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Wife [27f] and I [27M] can't agree on how many of our alma mater's football games to attend this fall. She wants to attend less game. I think this is a mistake, and I am trying to convince her.

TRIGGER WARNING: Obsessive behavior

Original Post - archived July 28, 2015

My wife and I both attended UGA (Go Dawgs!), and we're (or at least I am) big football fans. Every year since graduation, we've managed to attend every home game thanks to my dad being awesome. It's usually the highlight of my week because I not only get to tailgate with my family but also with lots of my old college buddies.

With the season getting so close, I've been talking to my wife a lot lately about my expectations for this year and about some new ideas I had for making our tailgates better. Friday, for the first time, she told me that she thought we should cutback on the number of games we attend. There are 7 home games this year, and usually we also make one road trip, so my plan was to make at least eight games. She, on the other hand, would prefer to cut that number to around three or four, which is inconceivable to me.

Now, to be fair, she is pregnant, so by the end of the season, she'd be about 7 months along, but she wouldn't be heavily pregnant during the hot games. I know she thinks we need to save money and spend some of those weekends planning and preparing, but I think we'll have plenty of time to do that stuff after the regular season ends. Plus, it's not like we can't do some of this stuff at night, depending on what time the game starts, or on Sunday afternoons. This is our last year to really enjoy the games until our child gets a little older, so I think we should enjoy this season.

I normally am a reasonable guy, but I just think it would be a mistake to waste this opportunity. We haven't been able to even get close to an agreement. Neither of us is budging, but I thought about suggesting that she attend 3-4 games and I could attend 7 and not go on the road trip. Am I wrong here?

EDIT: Okay, I get it! You all have made it very clear that I'm being an ass. I'll talk to her and see if she'd be okay with 5. If not, I'll just accept 4.

tl;dr: Wife wants to cut back on number of UGA football games we attend. I disagree and think that would be a mistake because this will probably be our last year to attend all game for a while.

RELEVANT COMMENTS

[deleted]

I attend a state college and once I graduate I plan on going to our home games (thanks alumni dad!). But once I get pregnant? Honestly that sounds like such a drag. "Yay I get to hang out with all our college buddies while everyone gets as shitfaced as they did back in the day... but I can't because I'm pregnant, also I have to pee every 15 minutes and sitting for extended amounts of time puts me in pain." Honestly, is it really really more important to attend all the games than to spend time with your wife preparing for your baby????? Could you just go to 5 games, 4 with her and 1 with your buddies?

OOP

I could. I guess this might be the year my streak dies. I've been to every UGA home football game since I was 15.

[deleted]

Yeah, but this is also the year you're getting to become a father! You're viewing this from the perspective that you're losing something, but you're really gaining the most awesome thing in the world, a little buddy to do everything with who loves you and your wife more than anything in the world. Even more than you love UGA!

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trustmeimhuman

Your basically yelling your wife that football is more important than her and your baby.

OOP

That is not my intent.

trustmeimhuman

I think you might be in denial about your priorities. You say you don't intend football to be more important. Then why are you prioritizing it over your family? Don't. Football will be there next year and the year after but your wife may not be if you don't grow up and rethink your position on this.

Also, 7 months is pretty damn heavily pregnant.

OOP when asked this cant be real

I don't think it's ridiculous to want to hold on to a 12 year streak. I HAVE BEEN TO EVERY HOME GAME SINCE I WAS 15! Also, for the record, my friend's wife made every home game last year and she was pregnant. Just saying...

ForTheLoveOfGiraffe

Are you actually serious? Just because another pregnant woman decided to suffer through, your wife should be able to? Please don't ever say that to her. Each pregnancy is different and just because your friend didn't care enough about his wife to insist that she rests and he helps look after her while she's pregnant instead of dragging her to an exhausting event, it doesn't mean that you should do the same with your wife. Gosh, have some compassion for her! Your tradition will have to end at some point and is not more important that your wife. She has come to you with a compromise and you really should be trying to find a way to meet in the middle, not throw around the fact that another pregnant woman could handle it.

OOP

Yeah, alright, I get it. I'll find a way to work out a compromise.

[deleted]

She already offered you a compromise. 3-4 games was the compromise. She is not remotely as into football, tailgating, and still trying to live the college life in her late 20s as you are. Please try to understand that. Offering to go to any games, much less 3-4, while pregnant was honestly pretty generous and meeting you more than halfway -- and you go on a rant about how it's "inconceivable" to you. If this isn't a troll post, I feel super sorry for your wife.

OOP

Yes, I'm just going to take it. I will ask her for 5, but if she says no, then I won't argue. I just accept it.

BEST COMMENT

ravenesis

Single people of Reddit. Read the post, read this guy's responses. This guy somehow managed to get married. There is definitely hope for you out there.

I know he's too fucking stupid to understand why people keep downvoting him, and why repeating "Its a joke" isn't helping, but it doesn't make it any less sad. Skip the fucking small games, its just college football. I'm obsessed with Basketball but I'm not going to drag my wife 7 months into her pregnancy to a fucking football game to tailgate and be delusional enough to think it's okay because the weather isn't that hot.

Update July 29, 2015 (Next Day)

I am sorry if I was rude or inappropriate in some of my responses in the post I made yesterday. I just got a little overwhelmed when everyone started giving me the business, which I probably deserved.

Anyway, I got the message loud and clear, so I talked with my wife tonight after I got home from work. I apologized for being so selfish and putting my desires ahead of her needs and the baby's. I then told her how lucky I felt to have a wife who was so caring and selfless. With respect to the football games, I told her that she had been more than generous with letting me have 4 games, but I should have done the right thing and cut that number to 1 instead, provided that she was 100% okay with me going. We talked for a while, and she admitted that she's much happier with this situation. My plan is to attend the Bama game, with the caveat that she does not have to attend and, if something comes up, I will miss that game.

I will miss going to the games, but I need to take care of my responsibilities at home. Thanks for knocking some sense into me and letting me vent.

tl;dr: I apologized to my wife. I'm only going to attend one game.

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