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Interstellar_1 piefed.blahaj.zone Interstellar_1@piefed.blahaj.zone
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Interstellar_1 piefed.blahaj.zone Interstellar_1@piefed.blahaj.zone
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#2 · (edited) Quote Reply

When I moved from the west coast of Canada to the east coast, I was surprised how different the clouds and the sunrise looked. There are like, a lot more fluffy clouds, and the sunsets are more vivid across the entire sky.

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devaly ani.social devaly@ani.social
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moving from SA to Europe, I did not expect that I could feel hotter in Europe. I was naively expecting 4 months of snow coverage

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lukstru piefed.social lukstru@piefed.social
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moving from SA to Europe, I did not expect that I could feel hotter in Europe. I was naively expecting 4 months of snow coverage

Welcome to the continent that is heating up twice as fast as the rest of the world lol

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lukstru piefed.social lukstru@piefed.social
Joined: 2026-04-25
#5 · Quote Reply

Stores are open on Sundays
Surprises me every time

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gastroglizzy piefed.social gastroglizzy@piefed.social
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It's more like what didn't change that I did expect. The rural midwest is still very hot, very right-wing (and far alt-right), and full of mosquitoes, much like the southern US. In fact, it's predicted the south will see more inches of snow and days of snow than the midwest this year.

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Duchess piefed.linenoise.vip Duchess@piefed.linenoise.vip
Joined: 2026-08-31
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It's more like what didn't change that I did expect. The rural midwest is still very hot, very right-wing (and far alt-right), and full of mosquitoes, much like the southern US. In fact, it's predicted the south will see more inches of snow and days of snow than the midwest this year.

I moved from coast to coast as a kid and ordered a pizza with ‘ everything on it!’ and it came with whole slices of tomatoes on it and that blew my fucking mind

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StickyDango lemmy.world StickyDango@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-09-01
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Vancouver/Edmonton to Australia (Sydney then southwest Victoria).

It gets properly cold here - it's not hot an sunny everyday like they advertise to us overseas. Aussies also don't use insulation in their houses so having to deal with single digit temperatures inside the house makes me die a little everyday.

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Midnight Wolf lemmy.world wreckedcarzz@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-08-23
#9 · Quote Reply

I moved from coast to coast as a kid and ordered a pizza with ‘ everything on it!’ and it came with whole slices of tomatoes on it and that blew my fucking mind

'wow, tomatoes are a real thing!' :p

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Duchess piefed.linenoise.vip Duchess@piefed.linenoise.vip
Joined: 2026-08-31
#10 · Quote Reply

'wow, tomatoes are a real thing!' :p

Let me tell you I can still look up pizza joints in my home town and the only vegetables they have for pizza are mushrooms, onions and peppers. The west coast lives different when it comes to food isn’t that what this post is about?

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kindnesskills literature.cafe kindnesskills@literature.cafe
Joined: 2025-12-24
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Stopped drinking almost entirely, because moving also meant finding new friends (who prefer other activities than drinking).

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CarbonIceDragon pawb.social CarbonIceDragon@pawb.social
Joined: 2023-06-05
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The way it changed my mental perception of how far apart buildings are. I moved from North Carolina to Massachusetts, and distinctly remember that the first time I went back to visit the city I grew up in, I had a reaction along the lines of "wtf, did like a bomb go off here or something?" upon seeing it, because I'd become used to buildings being taller and closer together and suddenly by contrast the parking lots with scattered short buildings and wide roads reminded me of those pictures you see of cities after a war or disaster, where there'll be a few buildings relatively intact looking surrounded by flattened grey.

Every time I go back there now, I get a really eerie feeling because even though for the most part, the buildings haven't changed at all, the place feels as if they have, like everything has been squashed vertically and stretched horizontally.

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NOT_RICK lemmy.world NOT_RICK@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-06-12
#13 · (edited) Quote Reply

Stores are open on Sundays Surprises me every time

Just a shot in the dark, you originally from Bergen County, New Jersey?

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seitanasparagus lemmy.world seitanasparagus@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-27
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moving from SA to Europe, I did not expect that I could feel hotter in Europe. I was naively expecting 4 months of snow coverage

You should move to the Nordics, maybe Lappland? :D

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seitanasparagus lemmy.world seitanasparagus@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-27
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Welcome to the continent that is heating up twice as fast as the rest of the world lol

Wait what?

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Triumph fedia.io Triumph@fedia.io
Joined: 2025-09-19
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When we moved into a new house some years ago, there were only rabbits and no squirrels. The squirrels have since moved in.

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seitanasparagus lemmy.world seitanasparagus@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-27
#17 · Quote Reply

That I need the same amount of time to the big city.

Distance to the city:
18 km -> 10 km
Time to the city by train:
19 min -> 12 min
Time to train station:
3 min -> 10 min

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chunes lemmy.world chunes@lemmy.world
Joined: 2025-04-08
#18 · Quote Reply

I didn't expect the trees to scream at me

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taco_shale032 lemmy.ml taco_shale032@lemmy.ml
Joined: 2025-11-13
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Since physical places wasn’t specified, how much nicer the threadiverse (Lemmy) is compared to Reddit, way less toxic from my experience.

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corsicanguppy lemmy.ca corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca
Joined: 2023-06-12
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Vancouver/Edmonton to Australia (Sydney then southwest Victoria). It gets properly cold here - it's not hot an sunny everyday like they advertise to us overseas. Aussies also don't use insulation in their houses so having to deal with single digit temperatures inside the house makes me die a little everyday.

Surely not everyday. Just every day, right?

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corsicanguppy lemmy.ca corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca
Joined: 2023-06-12
#21 · Quote Reply

Just a shot in the dark, you originally from Bergen County, New Jersey?

Nah. He woulda mentioned having to pump his own gas too.

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Broadfern lemmy.world Broadfern@lemmy.world
Joined: 2025-02-03
#22 · Quote Reply

The way it changed my mental perception of how far apart buildings are. I moved from North Carolina to Massachusetts, and distinctly remember that the first time I went back to visit the city I grew up in, I had a reaction along the lines of "wtf, did like a bomb go off here or something?" upon seeing it, because I'd become used to buildings being taller and closer together and suddenly by cont...

Opposite to you, going back home feels cramped and I miss being able to buy beer at the grocery store. Food’s always great though.

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Broadfern lemmy.world Broadfern@lemmy.world
Joined: 2025-02-03
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I didn't expect the trees to scream at me

Summer cicadas?

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Quetzalcutlass lemmy.world Quetzalcutlass@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-08-02
#24 · (edited) Quote Reply

Let me tell you I can still look up pizza joints in my home town and the only vegetables they have for pizza are mushrooms, onions and peppers. The west coast lives different when it comes to food isn’t that what this post is about?

East coast: "Pineapple on pizza is an abomination!"

West coast: "Corn and avocado pizza, a fine choice!"

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🌞 Alexander Daychilde 🌞 lemmy.world daychilde@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-06-13
#25 · (edited) Quote Reply

Water bills. Moved from Williamsbrg, VA less than 10 miles down to the next city down, Newport News, and water went from like $30/mo to $100/mo (water+sewer+trash in aparment in both cases). Googling and it's apparently normal. Yeesh.

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chunes lemmy.world chunes@lemmy.world
Joined: 2025-04-08
#26 · Quote Reply

Summer cicadas?

Yup.

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HeHoXa lemmy.zip HeHoXa@lemmy.zip
Joined: 2026-04-08
#27 · (edited) Quote Reply

Eye contact / greetings between strangers

*in the USA

I'm originally from the south where everyone wears plastic smiles and waves in passing and all that.

Then I went to the northeast where it's more eyes on the horizon. A smile and a wave is met with a raised eyebrow or a sneer, and friends commonly show their comfort with each other using insults.

Then out to the midwest where zero eye contact gets you stared at, but heavy eye contact is taken as a challenge. It has to be just the right amount, and I'm still trying to figure it out after years.

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lukstru piefed.social lukstru@piefed.social
Joined: 2026-04-25
#28 · Quote Reply

Wait what?

https://climate.copernicus.eu/why-are-europe-and-arctic-heating-faster-rest-world

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lukstru piefed.social lukstru@piefed.social
Joined: 2026-04-25
#29 · Quote Reply

Just a shot in the dark, you originally from Bergen County, New Jersey?

Germany, where Sonntag ist Ruhetag

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treadful lemmy.zip treadful@lemmy.zip
Joined: 2023-06-13
#30 · Quote Reply

The culture of right of way between pedestrians and cars. Where I grew up, you could walk out to the double yellow and stand there and cars wouldn't give a shit. They'd just keep driving and expect you to stay out of the way.

Now where I live, if you just glance at a car when you're walking they'll stop where they are to let you cross.

It all gets very confusing for a pedestrian when you also get out of town drivers that don't adhere to that same culture.

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Widdershins lemmy.world Widdershins@lemmy.world
Joined: 2025-04-04
#31 · Quote Reply

I don't live terribly far from where I grew up. I have seen so many snakes in my neighborhood. Growing up I knew what a snake was but never really saw any. I had to mow my lawn slower the other day because I saw two snakes in the grass.

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wieson feddit.org wieson@feddit.org
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#32 · Quote Reply

Eye contact / greetings between strangers *in the USA I'm originally from the south where everyone wears plastic smiles and waves in passing and all that. Then I went to the northeast where it's more eyes on the horizon. A smile and a wave is met with a raised eyebrow or a sneer, and friends commonly show their comfort with each other using insults. Then out to the midwest where zero eye contac...

South, northeast and midwest of the USA

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Rothe piefed.social Rothe@piefed.social
Joined: 2025-08-25
#33 · Quote Reply

When we moved into a new house some years ago, there were only rabbits and no squirrels. The squirrels have since moved in.

Which country has such fabulous rabbit and squirrel populated houses?

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Rothe piefed.social Rothe@piefed.social
Joined: 2025-08-25
#34 · Quote Reply

South, northeast and midwest of the USA

The amount of US defaultism on lemmy saddens me. I thought I had mostly left that behind on reddit those years ago.

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baggachipz sh.itjust.works baggachipz@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2023-06-19
#35 · Quote Reply

Germany, where Sonntag ist Ruhetag

That always drove me crazy when I went to Germany. “Oops, forgot toothpaste”… wtf, nothing’s open. Guess my teeth will just rot.

Germany’s not even religious, what’s with the Blue Laws?

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lukstru piefed.social lukstru@piefed.social
Joined: 2026-04-25
#36 · Quote Reply

That always drove me crazy when I went to Germany. “Oops, forgot toothpaste”… wtf, nothing’s open. Guess my teeth will just rot. Germany’s not even religious, what’s with the Blue Laws?

Germany is religious AF still. Officially not really, but its a deeply Christian country. Most holidays are christian ones (the ones that are not, are not religious). The "christian" party is still the biggest party (although that is changing, and their values are more "let's suck off the rich" than christian). In some cities (like cologne) no building bigger than the cathedral is allowed. There are more examples :)

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LwL lemmy.world LwL@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-09-07
#37 · Quote Reply

That always drove me crazy when I went to Germany. “Oops, forgot toothpaste”… wtf, nothing’s open. Guess my teeth will just rot. Germany’s not even religious, what’s with the Blue Laws?

It gets stricter the further south you go, where people are more religious. In bavaria shops close earlier and can't sell alcohol after a certain time either. Overall the country is quite religious though, and especially historically has been extremely so. And something like a sunday where almost no one has to work isn't without benefits, so it won't just go away. Even shops being open on saturday past early afternoon was something that was only allowed in the early 2000s iirc.

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baggachipz sh.itjust.works baggachipz@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2023-06-19
#38 · Quote Reply

Germany is religious AF still. Officially not really, but its a deeply Christian country. Most holidays are christian ones (the ones that are not, are not religious). The "christian" party is still the biggest party (although that is changing, and their values are more "let's suck off the rich" than christian). In some cities (like cologne) no building bigger than the cathedral is allowed. Ther...

Which is hilarious, because I’ve been to Cologne many times and know it’s the gay capital of the country :)

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NOT_RICK lemmy.world NOT_RICK@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-06-12
#39 · (edited) Quote Reply

Nah. He woulda mentioned having to pump his own gas too.

True, although I would hope you would expect that leaving the state

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ExLisper lemmy.curiana.net ExLisper@lemmy.curiana.net
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#40 · Quote Reply

That always drove me crazy when I went to Germany. “Oops, forgot toothpaste”… wtf, nothing’s open. Guess my teeth will just rot. Germany’s not even religious, what’s with the Blue Laws?

Germany’s not even religious, what’s with the Blue Laws?

It's actually interesting thing. In some countries the "stores closed on Sunday" is a religious thing, like in Poland. Stores used to be open but it was changed recently because the right wing government pushed for it and most people think it's so that people go to church more.

In Germany it was the other way around: all the stores were only opened Mon-Fri and closed early because everyone just assumed that people working in stores should work the same hours as everyone else. This led to terrible experience for the customers (everyone scrambling to do their shopping on Friday evening, right after work) so they slowly started extending the opening hours and finally allowed stores to open on Saturdays.

In Spain stores are closed on Sunday but again, not because of religious reasons but as "worker's rights" thing. One shopping mall near me tried to extend shopping hours on some days during summer and all the workers complained and threatened a strike. No one wants to work on Sunday here, they prefer to spend time with friends and family.

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ExLisper lemmy.curiana.net ExLisper@lemmy.curiana.net
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#41 · Quote Reply

Germany is religious AF still. Officially not really, but its a deeply Christian country. Most holidays are christian ones (the ones that are not, are not religious). The "christian" party is still the biggest party (although that is changing, and their values are more "let's suck off the rich" than christian). In some cities (like cologne) no building bigger than the cathedral is allowed. Ther...

I think people confuse Christian past with actually being Christian. In Poland about 50% of people attend mass every Sunday. In Germany that's 7%.

It's still tradition in Poland to have a priest visit your home once a year to do some magic, every child gets baptized in church, 75,6% of kids attend religion classes at school because yes, religion is still part of curriculum in public schools. Abortion is illegal, there's no civil unions let alone same-sex marriage, no no-fault divorce, no euthanasia or even legally recognized DNRs.

That's a Christian country. Germany just has some Christian traditions.

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baggachipz sh.itjust.works baggachipz@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2023-06-19
#42 · Quote Reply

Germany’s not even religious, what’s with the Blue Laws? It's actually interesting thing. In some countries the "stores closed on Sunday" is a religious thing, like in Poland. Stores used to be open but it was changed recently because the right wing government pushed for it and most people think it's so that people go to church more. In Germany it was the other way around: all the stores were o...

Totally understand and to be honest I wish we had that here (Dystopian States of America). People deserve the dignity of spending time relaxing and with their families. It was just a culture shock for me the first time, and now I know to plan better when I'm in Europe. But. yeah the idea that things should be closed or prohibited so that "you'll go to church more" is obviously idiotic. Where I live, Alcohol sales were banned on Sunday even though everything else was open. They changed the rule recently, but only if a bar/restaurant/retailer specifically gets a "Sunday sales" license (apart from the other one for the rest of the week) and they can't sell until after noon; ostensibly because of course everybody should be in church before then. Stupid-ass Bible Belt eyeroll

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ExLisper lemmy.curiana.net ExLisper@lemmy.curiana.net
Joined: 2025-03-22
#43 · Quote Reply

Totally understand and to be honest I wish we had that here (Dystopian States of America). People deserve the dignity of spending time relaxing and with their families. It was just a culture shock for me the first time, and now I know to plan better when I'm in Europe. But. yeah the idea that things should be closed or prohibited so that "you'll go to church more" is obviously idiotic. Where I ...

When I lived in Poland everything was still open on Sunday and when I moved to Spain everything was suddenly closed and I had 0 issues adapting. I'm sure it's an issue when traveling but once you make that mental switch it's super easy to plan around it. I remember having discussion on reddit later and people form Poland coming up with the craziest reason why they need the stores to be open on Sunday (like "I'm disabled so I drop food all the time and what I'm supposed to do when I drop my last food on the floor and it's Sunday?"... IDK, buy more food on Saturday?)

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skujcici7755 lemmy.zip skujcici7755@lemmy.zip
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#44 · Quote Reply

Vancouver/Edmonton to Australia (Sydney then southwest Victoria). It gets properly cold here - it's not hot an sunny everyday like they advertise to us overseas. Aussies also don't use insulation in their houses so having to deal with single digit temperatures inside the house makes me die a little everyday.

Colder than Edmonton :?

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🇰 🌀 🇱 🇦 🇳 🇦 🇰 🇮 pawb.social Kolanaki@pawb.social
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#45 · Quote Reply

I walk a lot more now that the nearest store is across the street and not 3 miles away.

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HeHoXa lemmy.zip HeHoXa@lemmy.zip
Joined: 2026-04-08
#46 · Quote Reply

South, northeast and midwest of the USA

Yes. I debated whether I should specify or if it'd sound dumb / be obvious.

Now I see I should have, since I made Rothe sad

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TransNeko lemmy.world TransNeko@lemmy.world
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#47 · (edited) Quote Reply

Eye contact / greetings between strangers *in the USA I'm originally from the south where everyone wears plastic smiles and waves in passing and all that. Then I went to the northeast where it's more eyes on the horizon. A smile and a wave is met with a raised eyebrow or a sneer, and friends commonly show their comfort with each other using insults. Then out to the midwest where zero eye contac...

you are getting sneers and glares from NorthEast USA because we hate fake pleasantries/smiles and southern nazis.

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OryxAndCake slrpnk.net OryxAndCake@slrpnk.net
Joined: 2026-01-26
#48 · Quote Reply

Vancouver/Edmonton to Australia (Sydney then southwest Victoria). It gets properly cold here - it's not hot an sunny everyday like they advertise to us overseas. Aussies also don't use insulation in their houses so having to deal with single digit temperatures inside the house makes me die a little everyday.

Single digits in Celsius though, right?

Does it even still get to more than -12c/9f in the skiing towns over there?

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ScoffingLizard lemmy.dbzer0.com ScoffingLizard@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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#49 · Quote Reply

you are getting sneers and glares from NorthEast USA because we hate fake pleasantries/smiles and southern nazis.

Many people don't make eye contact any longer. Things have changed.

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AA5B lemmy.world AA5B@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-09
#50 · Quote Reply

The culture of right of way between pedestrians and cars. Where I grew up, you could walk out to the double yellow and stand there and cars wouldn't give a shit. They'd just keep driving and expect you to stay out of the way. Now where I live, if you just glance at a car when you're walking they'll stop where they are to let you cross. It all gets very confusing for a pedestrian when you also g...

Yeah it’s surprising how opposite it can be.

The other day I was walking my dog and I have to be careful to face away from the street because people keep stopping for us to cross when she’s just sniffing at something.

Then we actually did cross the street at an all way stop intersection, and cars came to a stop in all directions! However we got halfway across and a new car came around the bend and almost hit us. Despite the stop sign. Despite all other cars already stopped. Despite me and the dog in the crosswalk

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jpreston1986 lemmy.world jpreston1986@lemmy.world
Joined: 2026-10-08
#51 · (edited) Quote Reply

Moved from Midwest to West to South. In the South, they use "How are ya?" as a greeting. I was not aware. So for the first few weeks/months, I was answering them honestly and just loving how friendly everyone was!

Took me a while to understand you're just supposed to say "Good-n-you?"

Felt like a fuckin idiot.

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