i've noticed a number of accounts which were fairly active in this community suddenly go dark recently:

1. @kivihiili@lemmy.blahaj.zone deleted their account about 6 days ago
2. @katiecakes@lemmy.blahaj.zone deleted her account about 7 hours ago (less than a day after a friendly back-and-forth comment chain with me)
3. @applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone deleted pretty much her entire post/comment history from the past six months at some point within the last 24 hours, consisting mostly of posts and comments here and on !trans_joy@lemmy.blahaj.zone.
4. @erinmeow@piefed.blahaj.zone seems to have also wiped most of her comments and posts at some point in the last 6 days
5. @NerdyNeko90@lemmy.blahaj.zone deleted all her posts and comments

these are only the ones i've noticed, perhaps there are even more?

i was willing to accept a possible coincidence with the first two, but three fairly active accounts going dark in a week, two of which on the same day, is setting off alarm bells. does anyone know if these people are alright, and what the heck is going on?

(if you'd rather not disclose it publicly, please shoot me a DM on lemmy, @daporkchop:daporkchop.net on matrix, daporkchop_ on discord or daporkchop_.42 on signal)

UPDATE (2026.10.16 06:30 UTC): @applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone has confirmed that she's going through some shit but is still with us, her account purge appears to be unrelated to the others
UPDATE (2026.10.16 09:52 UTC): added #4 (@erinmeow@piefed.blahaj.zone)
UPDATE (2026.10.17 14:06 UTC): @kivihiili@lemmy.blahaj.zone have confirmed that they're safe, and have essentially decided to move on from lemmy to go touch grass. honestly? good for them :3
UPDATE (2026.10.20 20:59 UTC): added #5 (@NerdyNeko90@lemmy.blahaj.zone)
UPDATE (2026.10.20 21:00 UTC): @NerdyNeko90@lemmy.blahaj.zone has confirmed that she deleted her posts/comments intentionally and appears to be doing okay now

dammit ! I hope everyone's okay :(

me too

tell me you're not going anywhere ;_;

Oh, you know. Bit of the old bipolar. My bf had a work accident. One or two of his vertebrae are fractured. He's lucky to be alive and able to walk. Combine that with the bad stuff I've been doing on 196, mix in my mental health and account deletion is probably the mildest outcome of all of this.

No idea, maybe privacy issues or whatever.

I def am still around, though, and plan to stay so!

how … ? I mean, how do you survive all this 😭

Drugs. Lots of drugs.

to be totally honest with you, i hadn't noticed that you'd deleted your account until a few minutes after i made this post, nooooo :(

i'm so sorry about your boyfriend 🫂 glad to hear that he's not paralyzed, back injuries are scary. hope he's able to recover relatively quickly...
i don't think i saw any "bad stuff" on 196? like, i've been checking our your posts for the last few days and didn't see anything that stood out as bad?

anyway i'm glad to hear that you're still with us, even if your account is gone again. please, please, please, shoot me a DM if shit starts/is hitting the fan, i'm pretty much always willing to lend a hand or give whatever support i can :)

Makes sense… life is mostly aweful, especially in recent weeks.

Wtf! I just talked to Miisha hope they are ok :/

I don’t plan to! If I ever have a reason to move instances I’ll use the same username so people will be able to find me :3

I used to be very anti-drug but honestly, this is fine. These are not normal times, and you can use whatever means to get through them. Know your limits and make sure to be alright when the times get better (they wiill!)

I was only aware of #3 and Miisha. I have no idea why or if its a coincidence. Somehow it notified me when #3 deleted a reply on something I posted, and I did see some of the process of purging the comments.

I hope they're all doing fine, but this is concerning. Please let us know if you get any explanations through DMs even if you can't share any details.

If I leave by choice I promise to leave some explanation somewhere. If I suddenly delete my account or dissapear without explanation, that is cause for concern.

I'll probably try to figure out matrix tonight or tomorrow.

if you do hear anything and don't want to mess around with matrix (the learning curve is certainly a bit steeper than other platforms), i'm also daporkchop_ on discord and daporkchop_.42 on signal

That makes it easier, expect a signal message sometime.

Do what you gotta/wanna do, but please be aware that that stuff can be a lot more addictive than people might think.

I'm still here, and not planning on going anywhere

im fine. mental health bad. feel a strong need to isolate.

not that anyone here cares.

I’m still here. I worry about everyone else though.

I care. Thanks for letting us know, I was worried about you.

You have my heart felt well wishes for you and your boyfriend. I hope things improve from here on.

i care, you're an important member of this little community and seeing all your messages gone scared me :(

that said, i'm very relieved you're okay (physically) and that your account purge was unrelated to the others. all the cute trans girls in my phone mean quite a lot to me - frankly interacting with this community is one of the main things which got me through the past few months - and the thought that somebody might decide to end it one day and i'd have now way of knowing what happened is terrifying. and i'm sure i'm not the only one who feels this way!

i don't know what exactly is going on, but if there is any way i can help (or even if not and you just need an ear), please don't hesitate to reach out. your community is here to support you, if you'll let it :)

if you need to change username, do, but please reach out so we know 🩷

I care. You're a kind and fun person, and I love seeing you around here.

If there's anything I can do, let me know <3

Damn. Looks like we've taken quite the hit here.

I remember talking fairly regularly with kivihiili; always some cool and impressive projects.

I didn't interact much with katiecakes or erinmeow, but their comments and posts were always nice.

I'll miss applebusch. Great comments and posts, always fun to talk with.

Probably old news by now, but Miisha is back I think.

I hope you come back ❤️

I hope we hear from the people who haven't said anything. If we don't I hope they just wanted more affirming usernames or breaks from their old online identities.

I don’t know if anyone knows me, I’m highly inactive and don’t take up much space. Still around though !

she's on her third or fourth account, this isn't really new

wow, she really is the second coming of violet