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I'm curious to hear from men who genuinely love their partners and find them attractive, but need that extra bit of spice or effort from their partner to get in the mood.
My boyfriend and I have a loving, affectionate relationship, but he's explained that things like dressing up, wearing lingerie, or making a deliberate effort to seduce him are what really get him in the mood.
For me, I can feel that desire naturally just from being close, kissing, cuddling, or looking at my partner. I enjoy dressing up and making an effort too, but I also want to feel wanted just as I am, without having to do something extra first.
I'm wondering how common it is for men to feel differently. Can you be very attracted to your partner but rarely feel that urge unless they do something specific to get you in the mood?
Has this always been how you are, or did it change as your relationship became more comfortable and emotionally close? I'd genuinely like to understand how this works from your perspective.
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Originally posted by u/fullof_tiramisu on r/AskMen