i guess some people noticed i deleted all my stuff here. just wanted to let people know im ok and give a little explanation. ive been getting feelings for someone and im terrified. i was trying to avoid it but its happening and its getting impossible for me to ignore. im terrified of getting hurt again. i made a post looking for, idk support and advice i guess, but no one really had anything to say. i also texted my friend and my sister and they didnt have anything to say either.

i realized i dont have anyone i can really talk to about this stuff and it made me feel really alone. it made me want to hide from everyone and so i deleted everything on here and didnt talk to anyone for a couple days. i still dont know what to do and getting hurt feels inevitable at this point. sorry if i worried you, and for being kinda dramatic. im sure ill go back to being more active at some point.

I refrained from responding because I have never been in a similar situation. I have never been non-monogomus or done hookups, so I assumed any advice I might give would be unhelpful at best. Sorry that the lack of response seemed uncaring. If you want my thoughts nonetheless let me know.

I want to be there for my friends from this community. If there's something that I can do to help please don't hesitate to get in touch.

Take care of yourself, and take time away if you need it. ❤️❤️❤️ We'll still be here for you whenever you're here.

-hilde

bb, be kind to yourself. its not easy but you deserve the space to holler and come and go. be a hot mess or a cold ice queen or spontaneously combust. its OK to be you, bb. 🫂 I'm not active enough to have seen your request for support and advice but if you're down I'd like a chance. hmu for my signal if you still need to talk. im sorry you're feeling so bad.

I’m sorry I missed your post before, if you still want to talk about it I’m happy to chat, just DM me and I’ll send you my matrix or signal. I’m polyam (although quite new to it ) so if that’s applicable I might have some advice/be able to understand. I want you to have support!

Hey,

I remember reading that post, but I didn't make a comment because I have never been in a relationship before, and haven't had much experience with romantic feelings in general. I'm sorry I made you feel that way, but regardless my matrix is always availabe for anyone to contact for any reason.

I'm really sorry you're feeling shit, I'd rather you talk it out so I appreciate you making this post but it's also fine if you need some time alone instead.

Sorry for you are feeling alone, having noone to talk to is hell.

however I a relieved to know you are ok.

I am better at nuking relationship than anything else but feel free to dm me if you want an ear or a shitload of hugs.

i didn't reply to that post because i didn't think i'd have anything valuable to add (being mostly aro/ace myself). but i don't want you to feel like you have no support - i am (almost) always willing to lend an ear if you need it!

thanks for letting us know :)

Not transfem, but I'm going through the exact same thing lately, including texting people I love and not getting anything from them. If you want to chat with a stranger going through something similar, lmk.

i'm sorry you felt abandoned by the community. for my part i will say that i saw your post, but like many others i didn't feel like i'd be able to provide any helpful input. i hate that you don't have anyone to talk to. i do get how scary your situation must be. i want to say that you should tell her how you feel, but that also seems like the romantic in me and potentially irresponsible on my part.

you (among others) gave me the strength to realize something important about myself. i've also really valued your responses to my questions as i struggle to figure myself out. they're always very thoughtful and well considered. i absolutely value your membership in this community. anyway, feel free to dm anytime.

I think I might've missed that post entirely, sorry! Not knowing whether your feelings are reciprocated is definitely pretty rough... Sorry we weren't here for you when we needed it, I hope everything works out the best possible way

omg i didn't even see your post and now i have no chance on reading up on it 😭

nooo i missed both posts by a few days!

glad ur back <3

p.s. if you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to message me here, on matrix, or you could email me :3