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BlackSnack lemmy.zip BlackSnack@lemmy.zip
Joined: 2025-08-29
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I have 1. 🥲

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TheOSINTguy sh.itjust.works TheOSINTguy@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2023-06-19
#2 · Quote Reply

I have 4 that I would consider close friends. Sometime having a small group of friends is good.

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Kyrias lemmy.ca Kyrias@lemmy.ca
Joined: 2026-08-25
#3 · Quote Reply

Depending on your definition.

Probably dozens.

People I talk to daily shooting the shit? Probably 10 or so.

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orenj [he/they] leminal.space orenj@leminal.space
Joined: 2026-04-04
#4 · Quote Reply

I can confidently say 2. i can delusionally say 6.

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VoluntarySpud lemmy.zip dummyboymc23@lemmy.zip
Joined: 2026-08-13
#5 · Quote Reply

Not many

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Malica lemmy.zip Malica@lemmy.zip
Joined: 2026-08-27
#6 · Quote Reply

Does my husband count? If so, one :(

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Suck_on_my_Presence lemmy.world Suck_on_my_Presence@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-07
#7 · Quote Reply

I'd say I have a good handful. I'm not good at getting close to people, so some toe the line for me between acquaintance and friend. For a numerical, I suppose if we count those toeing the line - maybe a dozen or so? Maybe 15?

I've been very lucky as an adult to find a lot of good people. 99% of them are from playing TTRPGs online.

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dohpaz42 lemmy.world dohpaz42@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-01
#8 · Quote Reply

You’re doing better than I am.

I know people. We get along. But friends? Nope.

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slowmolaggins thelemmy.club slowmolaggins@thelemmy.club
Joined: 2026-03-19
#9 · Quote Reply

  1. My friend and my wife. I'm not a disagreeable person. I have a fair few friendly acquaintances, but I'm not willing to put in the energy for more actual friends
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Sailor Anarres lemmy.dbzer0.com theuniqueone@lemmy.dbzer0.com
Joined: 2024-08-22
#10 · Quote Reply

0

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BassTurd lemmy.world BassTurd@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-03
#11 · Quote Reply

2 very close friends, my wife that's my friend, another close friend, and at least another dozen I would consider friends. Then there are many acquaintances that I enjoy associating with, but we're not a as close and don't talk frequently. Also a brother, sister, and BiL that I'm close with and do friend things with.

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fuckwit_mcbumcrumble lemmy.dbzer0.com fuckwit_mcbumcrumble@lemmy.dbzer0.com
Joined: 2024-03-20
#12 · Quote Reply

Close friends that I talk to almost daily? Like 4

Friends that I talk to about once a week or more? Like 10-15

Friends that I rarely talk to, but would hang out with time permitting? Like 30. Most are co workers that I’ll go drinking with after work.

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DominusOfMegadeus sh.itjust.works Reverendender@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2023-07-11
#13 · Quote Reply

I'd say I have a good handful. I'm not good at getting close to people, so some toe the line for me between acquaintance and friend. For a numerical, I suppose if we count those toeing the line - maybe a dozen or so? Maybe 15? I've been very lucky as an adult to find a lot of good people. 99% of them are from playing TTRPGs online.

Where does one go to start playing these games?

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csolisr hub.azkware.net csolisr@hub.azkware.net
Joined: 2026-02-16
#14 · Quote Reply

Never had any, I'm probably for the best given the many problems of society

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ninjaphysics beehaw.org ninjaphysics@beehaw.org
Joined: 2023-06-08
#15 · Quote Reply

I realize not close ones, but my partner is for sure my #1. Hard to rely on the one for everything, and social anxiety trying to make new friends as I get older is even more daunting. Lesson to the youth - take care to have friends as you age!

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Random_Character_A lemmy.world random_character_a@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-29
#16 · Quote Reply

I'm 50. I only have time for acquaintances. Close friends take way too much time.

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Suck_on_my_Presence lemmy.world Suck_on_my_Presence@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-07
#17 · (edited) Quote Reply

Where does one go to start playing these games?

It's a bit tricky nowadays to find a solid game. There's plenty of LFG things on either Reddit or any of the discords for your desired TTRPG - usually numbers favor DnD5e, but there's a fair few on Pathfinder 2e nowadays too.

However, the best luck I've had in more recent years has been on startplaying.games - where you can find a paid DM/GM. (Not a shill, just what I have personally experienced)

I could go into what I believe the benefits of a paid vs unpaid game are, but that's a lot of extra for just this.

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Casuls_Die_Thrice lemmy.zip Casuls_Die_Thrice@lemmy.zip
Joined: 2026-06-14
#18 · (edited) Quote Reply

I have 9; 5 are uni classmates I’m on a 2-semester project with, and the other 4 are:

-A retired public-sector official old enough to be my grandmother

-A semi-retired realtor also old enough to be my grandmother

-Another realtor who used to work for the first realtor but now is an exec at another company

-His notary-public and possibly-also-CIA longtime boyfriend

All of the latter 4 are older than my parents.

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Rozz lemmy.sdf.org Rozz@lemmy.sdf.org
Joined: 2023-06-20
#19 · Quote Reply

Does my husband count? If so, one :(

That's not sad if you like him

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ximtor lemmy.zip ximtor@lemmy.zip
Joined: 2025-06-06
#20 · Quote Reply

Close friends that I talk to almost daily? Like 4 Friends that I talk to about once a week or more? Like 10-15 Friends that I rarely talk to, but would hang out with time permitting? Like 30. Most are co workers that I’ll go drinking with after work.

30?? How do you keep track of so many people ^^

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ximtor lemmy.zip ximtor@lemmy.zip
Joined: 2025-06-06
#21 · Quote Reply

Many comments mention "people i talk to every day". Is that really a common thing? Literally daily? I have a couple good friends, but definitely none I talk to daily 😅

For me it is more about being friends for many years and always having a good time when we meet. At most I chat 2-3 times a week with some.

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sam r1b.it sam@r1b.it
Joined: 2026-10-12
#22 · Quote Reply

Looking to find some more on my new instance ;)

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FatVegan leminal.space FatVegan@leminal.space
Joined: 2025-11-05
#23 · Quote Reply

Does my husband count? If so, one :(

It's kinda crazy. I'm 41 now and 10 or 15 years ago i often read that people said that they have no friend. And i thought that's more of a joke, like people knline joke about how they wanna kill themselves or whatever, because i had multiple friend groups, and would see a lot of them almost daily.

Suddenly, people moved away, were in relationships, had kids, died or you just realized that you are not friends anymore.

I talked to my girlfriend about our wedding and she asked me who i would invite. I had to think for a bit and said, i dunno, my sister... And that's pretty much it, since i marry my best and kind of only friend. Then she thought about it and said: my parents, and... Fuck, i don't have any friends either, except you.

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Fizz lemmy.nz Fizz@lemmy.nz
Joined: 2023-06-12
#24 · Quote Reply

3 good ones and maybe 5 outside of that. I'm pretty bad at keeping up with them honestly. Sometimes I message them and they're like yo its been 6 months where you been, yeah sorry I got obsessed with something and forgot the world exists.

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Vespair lemmy.zip Vespair@lemmy.zip
Joined: 2025-06-12
#25 · Quote Reply

Close friends that I talk to almost daily? Like 4 Friends that I talk to about once a week or more? Like 10-15 Friends that I rarely talk to, but would hang out with time permitting? Like 30. Most are co workers that I’ll go drinking with after work.

Most Popular Person on Lemmy here to flex on the rest of us, damn

(I kid, I'm just jealous of your social circle)

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rants_unnecessarily piefed.social rants_unnecessarily@piefed.social
Joined: 2026-02-03
#26 · Quote Reply

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One of them lives abroad and the other two I see every few months.

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/home/pineapplelover lemmy.dbzer0.com pineapplelover@lemmy.dbzer0.com
Joined: 2025-06-30
#27 · Quote Reply

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Damn, I'm sure someone is willing to befriend you

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grrgyle slrpnk.net grrgyle@slrpnk.net
Joined: 2024-03-18
#28 · Quote Reply

Irl? Like one and a half irl friends (the second one and I vibe really well but we're both pretty independent)

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Cam scribe.disroot.org dawcas@scribe.disroot.org
Joined: 2025-07-02
#29 · Quote Reply

I think I have one. I don't think I'll be able to get more. 😿

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Malica lemmy.zip Malica@lemmy.zip
Joined: 2026-08-27
#30 · Quote Reply

It's kinda crazy. I'm 41 now and 10 or 15 years ago i often read that people said that they have no friend. And i thought that's more of a joke, like people knline joke about how they wanna kill themselves or whatever, because i had multiple friend groups, and would see a lot of them almost daily. Suddenly, people moved away, were in relationships, had kids, died or you just realized that you a...

We were the same. It would have been 20 people at the most, that's with their families. We said "fuck it" and went to the courthouse. We were going to use wedding money for a honeymoon instead, but then the 2008 crash happened and we had to use it to get by almost a year of unemployment. It's crazy how easily one becomes isolated.

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Hudell lemmy.dbzer0.com Hudell@lemmy.dbzer0.com
Joined: 2023-06-22
#31 · Quote Reply

Close friends that I talk to almost daily? Like 4 Friends that I talk to about once a week or more? Like 10-15 Friends that I rarely talk to, but would hang out with time permitting? Like 30. Most are co workers that I’ll go drinking with after work.

I'm pretty similar but I would switch the answers on the first and third question. I have a lot more people I talk to quite frequently than people I would be interested in hanging out with.

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GonzoAtBarstow lemmy.world GonzoAtBarstow@lemmy.world
Joined: 2026-10-01
#32 · (edited) Quote Reply

I'm 53 and I've outlived many. The few I have I don't care to be around at all. (southern drinking buddy is maga & racist af, hear from him now maybe every 5 years)

So, 0 not counting family and their kids. I'm just content these days to watch family grow up.

edit: The biggest change to social interactions I've just noticed happens to be due to the legalization of weed, before that I'd have to keep a whole fucking network of associates on hand lol

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hexagonwin lemmy.today hexagonwin@lemmy.today
Joined: 2026-02-07
#33 · Quote Reply

Looking to find some more on my new instance ;)

neat domain you got there!

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sam r1b.it sam@r1b.it
Joined: 2026-10-12
#34 · Quote Reply

neat domain you got there!

Thanks! Feel free to join if you want it, too ;)

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