It's me, the notorious goal-achiever, here to report having achieved another goal.

So, for a long while now, about 3 months, I've been hanging out non-stop with a long-time friend. We reconnected not that long ago, maybe a little over a year, a year and a half, after having been friends for some time during uni. Long story short, we're now a couple.

Pretty interesting development, I'd say. I mentioned a few days ago, a few weeks ago really, that my friend (same individual) said that I should aim for a girlfriend, and should do so without succumbing to my ever-terrible tendency to overcategorize everything. What's the difference between a girlfriend and great friend? Very little, I say, besides the commitment. Her argument was that I shouldn't try to look for a girlfriend, but rather I should just meet people, hang out with people I like, and see what happens. Just do what I want to do, do what feels right, and everything will turn out alright. Well, she was right; she's also now my girlfriend. Funny.

Anyway, this is fine. It's a little stressful for me, since I now feel some additional responsibility towards her, I guess, but in general I think our relationship will just keep going as it is. We have been very, very close. So close that the people around us definitely assume we're a couple, even if we weren't officially until yesterday. My point is that I have committed, which means there are dues to be paid in that I'm expected to conduct myself in a way becoming of her, as well as consider her family planning ideas for the long-haul. I think she's quite serious about this, and to be frank, I think she might be so obscenely out of my league that letting her go would be blasphemy. Meaning I'm gonna have to mentally prepare myself to be a father in the next, let's say, 6 to 7 years (intentional).

I guess I'll just see how things develop. I have not much interest in sex, and she does, so that's something that I'm going to try to accommodate. She's already made it clear that we can take things at my pace, so it's great to see she's accommodating me as well. We know each other pretty well, so it's good that she accepts that. She even said that she foresaw this sort of sexual hesitancy on my part and just sighed and went along with it. We'll see, we'll see.

We have lots of plans and I'm very excited.

I asked her, maybe a little rough of a question but I felt it should be asked, if we could remain friends if things didn't go well between us. She said no, because some romantic shit. Anyway, I think she means it. If we don't work out, it might be something quite serious that she can't overlook, because she will really try to make it work even through things less convenient and to her liking. That kind of shook me, because this feels very casual. It feels almost surreal. It's happening, and it's normal and it's OK, but it's very loose. There's very little tying us together, basically only mutual affection, which to be fair is plenty, but it's also a little brittle. If she just loses interest in me, well, will we just stop being friends?! I don't want to lose a friend over this. Being in a relationship, a committed, serious romantic and sexual relationship with such a dear friend feels like putting all my eggs in the same shabby basket.

I do like her very much, so I suppose it's fine.

I'll have to call my granny about this, unfortunately. She'll be annoying about it.

I wore jeans, today!

Hey Mr Jeansman, the wheel of consent might be a useful or pleasant read for you?

Anyways, enjoy the journey! 🌳🌸

Thanks :D

the wheel of consent might be a useful or pleasant read for you?

Yeah maybe. I did speak with her about consent and we seemed to be on the same page, but having a solid framework should be good. I'll give it a go!