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LadyButterfly she/her piefed.blahaj.zone LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone
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ZDL lazysoci.al ZDL@lazysoci.al
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This is a rough one because there's so much entitlement that's buried deep in cultural assumptions that most people don't even consider to be worth examining.

Here's my shot at it: the unexamined expectation that women will absorb inconvenience—e.g. emotional, cognitive, and domestic labor—so men don’t have to.

It means women have to be ready to decode, manage, and soothe male emotions. It means women have to remember anniversaries, birthdays, plan celebrations and such. It means women work full time jobs and do the cleaning and laundry and such.

A close second would be the entitlement to be heard. Women will listen politely and attentively before being allowed to speak, and if at any point a man speaks, women are to shut up and listen again. You can see this dynamic in this very group with the number of people who can't read some perfectly clear text:

Women only...

This is me predicting we're going to get a lot of that in this thread.

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Drusas fedia.io Drusas@fedia.io
Joined: 2024-08-16
#3 · Quote Reply

The casual assumption that the woman will take care of things.

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EmilieEasie fedinsfw.app EmilieEasie@fedinsfw.app
Joined: 2026-03-28
#4 · Quote Reply

The tendency to interpret any attempt to better women's station as a slight against men

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Ashtear piefed.social Ashtear@piefed.social
Joined: 2025-10-04
#5 · Quote Reply

Being entitled to go to whatever lengths, cross whatever boundaries to save face sure is one that's been coming up a lot lately...

Unfortunately, I don't just mean in this community, ugh.

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OliveBrittle piefed.ca OliveBrittle@piefed.ca
Joined: 2026-08-11
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Moment I came out as trans, people in public chats I was in started thinking they had the right to just start talking about what was in my pants.

Just suddenly becoming some sort of sex object for people was annoying as hell. People rarely said that to me as a man, and yet suddenly it's as casual for people to talk about it as it is for them to ask who's on the other end of a phone call.

It's absurdly common, and I hate that I'm just some fetish to men even when I'm not into them.

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ZDL lazysoci.al ZDL@lazysoci.al
Joined: 2025-06-06
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Moment I came out as trans, people in public chats I was in started thinking they had the right to just start talking about what was in my pants. Just suddenly becoming some sort of sex object for people was annoying as hell. People rarely said that to me as a man, and yet suddenly it's as casual for people to talk about it as it is for them to ask who's on the other end of a phone call. It's a...

Yeah, welcome to my world. Here's a consoling hug.

I've been flatly told by men who somehow thought it was a compliment that "I'm their sexual fetish" (by which they meant "Asian" women).

Not. Just. Online.

It's repulsive and nobody should have to go through that at all, not to mention someone who's had the added issues that being trans brings to the table in today's society.

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Daisy (she/her) lemmy.ml TechieDamien@lemmy.ml
Joined: 2021-06-26
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To be heard without listening to us themselves

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SorryImLate piefed.social SorryImLate@piefed.social
Joined: 2025-06-24
#9 · Quote Reply

The tendency to interpret any attempt to better women's station as a slight against men

To be fair, that's not a man thing, that's a privilege thing.

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SorryImLate piefed.social SorryImLate@piefed.social
Joined: 2025-06-24
#10 · Quote Reply

This is a rough one because there's so much entitlement that's buried deep in cultural assumptions that most people don't even consider to be worth examining. Here's my shot at it: the unexamined expectation that women will absorb inconvenience—e.g. emotional, cognitive, and domestic labor—so men don’t have to. It means women have to be ready to decode, manage, and soothe male emotions. It mean...

The entitlement to be heard is so unbelievably frustrating. Try tell them that though and they'll never shut up defending themselves and telling you how you're wrong because .... blah blah blah

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ZDL lazysoci.al ZDL@lazysoci.al
Joined: 2025-06-06
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The entitlement to be heard is so unbelievably frustrating. Try tell them that though and they'll never shut up defending themselves and telling you how you're wrong because .... blah blah blah

The proof of which can be found in the mod log for this very group, yes.

Incredibly frustrating.

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brainzzz piefed.world brainzzz@piefed.world
Joined: 2026-05-09
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Space and comfort. To both take up space and feel comfortable, to have space that revolves around them, to have their discomfort taken care of, be given the space to expand into and dominate, to have their whim catered to, their latest emotion handled, etc.

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Wren lemmy.today Wren@lemmy.today
Joined: 2025-11-04
#13 · Quote Reply

To be fair, that's not a man thing, that's a privilege thing.

The subject of discussion male privilege.

Have you read the rules of this community?

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Okokimup lemmy.world Okokimup@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-06-24
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This is not the correct answer to this question, but it's a related microagression I was thinking about this morning: every man I've dated has had a favorite book that I absolutely had to read. Not a single one of them read a book I wanted them to.

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EmilieEasie fedinsfw.app EmilieEasie@fedinsfw.app
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To be fair, that's not a man thing, that's a privilege thing.

I think that's true of all the comments on here

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velma lemmy.blahaj.zone velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2026-03-19
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This is not the correct answer to this question, but it's a related microagression I was thinking about this morning: every man I've dated has had a favorite book that I absolutely had to read. Not a single one of them read a book I wanted them to.

Movies. Men do this with movies to me most often. I've watched so many action movies and wasn't able to get any of them to watch anything I wanted.

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velma lemmy.blahaj.zone velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2026-03-19
#17 · Quote Reply

That they are the default. Chairs, cars, tools, medicine, everything is designed for men and with men's bodies in mind.

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Malica lemmy.zip Malica@lemmy.zip
Joined: 2026-08-27
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Moment I came out as trans, people in public chats I was in started thinking they had the right to just start talking about what was in my pants. Just suddenly becoming some sort of sex object for people was annoying as hell. People rarely said that to me as a man, and yet suddenly it's as casual for people to talk about it as it is for them to ask who's on the other end of a phone call. It's a...

Gaining misogyny perks over night has got to be insane, I can't imagine.

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Malica lemmy.zip Malica@lemmy.zip
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#19 · Quote Reply

The perceived entitlement to a partner. You're not owed sex or a wife. Entitlement over the agency of others.

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Malica lemmy.zip Malica@lemmy.zip
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This is not the correct answer to this question, but it's a related microagression I was thinking about this morning: every man I've dated has had a favorite book that I absolutely had to read. Not a single one of them read a book I wanted them to.

My husband read mine but hated it, back then it was catcher in the rye.

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SorryImLate piefed.social SorryImLate@piefed.social
Joined: 2025-06-24
#21 · Quote Reply

The subject of discussion male privilege. Have you read the rules of this community?

I have, yes. Which rule exactly do you want to draw my attention to?

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Wren lemmy.today Wren@lemmy.today
Joined: 2025-11-04
#22 · Quote Reply

This is not the correct answer to this question, but it's a related microagression I was thinking about this morning: every man I've dated has had a favorite book that I absolutely had to read. Not a single one of them read a book I wanted them to.

Now that you bring it up, it's been the same for me. I read so much crap thinking it'd be a mutual trade. Richard Bach can eat my ass.

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Wren lemmy.today Wren@lemmy.today
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#23 · Quote Reply

I have, yes. Which rule exactly do you want to draw my attention to?

The one about how it's a women's community. I'm checking because it's usually men who are dismissive of others opinions in here.

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SorryImLate piefed.social SorryImLate@piefed.social
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#24 · (edited) Quote Reply

The one about how it's a women's community. I'm checking because it's usually men who are dismissive of others opinions in here.

Nope, I'm a woman. I also wasn't being dismissive of the original commentor's opinion - I didn't say men don't do that, just that it's a general issue with privilege. Feel free to have an actual conversation instead of simply attacking me.

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SorryImLate piefed.social SorryImLate@piefed.social
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#25 · Quote Reply

I think that's true of all the comments on here

That's fair.

There are a few male behaviours though that seem very rooted in gender roles - like expecting household management and emotional labour - so I guess they feel more specifically patriarchal to me 🤷‍♀️

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Wren lemmy.today Wren@lemmy.today
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#26 · Quote Reply

Nope, I'm a woman. I also wasn't being dismissive of the original commentor's opinion - I didn't say men don't do that, just that it's a general issue with privilege. Feel free to have an actual conversation instead of simply attacking me.

I didn't attack you, I criticized your response. Now ask yourself why that makes you feel personally attacked.

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SorryImLate piefed.social SorryImLate@piefed.social
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#27 · Quote Reply

I didn't attack you, I criticized your response. Now ask yourself why that makes you feel personally attacked.

😂😂 You didn't criticise my response - you asked whether I had read the rules and accused me of being a man. But whatever, have a nice life ✌️

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ZDL lazysoci.al ZDL@lazysoci.al
Joined: 2025-06-06
#28 · Quote Reply

This is not the correct answer to this question, but it's a related microagression I was thinking about this morning: every man I've dated has had a favorite book that I absolutely had to read. Not a single one of them read a book I wanted them to.

That actually became a litmus test for relationships for me. Reciprocity is a vital part of a successful relationship. If they insist I read/watch/listen to something and then refuse to reciprocate, that's a massive red flag and that relationship is doomed.

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ZDL lazysoci.al ZDL@lazysoci.al
Joined: 2025-06-06
#29 · Quote Reply

My husband read mine but hated it, back then it was catcher in the rye.

Reading it and hating it is fine. After all I kind of hate most stuff that men go gaga over. Being willing to try is the gold standard.

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ZDL lazysoci.al ZDL@lazysoci.al
Joined: 2025-06-06
#30 · Quote Reply

Now that you bring it up, it's been the same for me. I read so much crap thinking it'd be a mutual trade. Richard Bach can eat my ass.

Is that the seagull dude?

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ZDL lazysoci.al ZDL@lazysoci.al
Joined: 2025-06-06
#31 · (edited) Quote Reply

The proof of which can be found in the mod log for this very group, yes. Incredibly frustrating.

I just scrolled through the mod log (for a reminder of why rule #1 exists) and I stumbled over this:

Reason: Man who requested banning.

A man thought he was entitled to women doing the work to ban him from the community because he lacked the self-control to not comment in it.

Think about that for a second.

Women have to be this man's self-control because he can't do either of:

  • exercising self-control and not posting
  • doing the simple task of blocking the group himself

THIS is male entitlement in a nutshell.

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Sunshine piefed.ca Sunshine@piefed.ca
Joined: 2025-06-07
#32 · Quote Reply

Harassing any woman who uses the voice comms.

Demanding every sacrifice while offering nothing in return.

The increased aggression towards a woman who speaks up.

The +40% pink tax.

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Sunshine piefed.ca Sunshine@piefed.ca
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#33 · Quote Reply

I just scrolled through the mod log (for a reminder of why rule #1 exists) and I stumbled over this: Reason: Man who requested banning. A man thought he was entitled to women doing the work to ban him from the community because he lacked the self-control to not comment in it. Think about that for a second. Women have to be this man's self-control because he can't do either of: exercising self-c...

A man thought he was entitled to women doing the work to ban him from the community because he lacked the self-control to not comment in it.

Wanker is too lazy to hit the block option.

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Wren lemmy.today Wren@lemmy.today
Joined: 2025-11-04
#34 · Quote Reply

😂😂 You didn't criticise my response - you asked whether I had read the rules and accused me of being a man. But whatever, have a nice life ✌️

I ask to be polite instead of coming out and accusing. Nice emojis.

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Wren lemmy.today Wren@lemmy.today
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#35 · Quote Reply

Is that the seagull dude?

Yes. But his other books are all rambling bullshit about him being a lone wolf with vague to severe misogyny.

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RebekahWSD lemmy.world RebekahWSD@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-10-19
#36 · Quote Reply

A man thought he was entitled to women doing the work to ban him from the community because he lacked the self-control to not comment in it. Wanker is too lazy to hit the block option.

I block communities all the time! That is so insanely lazy of him!

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ZDL lazysoci.al ZDL@lazysoci.al
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#37 · Quote Reply

Yes. But his other books are all rambling bullshit about him being a lone wolf with vague to severe misogyny.

You had me at the seagull. What a fucking idiotic book.

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Wren lemmy.today Wren@lemmy.today
Joined: 2025-11-04
#38 · Quote Reply

You had me at the seagull. What a fucking idiotic book.

The fucking worst.

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