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TotallynotJessica lemmy.blahaj.zone TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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lauha lemmy.world lauha@lemmy.world
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That's why a lot of them hate trans and want to ban it.

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craftrabbit lemmy.zip craftrabbit@lemmy.zip
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This is so wholesome though. People are trying to make us believe that all women in Muslim families are oppressed and that we should pass some stupid laws to limit their freedoms because of that, but the reality is what's happening in this post. This just healed a couple months worth of right-wing slander propaganda for me.

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13igtyme startrek.website 13igtyme@startrek.website
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This is so wholesome though. People are trying to make us believe that all women in Muslim families are oppressed and that we should pass some stupid laws to limit their freedoms because of that, but the reality is what's happening in this post. This just healed a couple months worth of right-wing slander propaganda for me.

Is it though? In the eyes of this woman's mother she's being treated as a man.

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craftrabbit lemmy.zip craftrabbit@lemmy.zip
Joined: 2025-07-04
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Is it though? In the eyes of this woman's mother she's being treated as a man.

Oh, I read it the wrong way round... Well forget what I said, screw this woman's family, they're mean, but still don't discriminate against Muslims it's not cool

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scrion lemmy.world scrion@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-11-07
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This is so wholesome though. People are trying to make us believe that all women in Muslim families are oppressed and that we should pass some stupid laws to limit their freedoms because of that, but the reality is what's happening in this post. This just healed a couple months worth of right-wing slander propaganda for me.

Uhm... how? Will you explain how you arrived at extracting a positive message out of this post?

The poster is apparently MtF and passing, and their mom is recognizing that, so visually, OP should cover themselves, according to their mom's beliefs. However, the mom can't acknowledge that, as that would mean acknowledging they're a woman - which is impossible in their belief system.

I can't imagine this tension to be pleasant for the mother in any form or shape, and at best the poster could gain some form of amusement by seeing their own mother struggle in discomfort. I fail to see how that situation is a blow to conservatives, demonstrating the absence of oppression in that particular family.

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craftrabbit lemmy.zip craftrabbit@lemmy.zip
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Uhm... how? Will you explain how you arrived at extracting a positive message out of this post? The poster is apparently MtF and passing, and their mom is recognizing that, so visually, OP should cover themselves, according to their mom's beliefs. However, the mom can't acknowledge that, as that would mean acknowledging they're a woman - which is impossible in their belief system. I can't imagi...

See: my other comment in this thread

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robear lemmy.zip robear@lemmy.zip
Joined: 2026-06-21
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Oh, I read it the wrong way round... Well forget what I said, screw this woman's family, they're mean, but still don't discriminate against Muslims it's not cool

but still don't discriminate against Muslims it's not cool

Free yourself to discriminate against all hateful religions equally.

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FatVegan leminal.space FatVegan@leminal.space
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That't where the murdering starts

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marduk lemmy.today marduk@lemmy.today
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but still don't discriminate against Muslims it's not cool Free yourself to discriminate against all hateful religions equally.
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Allero lemmy.today Allero@lemmy.today
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but still don't discriminate against Muslims it's not cool Free yourself to discriminate against all hateful religions equally.

This shit is always so problematic, like the moment I speak against religion X, I'm joined by zealots of religion Y as if it's about X or Y and not about the fact people made up a genocidal psychopatic man in the sky (or a similar system) that will make them go through eternal torture if they try to be decent people

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EatMyPixelDust lemmy.blahaj.zone EatMyPixelDust@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2023-07-07
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Oh, I read it the wrong way round... Well forget what I said, screw this woman's family, they're mean, but still don't discriminate against Muslims it's not cool
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BeerStainedBunny lemmy.blahaj.zone BeerStainedBunny@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2026-08-12
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Oh, I read it the wrong way round... Well forget what I said, screw this woman's family, they're mean, but still don't discriminate against Muslims it's not cool

Don't discriminate against the ethnicity. All religions deserve scrutiny especially when they hurt people.

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Jankatarch lemmy.world Jankatarch@lemmy.world
Joined: 2024-07-12
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For other muslims my age I can at least talk about the Mukhannathun and gain some amount of legitimacy.

Except parents do that thing where they get absurdly offended at the idea their adult child dares teach anything; and so they just start yelling instead...

Also 9/10 people in the LGBTQ community are extra careful about NOT talking to you IRL for being middle eastern.

(Second one I do completely understand the reason for, and I am happy people are taking safety first, it just still feels a bit bad that's all)

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RachelRodent lemmy.dbzer0.com WeLoveCastingSpellz@lemmy.dbzer0.com
Joined: 2023-09-24
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This is so wholesome though. People are trying to make us believe that all women in Muslim families are oppressed and that we should pass some stupid laws to limit their freedoms because of that, but the reality is what's happening in this post. This just healed a couple months worth of right-wing slander propaganda for me.

I am a trans woman born to a Muslim family it was not fun

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tacosanonymous lemmy.blahaj.zone tacosanonymous@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2026-07-31
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That’s some heartbreaking validation.

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ImADifferentBird piefed.blahaj.zone ImADifferentBird@piefed.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2025-06-06
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but still don't discriminate against Muslims it's not cool Free yourself to discriminate against all hateful religions equally.

I feel like it's the hate we should be speaking against and not the religion.

You cannot fight hate with hate.

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GalacticGrapefruit lemmy.world GalacticGrapefruit@lemmy.world
Joined: 2025-01-30
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For other muslims my age I can at least talk about the Mukhannathun and gain some amount of legitimacy. Except parents do that thing where they get absurdly offended at the idea their adult child dares teach anything; and so they just start yelling instead... Also 9/10 people in the LGBTQ community are extra careful about NOT talking to you IRL for being middle eastern. (Second one I do complet...

That's so isolating, I'm sorry you've had to handle that. :( You don't deserve to be treated that way.

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AItoothbrush lemmy.zip AI_toothbrush@lemmy.zip
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Dont most sources agree that you can be trans as a muslim but you have to cover up? I mean it could be her parents lack of acceptence of her being trans but in some arab countries it is not only legal to be trans, they even apply the same insane rules to you as cis women which is a veeeery strange form of validation. I guess this is what you would call "transmisogyny"

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captainlezbian lemmy.world captainlezbian@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-06-29
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For other muslims my age I can at least talk about the Mukhannathun and gain some amount of legitimacy. Except parents do that thing where they get absurdly offended at the idea their adult child dares teach anything; and so they just start yelling instead... Also 9/10 people in the LGBTQ community are extra careful about NOT talking to you IRL for being middle eastern. (Second one I do complet...

As a white trans woman, while I understand the fear a lot of folks have, it's still racism and we do still need to call it out.

I get it with being awkward around someone wearing hijab or other religious clothing, I'm awkward around people wearing crosses too. But there are plenty of Muslims who are cool with us or capable of a peaceful coexistence stalemate. I'm really hopeful about people like Ilhan Omar, Zohran Mamdani, and Abdul El-Sayed changing perceptions of Muslims.

But also, holy fuck white westerners need to understand that people can be Middle Eastern and not Muslim. I've met a trans lesbian atheist who had just gotten to America from Iran as a refugee. Palestine has a Muslim majority, but still has Jewish and Christian communities. Most middle eastern countries have traditional Christian communities, some have extremely old ones with wildly divergent traditions. There's also Baha'i and Zoroastrianism and possibly even some traditional paganism. And that's without even touching on the communistic atheists (such as in the PKK) or the fact that in every society a certain portion of people will hear all the religion stuff and just, not buy any of it, whether or not they can be openly atheist or convert to what they do buy.

And that was just for people from the Middle East, which isn't all (idk if it's even most) of them in my country (USA). In 2002 most Arab Americans were Christians. Regardless though, people of middle eastern descent are just like any other descendants of immigrants. An American of middle eastern descent has the ability to find themselves embracing a much more liberal approach to Islam than their parents or to be an atheist or whatever else, just like someone who's family came over from Ireland at the same time has with their family's Catholicism.

Sorry about the rant, but I grew up in post 9/11 America and I was fortunate enough to have plenty of exposure to Middle Eastern people over the course of my early life and in addition to seeing the people everyone was losing their shit to be racist towards I got to see a lot of the beauty in their cultures. And as I mentioned earlier I've seen people who had to flee the governments and social movements people actually have a problem with, we should be welcoming those people with wide open arms, not treating them with suspicion just because they look and sound Iranian or Iraqi or whatever.

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robear lemmy.zip robear@lemmy.zip
Joined: 2026-06-21
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I feel like it's the hate we should be speaking against and not the religion. You cannot fight hate with hate.

You cannot fight hate with hate.

Well you certainly can't with platitudes.

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offspec lemmy.world offspec@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-02
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Dont most sources agree that you can be trans as a muslim but you have to cover up? I mean it could be her parents lack of acceptence of her being trans but in some arab countries it is not only legal to be trans, they even apply the same insane rules to you as cis women which is a veeeery strange form of validation. I guess this is what you would call "transmisogyny"

Trans inclusive misogyny is a fun mind fuck

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craftrabbit lemmy.zip craftrabbit@lemmy.zip
Joined: 2025-07-04
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Don't discriminate against the ethnicity. All religions deserve scrutiny especially when they hurt people.

Fuck people who impose their religious values onto others. Fuck people who feel superior due to their beliefs and try to help others "discover the truths" and "the incorrectness of their ways". But religions don't hurt people (at least the major world religions), it's people who do that. And for every religious prick, there's two others who genuinely gain something from their beliefs and aren't weird about it.

I think questioning a religion itself doesn't make sense, since all religions are irrational in some way and most of the time you can read whatever the fuck you want into the religious texts, but religious leadership deserves all the scrutiny in the world. Fuck the Vatican's anti-queer rhetoric, fuck all of the pedophile priests and fuck all of the Islamists who are trying to turn the irrational into law.

So I guess what I'm trying to say is that we should differentiate between religions and religious assholes, lest we risk imposing the same kind of repression onto others that we are trying to protect ourselves against. And that includes acting superior to others because they believe something that we deem irrational. It would be a merrier world, could more people just keep their hands out of other's business. Which is something the mother in this post did not understand, so fuck her, but also let's be better than her.

Whoa that's a lot of text I wrote just now. It's not even really an answer to your comment anymore, but that's what I believe in, in case anybody cares.

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craftrabbit lemmy.zip craftrabbit@lemmy.zip
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I am a trans woman born to a Muslim family it was not fun

Yeah I misread the post. I'm sorry you have to go through this kind of stuff and hope you've found a more accepting environment.

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RachelRodent lemmy.dbzer0.com WeLoveCastingSpellz@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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Yeah I misread the post. I'm sorry you have to go through this kind of stuff and hope you've found a more accepting environment.

Fairsiess

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SkyezOpen lemmy.world SkyezOpen@lemmy.world
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Trans inclusive misogyny is a fun mind fuck

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Lena gregtech.eu lena@gregtech.eu
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#27 · (edited) Quote Reply

This would be funny if it wasn't sad. Religion is the bane of humanity.

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HalfSalesman lemmy.world HalfSalesman@lemmy.world
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As a white trans woman, while I understand the fear a lot of folks have, it's still racism and we do still need to call it out. I get it with being awkward around someone wearing hijab or other religious clothing, I'm awkward around people wearing crosses too. But there are plenty of Muslims who are cool with us or capable of a peaceful coexistence stalemate. I'm really hopeful about people lik...

What are your thoughts on anti-theism, given your perspective towards religious minorities?

For me, religion is religion. Its all goobly-gook. Sure I don't hate individual believers or whatever, but I intensely despise their religion all the same.

I will say, whatever is the dominant religion of a region is always my primary concern. So in my own country, the US, Christianity is my least favored just due to its overwhelming influence, but they're all shit.

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Z72.53 lemmy.blahaj.zone FRYD@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2026-09-11
#29 · (edited) Quote Reply

For other muslims my age I can at least talk about the Mukhannathun and gain some amount of legitimacy. Except parents do that thing where they get absurdly offended at the idea their adult child dares teach anything; and so they just start yelling instead... Also 9/10 people in the LGBTQ community are extra careful about NOT talking to you IRL for being middle eastern. (Second one I do complet...

What do you mean people in the LGBTQ community don’t talk to you IRL? Do you mean that as a kind of fearing a minority thing or because they’re extra careful about the general rule of not outing people you clock?

I’m a white trans woman, but I live in a very diverse area. So the idea of avoiding someone because of their ethnicity is kinda foreign to me. Where I am, PoC are generally more respectful if not friendly to queer people than most white people are.

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Manalith midwest.social Manalith@midwest.social
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#30 · Quote Reply

I wish I had a link to the rest of the screenshots from this, they had at least two more pictures of stories about the guy.

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crenquis lemmy.today crenquis@lemmy.today
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Dont most sources agree that you can be trans as a muslim but you have to cover up? I mean it could be her parents lack of acceptence of her being trans but in some arab countries it is not only legal to be trans, they even apply the same insane rules to you as cis women which is a veeeery strange form of validation. I guess this is what you would call "transmisogyny"

Iran pays for transition surgery. However, there is still massive discrimination.

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Jankatarch lemmy.world Jankatarch@lemmy.world
Joined: 2024-07-12
#32 · (edited) Quote Reply

What do you mean people in the LGBTQ community don’t talk to you IRL? Do you mean that as a kind of fearing a minority thing or because they’re extra careful about the general rule of not outing people you clock? I’m a white trans woman, but I live in a very diverse area. So the idea of avoiding someone because of their ethnicity is kinda foreign to me. Where I am, PoC are generally more respec...

I mean as in people assume I may be a religious extremist at first. I live in Texas so that may be different?

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Z72.53 lemmy.blahaj.zone FRYD@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2026-09-11
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I mean as in people assume I may be a religious extremist at first. I live in Texas so that may be different?

Yeah that’s gotta be a Texas/southern thing. I live in New York and the idea of just assuming a middle eastern seeming person is an extremist sounds ridiculous.

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Ginny [they/she] lemmy.blahaj.zone svcg@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2023-07-16
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Fuck people who impose their religious values onto others. Fuck people who feel superior due to their beliefs and try to help others "discover the truths" and "the incorrectness of their ways". But religions don't hurt people (at least the major world religions), it's people who do that. And for every religious prick, there's two others who genuinely gain something from their beliefs and aren't...

I would never pre-judge anyone based on only knowing their religion, because most people manage to reconcile their holy books with modern society, but I think it's wrong to say religions don't hurt people.

The misogyny and the homophobia are there, in the books, plain as day. How many queer people have grown up wracked with guilt over own "sinfulness", and put themselves through conversion therapy because of all the vile shit they internalised from those books? How many women stay with abusive men because God says wives should obey their husbands and divorce is a sin?

I've met lots of lovely Christians and Muslims, but they're lovely despite the religion AFAIAC.

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VerilyFemme lemmy.blahaj.zone VerilyFemme@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2024-05-18
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I wish I had a link to the rest of the screenshots from this, they had at least two more pictures of stories about the guy.

If you find them please post them. I had forgotten about this guy.

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Firebirdie713 lemmy.blahaj.zone Firebirdie713@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2023-06-07
#36 · Quote Reply

Iran pays for transition surgery. However, there is still massive discrimination.

Also only for binary trans women in some circumstances. Trans men and nonbinary people do not get theirs paid for.

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Jankatarch lemmy.world Jankatarch@lemmy.world
Joined: 2024-07-12
#37 · (edited) Quote Reply

As a white trans woman, while I understand the fear a lot of folks have, it's still racism and we do still need to call it out. I get it with being awkward around someone wearing hijab or other religious clothing, I'm awkward around people wearing crosses too. But there are plenty of Muslims who are cool with us or capable of a peaceful coexistence stalemate. I'm really hopeful about people lik...

even some traditional paganism.

Oh absolutely! It's depressingly common for Alevis escaping persecution from muslim-majority countries to come to US and promptly get grouped in with muslims before being persecuted again.

Sorry about the rant

Thank you for the rant! I loved reading through it. Remember multiple movements I honestly forgot about.

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decayedproton beehaw.org decayedproton@beehaw.org
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I am a trans woman born to a Muslim family it was not fun

Pardon me RachelRodent, I'm familiar with the genus "Mus", but not the species "lim".

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captainlezbian lemmy.world captainlezbian@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-06-29
#39 · Quote Reply

What are your thoughts on anti-theism, given your perspective towards religious minorities? For me, religion is religion. Its all goobly-gook. Sure I don't hate individual believers or whatever, but I intensely despise their religion all the same. I will say, whatever is the dominant religion of a region is always my primary concern. So in my own country, the US, Christianity is my least favore...

Well I'm personally pagan so I'd say I'm not a huge fan of anti theism. I also see it as just as capable of authoritarian crackdowns against personal freedom as religions are.

I'm a firm believer in secularism, including forced secular education. Religion is a personal matter and so long as I don't impede on anyone's life with my practice of it I should be free to light my incense, say my prayers, dance in front of some bonfires, and take my psychadelics in attempts to better understand the divine. And I should be free to meet up with others who are likeminded to do the same.

But also, on Islam I just have seen so many anti theists behave towards people of middle eastern descent in a way indistinguishable from were they simply racist, so I do always keep an eye out for how they act.

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Manalith midwest.social Manalith@midwest.social
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If you find them please post them. I had forgotten about this guy.

This was my first time going to Tumblr, but I found them.

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craftrabbit lemmy.zip craftrabbit@lemmy.zip
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I would never pre-judge anyone based on only knowing their religion, because most people manage to reconcile their holy books with modern society, but I think it's wrong to say religions don't hurt people. The misogyny and the homophobia are there, in the books, plain as day. How many queer people have grown up wracked with guilt over own "sinfulness", and put themselves through conversion ther...

Definitely also a fair take

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