I think doing your fair share is a trick position. It sounds right, and it's technically right, but when you focus on it you can easily be led astray from achieving it. Focusing on trying to balance needs, wants, responsibilities, and capacity is better.

If one partners' capacity is reduced due to illness or a depressive episode the answer isn't necessarily to have the other partner take on everything, it's to reevaluate what needs to be done with the capacity that's shared. Dinners might start leaning towards pasta with jarred sauce and the home may get messier because some rest for the more capable partner may very well be a bigger need than more complicated and varied meals or than keeping everything vacuumed as often.

And in this vein, especially starting out if your partner can't or won't carry their own weight (ie meet their own needs) it's a sign to ask yourself if the added responsibilities they'd impose on you are worth it.

It's practice worth doing to learn to do things for yourself

Its a great way to make some broth and random veggies into something very tasty. I like to do mushroom with soy sauce and miso but lots of stuff works

It's actually "New Braunfels", but as a native Texan, just about everyone I know pronounces it "New Braunsvul", for some reason.

I fucked up a meal so bad thinking I was doing good, I literally didn't have to cook for the first decade of my marriage. We've been happily married for over 21 years now, I think the best friend and always wanting her to have the best life she could helped the most.

Took many years but I did eventually realize the best thing might in fact be the thing she suggests over the logical answer, but people really can get better with time.

Exactly! Plus if someone vibes with both of us... We can share the love all around. It's win-win.

No worries and hopefully it works out for you

I was being as sarcastic as the cartoon itself, unless I was wrong and some women do lament not having enough to complain about. /s (there, now you know I'm being sarcastic again)

Also venting is healthy... People forget that your spouse is also your roommate and it's normal to have things you dislike about your roommate. Why wouldn't it be normal to have things you don't like about your spouse?

This is just immediately obvious to 99% of adults in long term relationships. There's something about critically online 20-somethings that think disliking anything about your spouse makes you an asshole

To me that's friends with benefits.
A partner is more than that, there's a connection beyond friendship+sex, but that's me.

how shitty their wives are/were before the divorce.

Why did they marry them then?