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TotallynotJessica lemmy.blahaj.zone TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2024-10-30
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frostypanda lemmy.dbzer0.com frostypanda@lemmy.dbzer0.com
Joined: 2025-08-15
#2 · Quote Reply

The final panel where the parents are so happy at (presumably) her/their misery is too relatable, lol. I wish more people wanted their kids, their family, and their friends to be happy.

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alapakala quokk.au alapakala@quokk.au
Joined: 2026-03-16
#3 · Quote Reply

I have already managed to erase them from my nostalgia matrix, as they were abusers. I wouldn't dare perform social duties for their entertainment. Happy fall to found family. 🖕 conversionists.

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Edges lemmy.zip Edges@lemmy.zip
Joined: 2025-07-15
#4 · Quote Reply

This was already really sad and then I saw the caption :^(

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decolo piefed.social decolo@piefed.social
Joined: 2026-06-29
#5 · Quote Reply

brutal

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ItsMeForRealNow lemmy.world ItsMeForRealNow@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-03
#6 · Quote Reply

The final panel where the parents are so happy at (presumably) her/their misery is too relatable, lol. I wish more people wanted their kids, their family, and their friends to be happy.

Yes, instead of just their own selves alone.

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aeth lemmy.blahaj.zone Aethyrial@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2026-10-20
#7 · Quote Reply

🫂

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qevlarr lemmy.world qevlarr@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-06-18
#8 · (edited) Quote Reply

Stop. Get out of that closet. Unless your life or liberty is at stake or something, you're going to feel much better. If you're worried that family or friends will disapprove, you're trying to please the wrong people and you know it

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Gonzako lemmy.world Gonzako@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-08-17
#9 · Quote Reply

Just bring the laptop with you, ofc /j

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printf("%s", name); piefed.blahaj.zone akunohana@piefed.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2026-03-30
#10 · Quote Reply

Heart wrenching 😭

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Lily lemmy.zip Shirow@lemmy.zip
Joined: 2025-11-07
#11 · Quote Reply

Yep... Right in the feels. 🫠

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Cass piefed.blahaj.zone Cass@piefed.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2025-07-16
#12 · Quote Reply

Reading this as I'm visiting my parents lol (it's fine, I also boymode at home)

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TheGingerNut piefed.blahaj.zone TheGingerNut@piefed.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2026-06-29
#13 · Quote Reply

Me as a trans girl who told my parents and then gave them enough time to stop being weird about it: "That's heartbreaking, can't relate thank god"

Like it wasn't easy, but I haven't been misgendered at home in months which is surprising thb

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birdwing lemmy.blahaj.zone birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2025-08-19
#14 · Quote Reply

🫂 recognisable, I had this for a while too... my parents got around though when my egg broke, luckily!

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Gaja0 lemmy.zip Gaja0@lemmy.zip
Joined: 2025-06-30
#15 · Quote Reply

I stopped talking with most of my family. They're not evil. They clearly care, but can't help but put you down.

It's ingrained in me. My reactions and thoughts feel poisoned. I catch their thoughts in my head and take a moment to reset.

Sometimes, I feel like I can't laugh because it sounds too much like them. I feel dumb or unproductive when experiencing comfort or joy.

Obviously, this isn't inherently a trans issue as I'm not transgender, but I sympathize. The gap in my case is religion, but not really because the issues go deeper than that.

I think people brave enough to decide who they want to be will always encounter resistance from people who are bitter from a lifetime of obedience to imaginary social constraints. It's invalidating to them for you to be happy and also yourself.

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buran lemmy.today buran@lemmy.today
Joined: 2026-06-15
#16 · Quote Reply

Not the same, but I sympathize with this because I'm a dude and my family always hated long hair. I don't even like it that long but they have always being super pushy and insisting me on men in the family cutting it down twice or thrice a month. And every time I've have my hair not cut for a few months they get really annoying telling me to cut it down, that I look like a homeless person or whatever.

I'm now an adult, but because I'm financially dependent on them I still do this (consciously or not) just to be less stressed and make them shut up. I can't imagine how rough would be something similar with a trans person.

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FatVegan leminal.space FatVegan@leminal.space
Joined: 2025-11-05
#17 · Quote Reply

Not the same, but I sympathize with this because I'm a dude and my family always hated long hair. I don't even like it that long but they have always being super pushy and insisting me on men in the family cutting it down twice or thrice a month. And every time I've have my hair not cut for a few months they get really annoying telling me to cut it down, that I look like a homeless person or wh...

Two or three times a month honestly sounds kind of insane. My mom always wanted me to have long hair and i never liked it. But i was also lazy and didn't care, so i often had long-ish hair.

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Stolas lemmy.ca Stolas@lemmy.ca
Joined: 2026-08-27
#18 · Quote Reply

Not the same, but I sympathize with this because I'm a dude and my family always hated long hair. I don't even like it that long but they have always being super pushy and insisting me on men in the family cutting it down twice or thrice a month. And every time I've have my hair not cut for a few months they get really annoying telling me to cut it down, that I look like a homeless person or wh...

My family is the same way. Very conservative and will say the exact same thing as yours regarding the homeless comment and even accuse you of being closeted.

Really wish I didn't have to deal with them.

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chattre lemmy.blahaj.zone chattre@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2026-03-11
#19 · Quote Reply

maybe I could've just taken it instead of being honest. probably would be in a better position in life. honesty made a lot of things hurt and important people leave.

but logically I know I couldn't have, and that it wouldn't have been better at all. it would've just been this, this hollow imitation of the way things are supposed to be.

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tyranny crazypeople.online tyranny@crazypeople.online
Joined: 2026-06-11
#20 · Quote Reply

I stopped talking with most of my family. They're not evil. They clearly care, but can't help but put you down. It's ingrained in me. My reactions and thoughts feel poisoned. I catch their thoughts in my head and take a moment to reset. Sometimes, I feel like I can't laugh because it sounds too much like them. I feel dumb or unproductive when experiencing comfort or joy. Obviously, this isn't i...

you see the reasons to dislike your parents more clearly than anyone. and you look past the reasons to love your parents. i can't say whether your parents are any good, on the whole. but their laughs, far from being detestable, are wonderful, adorable, like rain in a drought. the ways you resemble them can be beautiful too, regardless of their flaws

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TotallynotJessica Moderator TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2024-10-30
#21 · Quote Reply

you see the reasons to dislike your parents more clearly than anyone. and you look past the reasons to love your parents. i can't say whether your parents are any good, on the whole. but their laughs, far from being detestable, are wonderful, adorable, like rain in a drought. the ways you resemble them can be beautiful too, regardless of their flaws

Better you make their laughter your own than let them prevent you from laughing.

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TotallynotJessica Moderator TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2024-10-30
#22 · Quote Reply

maybe I could've just taken it instead of being honest. probably would be in a better position in life. honesty made a lot of things hurt and important people leave. but logically I know I couldn't have, and that it wouldn't have been better at all. it would've just been this, this hollow imitation of the way things are supposed to be.

I feel that. As much as being trans makes things difficult and scary, going back was never an option for me.

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