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‘I just couldn’t do that drive any more’: Woman left job due to three-hour commute on N7
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supersquirrel sopuli.xyz supersquirrel@sopuli.xyz
Joined: 2023-12-09
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What makes this Not The Onion to me is how normalized this story is. How did things get to this point? Would she be happy with a job that only had a 2.5 hour commute each way!? Maybe, and that is what makes it existentially funny to me.

For example, an increase in the commuting time for the average respondent by only 15 min would have to be compensated by a net wage increase of almost 12%.

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0927537124001271

The analysis relies on data from the Census Bureau and the Bureau of Labor Statistics. By determining the average time people spend commuting in metro areas and the average hourly wage in those areas, the analysis calculates the dollar value of a worker's commuting time over a year.

https://www.investopedia.com/commuting-to-work-costs-employees-thousands-of-dollars-worth-of-lost-working-time-11905701

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breadsmasher lemmy.world breadsmasher@lemmy.world
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who the fuck takes a job 3 hours away

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HobbitFoot thelemmy.club HobbitFoot@thelemmy.club
Joined: 2023-06-16
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who the fuck takes a job 3 hours away

There are some supercommuters who travel long distances to work in Manhattan. I knew of some who live in Pennsylvania.

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lasta piefed.world lasta@piefed.world
Joined: 2026-01-21
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who the fuck takes a job 3 hours away

The article says the commute took so long because of traffic and congestion on the roads, so the distance itself might not be that far. It’s an unreasonably long commute either way though.

I could maybe understand accepting a job that far away as a temporary solution, like if you are eventually planning to relocate to that area and need to save up first, or trying to break into an industry with limited local opportunities until you get a bit of experience and find something closer.

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snek_boi lemmy.ml snek_boi@lemmy.ml
Joined: 2021-07-18
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I remember reading that commute time is the number one predictor for leaving a job. I wonder what the evidence would show if I properly looked it up.

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supersquirrel sopuli.xyz supersquirrel@sopuli.xyz
Joined: 2023-12-09
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I remember reading that commute time is the number one predictor for leaving a job. I wonder what the evidence would show if I properly looked it up.

The study that I think of is the one that attempted to quantify how much a 45+ minute commute was worth to employees vs. an equivalent job that had a trivial commut but paid less. It came out to at least $15,000 a year and that was awhile ago.

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Boomer Humor Doomergod lemmy.world Semi_Hemi_Demigod@lemmy.world
Joined: 2024-03-15
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who the fuck takes a job 3 hours away

There are folks who commute by car from Scranton to New York. There are also people who live in Harrisburg and York who commute to Baltimore and DC.

It’s insane.

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cjoll4 lemmy.world cjoll4@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-10-22
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There are some supercommuters who travel long distances to work in Manhattan. I knew of some who live in Pennsylvania.

God damn. I just got back from a "vacation" in New York and I can't even imagine it. Even traveling from uptown Manhattan to downtown Manhattan is already a longer commute than I would be willing to tolerate...

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Eat_Your_Paisley lemmy.world Eat_Your_Paisley@lemmy.world
Joined: 2025-06-13
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There are folks who commute by car from Scranton to New York. There are also people who live in Harrisburg and York who commute to Baltimore and DC. It’s insane.

When I get back to DC I’ll probably find a place in West Virginia

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Ghostalmedia lemmy.world Ghostalmedia@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-06-10
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who the fuck takes a job 3 hours away

Traffic may have been more manageable when they took the gig.

Or, maybe housing costs and limited jobs forced them into this position. I know a lot of people in my area live away from the urban center for more affordable housing, but they work in the urban center because that is where the job opportunities are.

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Wildmimic anarchist.nexus Wildmimic@anarchist.nexus
Joined: 2025-09-05
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who the fuck takes a job 3 hours away

https://www.irishtimes.com/ireland/housing-planning/2025/12/05/the-35-hour-35km-commute-kildare-motorists-on-their-m7-traffic-nightmare/

At those speeds I would advise using a bicycle, it's faster and cheaper

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HobbitFoot thelemmy.club HobbitFoot@thelemmy.club
Joined: 2023-06-16
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The article says the commute took so long because of traffic and congestion on the roads, so the distance itself might not be that far. It’s an unreasonably long commute either way though. I could maybe understand accepting a job that far away as a temporary solution, like if you are eventually planning to relocate to that area and need to save up first, or trying to break into an industry with...

Some people do it because of the cost of living differential. If pay in the city is over three times what you could make local, you might be incentivized to take a long commute and deal with it.

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partial_accumen lemmy.world partial_accumen@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-06-15
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who the fuck takes a job 3 hours away

I've got a coworker that works in the Bay Area but lives in the Midwest. Another I know works in New Jersey but lives in the Midwest. Corporate RTO initiatives in High COL areas with a salary differential coupled with lower Midwest COL and housing costs make strange things viable.

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Infrapink thebrainbin.org Infrapink@thebrainbin.org
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who the fuck takes a job 3 hours away

I live in Tipperary. A while ago I had an interview for a job in Louth, and one of the interviewers asked me if I would be driving the breadth of the country every weekday; her tone of voice and body language suggested this was a perfectly reasonable thing to do, and more plausible than moving house.

I answered no, I'd move, because people who drive across multiple counties 10 times a week are lunatics. Turned out one of the other interviewers was a lunatic.

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Infrapink thebrainbin.org Infrapink@thebrainbin.org
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https://www.irishtimes.com/ireland/housing-planning/2025/12/05/the-35-hour-35km-commute-kildare-motorists-on-their-m7-traffic-nightmare/ At those speeds I would advise using a bicycle, it's faster and cheaper

Bikes aren't allowed on motorways, and if you sneak past the checkpoints you have a good chance of dying.

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samus12345 sh.itjust.works samus12345@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2023-07-03
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I live in Tipperary. A while ago I had an interview for a job in Louth, and one of the interviewers asked me if I would be driving the breadth of the country every weekday; her tone of voice and body language suggested this was a perfectly reasonable thing to do, and more plausible than moving house. I answered no, I'd move, because people who drive across multiple counties 10 times a week are ...

So it was a long way to Tipperary?

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samus12345 sh.itjust.works samus12345@sh.itjust.works
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Deirdre Gowran

Glory to her and her House!

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Infrapink thebrainbin.org Infrapink@thebrainbin.org
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So it was a long way to Tipperary?

Unless you live in Waterford, the song is accurate.

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tacosanonymous mander.xyz tacosanonymous@mander.xyz
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It pisses me off that I have to drive 25 minutes to work everyday. Idk how anyone accepts a 1 hour+ commute.

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limelight79 lemmy.world limelight79@lemmy.world
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It pisses me off that I have to drive 25 minutes to work everyday. Idk how anyone accepts a 1 hour+ commute.

What's really fascinating to me is that I hated our 35-40 minute commute, but now I drive even more and don't mind it.

I took the early retirement and am now working as a real estate photographer. Yesterday I drove 120+ miles for a job. No problem. I've had several days with over 100 miles, no problem. Monday I'll drive 50 miles for one job, then another 50 miles to another job, then 25 miles back home.

The differences are that it's not rush hour, and it's to different locations. It's more like exploring the area. There will be jobs I'm not looking forward to, I'm sure, but so far I really enjoy it. I even enjoy the drive, which is something I haven't done in many years.

My only concern is that my car is approaching it's 30th birthday, but I haven't had a single problem as a result of pressing it back into daily driver duties this way.

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Jack_Burton lemmy.ca Jack_Burton@lemmy.ca
Joined: 2025-06-05
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What's really fascinating to me is that I hated our 35-40 minute commute, but now I drive even more and don't mind it. I took the early retirement and am now working as a real estate photographer. Yesterday I drove 120+ miles for a job. No problem. I've had several days with over 100 miles, no problem. Monday I'll drive 50 miles for one job, then another 50 miles to another job, then 25 miles b...
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MinnesotaGoddam lemmy.world HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world
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who the fuck takes a job 3 hours away

Imagine judging someone because they couldn't find affordable housing (in this market) closer than 3 hours away from their job

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Schmuppes lemmy.today Schmuppes@lemmy.today
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AAA feddit.org AAA@feddit.org
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It's a 44 km commute. She's not doing that much mileage. The car is running nonetheless of course.

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limelight79 lemmy.world limelight79@lemmy.world
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Oh no my pension isn't enough, I still need to work.

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Spacehooks reddthat.com Spacehooks@reddthat.com
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There are some supercommuters who travel long distances to work in Manhattan. I knew of some who live in Pennsylvania.

Knew quite a few ppl like that. They took the train/car into a city hours away and then stayed in hotel a few days then went home as for weekly routine. Its always the same reason family and affordability.

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aberrate_junior_beatnik (he/him) midwest.social aberrate_junior_beatnik@midwest.social
Joined: 2023-07-02
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the analysis calculates the dollar value of a worker’s commuting time over a year.

That money comes out of the workers' pockets, not the bosses', so it doesn't count. If it showed up on corporate budgets we'd have robust universal public transit in 30 minutes

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needanke feddit.org needanke@feddit.org
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#28 · (edited) Quote Reply

It's a 44 km commute. She's not doing that much mileage. The car is running nonetheless of course.

So an e-Bike would cut her commute by an hour?

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Verat sh.itjust.works Verat@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2023-07-07
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Long commutes are absolute BS, there are 24h in a day, 8 at work, 8 asleep, if you have 3 hours to work and two hours back, you have all of 2 hours a day to yourself, there need to be laws against that.

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Tudsamfa lemmy.world Tudsamfa@lemmy.world
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So an e-Bike would cut her commute by an hour?

E-bikes have a typical range of 50km, can travel 25km/h, 2 hour commute if you can charge it there. The numbers work out.

But you then have to bike 4 hours every day, which is still some light exercise, in dangerous car traffic since I suspect there is no safe bicycle infrastructure.

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captainlezbian lemmy.world captainlezbian@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-06-29
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I've got a coworker that works in the Bay Area but lives in the Midwest. Another I know works in New Jersey but lives in the Midwest. Corporate RTO initiatives in High COL areas with a salary differential coupled with lower Midwest COL and housing costs make strange things viable.

Wait, what kind of fucking lunatic commutes across the rockies‽

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