"I love her bro... that's why I've decided to ask her to marry me. Anyway, this jet car it going nowhere near as fast as it should. We should try again"

Hey c/couplememes, here you go. lmao

I had an ex who used to accelerate the car angrily whenever I raised something uncomfortable in the car. One time we were headed out to a game with friends and he got so mad I thought he was gonna slam us right into a house. Nine years of my life wasted on that asshole.

Ok that's... i really dk I feel speechless...

Did you ever figure out what he was trying to accomplish there? Or is it really just as stupid as it seems?

No idea. Best guess it was stunted emotional development when he didn't get his way. One time we were home and everything was fine so I asked him why he treated total strangers better than he treats me. He disagreed and when I brought up examples he started throwing glasses at a wall and screaming. All I could do at the time was apologise to calm him down.

Yeah, impossible to say whether calculated or purely a man child throwing tantrums (EDIT: needless to say, the latter is much more likely). Either way, no excuse to be that shitty of a person. Hope you're doing much, much better now.

One time we were home and everything was fine so I asked him why he treated total strangers better than he treats me.

This is so weird to read. If he was mistreating you, how was everything fine? Or if everything was fine, why suddenly bring that up? I'd be pretty annoyed—not throwing shit to these annoyed, mind you—if my wife was suddenly like, "uhh hey so why do you suck?"

Obviously, his reaction is way out of line and I'm glad he's not a part of your life.

"Everything was fine" as in it was a moment in time where things seemed calm and normal. But I was still carrying a weight inside from suppressing my feelings.

He had a habit of putting me down in front of our friends and making fun of things I liked just to get a rise out of me. That was something I carried with me for years and had tried to talk about before which resulted in a heated argument as well.

Knowing the danger he presented when talking about things while driving as one example, I waited until it was a moment I thought would be safe.

Turns out there was never a safe moment with that guy.

That's terrifying.

I've always gotten scared whenever I've seen any of my partners experience road rage, so I don't know if I could handle that.

I left my ex after reading the book "why does he do that". It made me wonder the same thing; why do they treat me so much worse than someone they never met before? They would never do this even to their worst enemy. Highly recommend that title, even just to get better at seeing red flags or for closure.

an abusive ex did similar things to me. covid gave me time to think and saved my life.

When my partner gets frustrated at other vehicles, she does the only remotely scary things I've witnessed - accelerates a bit more sharply, yells "for fucks sake!" and such.

I can't imagine how is react if it was as bad as what you described.

what in the Akira

I find this extra funny because I am watching this movie, right now. Like it's on the TV as I type.

Sigh... what's the movie?

Lady Bird

heyyyy are you me? Also wasted 9 years on an asshole that drove like a fucking raging douchebag. Sorry that happened to you.

I need to start telling women I drive a Peugeot station wagon. If that fact doesn't shout "stable and sane", I don't know what could.

Don't think of it as waste, you've learned from those years

That guy had a high chance of snapping and killing you, glad you got out ok

I would love to hear the counterpart.

You mean "Ladybiiiiird!"

Holy shit, I'm happy for you that you got out of that. You (and everyone reading this) deserve relationships that make your system feel safe, loved & respected, and your support reciprocated 🫂❤️. I hope you've connected with someone better!

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hasbulla

No, it's Laaaadybird.

You are correct.

Not to be confused with

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hezbollah

Edit: wait lmao the hasbulla page literally says that at the top

Cheers