137@lemmy.today
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ant

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LogicalDrivel sopuli.xyz LogicalDrivel@sopuli.xyz
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In traffic.

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snooggums piefed.world snooggums@piefed.world
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In the US there were racists yelling at black people for going to the same school during desegregation.

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Mouselemming sh.itjust.works Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works
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I do sometimes wonder if people see the 0, and that biases their opinion or something. More often I get confused replies wondering why my comment seems broken though 😂 I'm a retired programmer, so starting at 0 makes sense to me. I always thought it was weird that you "like" your own comments by default. I don't like them, I'm neutral towards them. I used to do it on Reddit as well, but they di...

Well I would defend your right to make your comments satisfy yourself with that nice round zero.

In rebuttal I would argue that, if it means anything, an upvote is supposed to signify "this comment deserves to be here," it contributes to the conversation.

In an election, if you don't want yourself to win enough to vote for yourself, you shouldn't be running. You should just let the other person have it if you think they'd do better.

But I'll grant you that since it's not an election, putting the comment out there is enough. And from what I can see yours all do add value.

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Madzielle lemmy.dbzer0.com Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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middle school

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ObtuseDoorFrame lemmy.zip ObtuseDoorFrame@lemmy.zip
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Lemmy and Bluesky. I already deleted my Bluesky account and I'm considering deleting this account as well.

People treat me like shit on these sites. Lemmy sure hates my autism despite there supposedly being a lot of autistic people on here. Self hated combined with projection, maybe?

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blackberry28 sh.itjust.works blackberry28@sh.itjust.works
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Football games. Yes, the sport u play with ur feet.

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Somebody_Else feddit.online dreksob@feddit.online
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Republicans are out literally killing people for not being fascist enough...

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Redfox8 mander.xyz Redfox8@mander.xyz
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Football games. Yes, the sport u play with ur feet.

Especially Sunday league!

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YappyMonotheist lemmy.world ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world
Joined: 2025-04-26
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You can't be in physical sports (you shouldn't be, period, but we all know those with no morals only regulate due to fear), and those who play a lot of online videogames tend to have antisocial tendencies and poor temper management so I guess it all fits. 4chan, at least a decade and a half ago when I used to frequent it, could get very nasty, lol.

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YappyMonotheist lemmy.world ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world
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Lemmy and Bluesky. I already deleted my Bluesky account and I'm considering deleting this account as well. People treat me like shit on these sites. Lemmy sure hates my autism despite there supposedly being a lot of autistic people on here. Self hated combined with projection, maybe?

Without trying to be rude, it's often seen as the more annoying of the neurodivergences (with good reasons) so it might just be that. It's sad though, and I'm sorry your experience hasn't been as nice as it could've been. Personally, I think self-descriptive tags like "male/female", "late teens-early 20s/mid 20s-early 30s", "Westerner/non Westerner", "atheist/spiritual - polytheist/monotheist", "moral relativist/moral objectivist", "neurotypical/neurodivergent", "tempered/erratic", etc. , would go a long way in understanding the person we're speaking to and keep things more civil.

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Tollana1234567 lemmy.today Tollana1234567@lemmy.today
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some people meeting a person for the first time, in class, or another friends, family or other friends immediately hate each other because they give off vibes they dont like?

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Agent641 lemmy.world Agent641@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-12
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Tradies to their apprentices

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