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YarraByte aussie.zone YarraByte@aussie.zone
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SpinMeRound aussie.zone SpinMeAround@aussie.zone
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...

... still cheers?

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Gibsonhasafluffybutt aussie.zone Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone
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... ... still cheers?

Cheers :)

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melbaboutown aussie.zone melbaboutown@aussie.zone
Joined: 2023-07-27
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Grief. Pet loss. Discussion of medical issues. Feel free to skip all of this as you will become so sick of it and of me

 

It’s coming through now. No more sleepy morning cuddles. No more relaxing together and companionable tail hugs. No more playing computer games together and holding her at night. Everything is grey https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=iNiUG33rSyY

I’m remembering how funny and sweet Melbcat was, feeling like a monster for just numbly powering through the first week after she died as if nothing had changed, handling everything and speaking so much on everything else (including this other cat) like she hadn’t just died. I was hysterical while making the decision but afterwards something broke and shut off.

Missing her big soft teddy body, her warm weight against me, and the silky thickness of her fur. The tiny snoring and the granny grumbles. Her head on my shoulder. The holding onto items (and me) with her prehensile monkey tail. The pops of her claws catching on the carpet as she walked (she passively resisted having them cut) and the ding and lap of her having a drink. Crunching of her beloved biccies. The familiar sounds are gone. The routine is gone.

Wondering if some of her odd behaviours were her trying to tell me how sick she was. I’m seeing dead-on signs in hindsight. But I never understood. Despite all the vet visits they never picked it up. Even though I had her seen repeatedly in that time I still wish I hadn’t been so complacent in those weeks after minor surgery (intended to prevent something like this) and at least known sooner that I couldn’t save her. Chemo or surgery wouldn’t have saved her because she was also having heart failure. I found out then made a hard decision that night and had her put down the next day.

I think I need to step back from the black cat emotionally because he’s indicated plainly that he doesn’t want help, I can’t just fix the situation, and I need to focus on myself. He could never replace her and I’m not even seeing him around right now due to sleeping my life away.

I will be removing the half-made quarantine setup and returning my back room to how it looked when Melbcat was alive. Even if she’s not around to drink water or sleep there in the sun I wasn’t ready for it to have changed. The beds and bowls in the front room remain untouched (except the blanket in the hidey box was removed for washing). Even the litterboxes are still in their spots. Every time I do laundry or vacuum I’m removing the traces of her from my house and soon all I’ll have left is a bag of whiskers, a bag of shed fur from the brush, digital photos and her ashes.

I didn’t take enough photos towards the end. I didn’t know it was coming.

I’m debating sharing photos from her life but trying to pick the best ones that don’t show too much of my surroundings or my face. The ones from afterwards look so peaceful, like she’s only sleeping in my arms, but I don’t know if that’s appropriate to share and wouldn’t just post those without warning.

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Seagoon_ aussie.zone Seagoon_@aussie.zone
Joined: 2023-06-21
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::: spoiler Grief. Pet loss. Discussion of medical issues. Feel free to skip all of this as you will become so sick of it and of me   It’s coming through now. No more sleepy morning cuddles. No more relaxing together and companionable tail hugs. No more playing computer games together and holding her at night. Everything is grey https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=iNiUG33rSyY I’m remembering how...

so many hugs

I think black cat needs you, just in their own way

I remember when Bill first came, he was so very very shy

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Seagoon_ aussie.zone Seagoon_@aussie.zone
Joined: 2023-06-21
#6 · Quote Reply

... ... still cheers?

train, why train

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bacon aussie.zone bacon@aussie.zone
Joined: 2023-12-17
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Beep Beep 🚚
🍏🍎🍐🍊🍋🍈🫐🍓🍇🍉🍌🍒🍑🥭🍍🥥🥦🥑🫛🍆🍅🥝🥬🥒🌽🥕🥐🍠🫚🥔🧅🥯🍞🥖🥨🧀🧇🥞🧈🍳🥚🥓🥩🍗🍖🫓🍕🍟🍔🌭🥙🧆🌮🌯🥗🍲🍜🍝🥘🍛🍣🍱🥟🦪🍥🍘🍚🍙🐠🍤🪼🦀🐙 🍗🥮🍢🍡🍧🍰🧁🥧🍦🍨🎂🍮🍭🍬🍫🥜🌰🍪🍿🍯🥛☕️🍵🍺🍶🥤🧋🧃🥂🍷🥃🍸🍹🧉🔋

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TheWitchofThornbury2 aussie.zone TheWitchofThornbury2@aussie.zone
Joined: 2025-09-09
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Beep Beep 🚚 🍏🍎🍐🍊🍋🍈🫐🍓🍇🍉🍌🍒🍑🥭🍍🥥🥦🥑🫛🍆🍅🥝🥬🥒🌽🥕🥐🍠🫚🥔🧅🥯🍞🥖🥨🧀🧇🥞🧈🍳🥚🥓🥩🍗🍖🫓🍕🍟🍔🌭🥙🧆🌮🌯🥗🍲🍜🍝🥘🍛🍣🍱🥟🦪🍥🍘🍚🍙🐠🍤🪼🦀🐙 🍗🥮🍢🍡🍧🍰🧁🥧🍦🍨🎂🍮🍭🍬🍫🥜🌰🍪🍿🍯🥛☕️🍵🍺🍶🥤🧋🧃🥂🍷🥃🍸🍹🧉🔋

Coffee please chef. Lots of coffee.

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Force_majeure1234 aussie.zone Force_majeure1234@aussie.zone
Joined: 2025-12-02
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Beep Beep 🚚 🍏🍎🍐🍊🍋🍈🫐🍓🍇🍉🍌🍒🍑🥭🍍🥥🥦🥑🫛🍆🍅🥝🥬🥒🌽🥕🥐🍠🫚🥔🧅🥯🍞🥖🥨🧀🧇🥞🧈🍳🥚🥓🥩🍗🍖🫓🍕🍟🍔🌭🥙🧆🌮🌯🥗🍲🍜🍝🥘🍛🍣🍱🥟🦪🍥🍘🍚🍙🐠🍤🪼🦀🐙 🍗🥮🍢🍡🍧🍰🧁🥧🍦🍨🎂🍮🍭🍬🍫🥜🌰🍪🍿🍯🥛☕️🍵🍺🍶🥤🧋🧃🥂🍷🥃🍸🍹🧉🔋

Crispy pork banh mi and a potato cake please

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CEOofmyhouse56 aussie.zone CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone
Joined: 2023-06-14
#10 · Quote Reply

Happy International Women's Day 💕

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bacon aussie.zone bacon@aussie.zone
Joined: 2023-12-17
#11 · Quote Reply

Coffee please chef. Lots of coffee.

☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️

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bacon aussie.zone bacon@aussie.zone
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#12 · Quote Reply

Crispy pork banh mi and a potato cake please

🛢️🥩🥕🥬🥖🥔

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Force_majeure1234 aussie.zone Force_majeure1234@aussie.zone
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#13 · Quote Reply

🛢️🥩🥕🥬🥖🥔

💪🥰💪

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Force_majeure1234 aussie.zone Force_majeure1234@aussie.zone
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#14 · (edited) Quote Reply

Happy International Women's Day 💕

Women are great 👍
Edit: especially the boobs part

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LowExperience2368 aussie.zone LowExperience2368@aussie.zone
Joined: 2023-06-17
#15 · Quote Reply

::: spoiler Grief. Pet loss. Discussion of medical issues. Feel free to skip all of this as you will become so sick of it and of me   It’s coming through now. No more sleepy morning cuddles. No more relaxing together and companionable tail hugs. No more playing computer games together and holding her at night. Everything is grey https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=iNiUG33rSyY I’m remembering how...
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TheWitchofThornbury2 aussie.zone TheWitchofThornbury2@aussie.zone
Joined: 2025-09-09
#16 · Quote Reply

☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️

Thanks chef.

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melbaboutown aussie.zone melbaboutown@aussie.zone
Joined: 2023-07-27
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Thanks. I have a few cropped ones right now, maybe I can pick out some more later.

She loved to sleep being held, and loved to have a pillow to rest her little head. These are quite recent so she looks quite tired and doesn’t look like she feels too well but they’re still nice.

Melbcat photos

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imoldgreeeg aussie.zone imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone
Joined: 2023-12-22
#18 · Quote Reply

Thanks. I have a few cropped ones right now, maybe I can pick out some more later. She loved to sleep being held, and loved to have a pillow to rest her little head. These are quite recent so she looks quite tired and doesn’t look like she feels too well but they’re still nice. ::: spoiler Melbcat photos :::

They look like she is old but very safe and resting. That's lovely. And you were feeling bad about shutting down and powering through - that is normal. Our brains protect us from the shock and grief by shutting down. Then slowly letting out the feelings as you get to a safe place. It deeply hurts so very much as the shock ends and the feelings start getting felt again - like 1000 little cuts in different ways. But that's love. It's aweful and sad and wonderful. One day it settles and all the bad good love and everything merge together and the sharp edges soften. Promise.

Remember you are the animal you need to care for now. Feed her, rest her, get her some sun. 💙

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TheWitchofThornbury2 aussie.zone TheWitchofThornbury2@aussie.zone
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Women are great 👍 Edit: especially the boobs part

Men have boobs too - they just don't make such a fuss about them.

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Force_majeure1234 aussie.zone Force_majeure1234@aussie.zone
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Men have boobs too - they just don't make such a fuss about them.

Yes but it's international women's day, let's focus on women's boobs not men's, at least today.

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melbaboutown aussie.zone melbaboutown@aussie.zone
Joined: 2023-07-27
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They look like she is old but very safe and resting. That's lovely. And you were feeling bad about shutting down and powering through - that is normal. Our brains protect us from the shock and grief by shutting down. Then slowly letting out the feelings as you get to a safe place. It deeply hurts so very much as the shock ends and the feelings start getting felt again - like 1000 little cuts in...

Thanks 🖤

I don’t know what it’s going to be like without my little love.

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SituationCake aussie.zone SituationCake@aussie.zone
Joined: 2023-06-15
#22 · Quote Reply

::: spoiler Grief. Pet loss. Discussion of medical issues. Feel free to skip all of this as you will become so sick of it and of me   It’s coming through now. No more sleepy morning cuddles. No more relaxing together and companionable tail hugs. No more playing computer games together and holding her at night. Everything is grey https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=iNiUG33rSyY I’m remembering how...

I’m so sorry. Don’t be hard on yourself, you did everything right. Mel cat was loved, it was just her time. Do what you need to do to look after yourself.

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Seagoon_ aussie.zone Seagoon_@aussie.zone
Joined: 2023-06-21
#23 · Quote Reply

Thanks. I have a few cropped ones right now, maybe I can pick out some more later. She loved to sleep being held, and loved to have a pillow to rest her little head. These are quite recent so she looks quite tired and doesn’t look like she feels too well but they’re still nice. ::: spoiler Melbcat photos :::

those are lovely photos 🥰

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CEOofmyhouse56 aussie.zone CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone
Joined: 2023-06-14
#24 · Quote Reply

Women are great 👍 Edit: especially the boobs part

My boobs will be celebrating later on once the housework is done. 👍

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Seagoon_ aussie.zone Seagoon_@aussie.zone
Joined: 2023-06-21
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Music and movie review

Beyond the Sea 2004

it was awful

2 hobbits for when Bobby was singing, just buy a real album, not this

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SpinMeRound aussie.zone SpinMeAround@aussie.zone
Joined: 2023-06-13
#26 · Quote Reply

Having a cbf kinda day.

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CEOofmyhouse56 aussie.zone CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone
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Having a cbf kinda day.

I couldn't either cos of my sore shoulder so I overrode that with lots of coffee and nurofen. It's Sunday Funday. LET'S GO GO GO.

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imoldgreeeg aussie.zone imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone
Joined: 2023-12-22
#28 · Quote Reply

Thanks 🖤 I don’t know what it’s going to be like without my little love.

I know. Big hugs. Keep talking it through.

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tone212_ aussie.zone tone212_@aussie.zone
Joined: 2023-12-21
#29 · (edited) Quote Reply

Having a cbf kinda day.

Same here. Doing a bit of life admin, chores that require me to stand up and move around are staring me in the face but cbf.

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Seagoon_ aussie.zone Seagoon_@aussie.zone
Joined: 2023-06-21
#30 · Quote Reply

Having a cbf kinda day.

just doing the washing and some tidying

might do some online grocery shopping

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tombruzzo aussie.zone tombruzzo@aussie.zone
Joined: 2024-01-08
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Tried to defy the gods with the grill + microwave setting on the new microwave. Turns out it won't cook things in half the time, but maybe it will make sure things like pizza rounders are more consistently cooked on the inside

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StudSpud The Starchy aussie.zone StudChud@aussie.zone
Joined: 2023-06-13
#32 · Quote Reply

Who is a villain you would bang?

I'd probably go with Jason Isaacs as Lucius Malfoy lol or Grace Jones as May Day.

Any villain that Alan Rickman played also gets an honorary mention.

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SpinMeRound aussie.zone SpinMeAround@aussie.zone
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#33 · Quote Reply

Who is a villain you would bang? I'd probably go with Jason Isaacs as Lucius Malfoy lol or Grace Jones as May Day. Any villain that Alan Rickman played also gets an honorary mention.

I said "oh, helloooo" when Barty Crouch Jnr showed up in Harry Potter.

Not sure I'd bang her, but I'd do things for Lilith from Diablo.

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StudSpud The Starchy aussie.zone StudChud@aussie.zone
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I said "oh, helloooo" when Barty Crouch Jnr showed up in Harry Potter. Not sure I'd bang her, but I'd do things for Lilith from Diablo.

Lilith strikes me as the kinda gal you just can't say no to 😂

Agree on Barty, and in a similar vein David Tennant in Jessica Jones 🥵

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Seagoon_ aussie.zone Seagoon_@aussie.zone
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#35 · Quote Reply

okay, I got it ( I think. ) my brain hurts

distance increases between two objects when a body decelerates because space time is non euclidean and a body will find the path of least resistance

( but why do objects go on a path of least resistance, why not greatest resistance? Why do they "fall" ? I interpret resistance as being difficult to do , in my human experience like pushing against a heavy object)

maybe least resistance is just our description for the tendency of an object to do something

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Bottom_racer aussie.zone Bottom_racer@aussie.zone
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#36 · Quote Reply

Who is a villain you would bang? I'd probably go with Jason Isaacs as Lucius Malfoy lol or Grace Jones as May Day. Any villain that Alan Rickman played also gets an honorary mention.

Xenia Onatopp (Famke Janssen)

According to wiki villains:

"she derives sexual pleasure from both inflicting horrible pain as well as receiving it, with her favorite method of murder being to squeeze her victims to death with her thighs"

Sounds like a good time.

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Catfish aussie.zone Catfish@aussie.zone
Joined: 2023-12-17
#37 · Quote Reply

Who is a villain you would bang? I'd probably go with Jason Isaacs as Lucius Malfoy lol or Grace Jones as May Day. Any villain that Alan Rickman played also gets an honorary mention.

Jason Dean.

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StudSpud The Starchy aussie.zone StudChud@aussie.zone
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#38 · Quote Reply

Xenia Onatopp (Famke Janssen) According to wiki villains: "she derives sexual pleasure from both inflicting horrible pain as well as receiving it, with her favorite method of murder being to squeeze her victims to death with her thighs" Sounds like a good time.

Sign me up!

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StudSpud The Starchy aussie.zone StudChud@aussie.zone
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#39 · Quote Reply

Jason Dean.

Oo yeaaaah that's a really good one! 🥵🥵🥵

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Seagoon_ aussie.zone Seagoon_@aussie.zone
Joined: 2023-06-21
#40 · Quote Reply

Who is a villain you would bang? I'd probably go with Jason Isaacs as Lucius Malfoy lol or Grace Jones as May Day. Any villain that Alan Rickman played also gets an honorary mention.

none

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Catfish aussie.zone Catfish@aussie.zone
Joined: 2023-12-17
#41 · Quote Reply

Oo yeaaaah that's a really good one! 🥵🥵🥵

Not anymore, he turned into a weird bobble-head 😹

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SituationCake aussie.zone SituationCake@aussie.zone
Joined: 2023-06-15
#42 · Quote Reply

okay, I got it ( I think. ) my brain hurts distance increases between two objects when a body decelerates because space time is non euclidean and a body will find the path of least resistance ( but why do objects go on a path of least resistance, why not greatest resistance? Why do they "fall" ? I interpret resistance as being difficult to do , in my human experience like pushing against a heav...

There comes a point in maths and physics that there is no more ‘why’. The answer is ‘it just is’. Based on our current knowledge, some things are just fundamental rules of the universe, there is no why. We accept the rule and use it in calculations and theories.

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StudSpud The Starchy aussie.zone StudChud@aussie.zone
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#43 · Quote Reply

none

I don't believe you; everyone wants Arnie from the first Terminator film 🤷‍♀️😂

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tombruzzo aussie.zone tombruzzo@aussie.zone
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Heading to The Corner to see Allegaeon tonight. I've wanted to see these guys since 2019 when I got into them. I really liked that album and the one from last year.

I also saw Rivers Of Nihil are coming and playing with Psycroptic. Their album The Work is one of my top favourites, I liked their album from last year too.

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LowExperience2368 aussie.zone LowExperience2368@aussie.zone
Joined: 2023-06-17
#45 · Quote Reply

Women are great 👍 Edit: especially the boobs part
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Seagoon_ aussie.zone Seagoon_@aussie.zone
Joined: 2023-06-21
#46 · Quote Reply

I don't believe you; everyone wants Arnie from the first Terminator film 🤷‍♀️😂

no

I have zero desire for bad people

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Seagoon_ aussie.zone Seagoon_@aussie.zone
Joined: 2023-06-21
#47 · Quote Reply

There comes a point in maths and physics that there is no more ‘why’. The answer is ‘it just is’. Based on our current knowledge, some things are just fundamental rules of the universe, there is no why. We accept the rule and use it in calculations and theories.

I know, I was taught that. Physics is what, not why, it was like that when I went to uni

it just bothers me, it's always bothered me

one reason for physics is what I heard discussed was that humans are just not intelligent enough to understand or figure out

and that is quite possible

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useless_modern_god aussie.zone useless_modern_god@aussie.zone
Joined: 2023-06-23
#48 · (edited) Quote Reply

Making peach cobbler 🙂

🍑🍑🍑

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SpinMeRound aussie.zone SpinMeAround@aussie.zone
Joined: 2023-06-13
#49 · Quote Reply

Xenia Onatopp (Famke Janssen) According to wiki villains: "she derives sexual pleasure from both inflicting horrible pain as well as receiving it, with her favorite method of murder being to squeeze her victims to death with her thighs" Sounds like a good time.

Death by zug zug!

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SpinMeRound aussie.zone SpinMeAround@aussie.zone
Joined: 2023-06-13
#50 · Quote Reply

Lilith strikes me as the kinda gal you just can't say no to 😂 Agree on Barty, and in a similar vein David Tennant in Jessica Jones 🥵

Agreed. He was so so evil in that show, but also wore that damn suit.

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StudSpud The Starchy aussie.zone StudChud@aussie.zone
Joined: 2023-06-13
#51 · Quote Reply

no I have zero desire for bad people

Girl let yourself fantasise about being taken by a bad baddie 💅✨🥵

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