Educate yourself, and question everything. No one is worth following blindly. If you don't understand the "why" of something, keep digging until you do. Critically thinking is the most valuable skill you can have, so develop it as much as you can.

The first point is not just true for the guilty, but also their victims. Once burned, twice shy.

I think Absurdism

But don't let people tell you you can't learn or do something because you didn't start young! Adult learning is different, but you'll have lots of advantages you didn't have as a kid. Keep learning and doing new stuff!

I absolutely agree that many people should not have kids, and nobody should feel pressured to do so, and everybody should think twice before they do if it really is what they want and they are ready for that.

But as "general advice"? Sorry, but this is ridiculous.

Saying this as a fucking exhausted parent of a baby. It is hard, but absolutely no regrets here.

Of course if you value your own free time and activities above everything else, then yes, definitely please do not have kids. There will be no time for anything but baby care and the bare minimum household maintenance for a long time.

When I was born, there were 4 billion people in the world.

There are now over 8 billion.

That means in just my lifetime, there are twice as many humans on Earth.

I 100% feel the planet is over populated, and that it is a major factor in issues we face today.

I absolutely think people should be encouraged not to have children.

Well, I'm afraid that's where we diverge in beliefs then. With a god it is perfectly reasonable to believe that, but without one it's not.

There's usually more than 1 way to do something.

Sometimes people get caught up on wanting to do it the best way, and then they just dont do it at all.

If there's an easier, less ideal, maybe slightly more wasteful way to do something, and its the difference between doing it or not, just do it that way and dont get hung up on perfection if the alternative is not getting it done.

If its something that needs to be built into a habit, it might be enough to get you started, and then maybe you can move on to the better way in the future.

Edit: just to clarify, often times the outcome is the same but people get caught up on the how vs just getting it done. Don't get caught up on the best how if there's another way that'll also work that you will find easier to do.

There is plenty of space and resources to go around. The problem is the 1% dumping all waste in the ocean so they can buy more boats.

Dont do any drugs harder then psychedelics. But especially dont do opiates and benzos. I would rate opiates, besides, and alcohol as the worst drugs to use.

Yes I am an alcoholic, but I avoided the other two. Honestly wish i had access to clean cocaine because id probably prefer that over drinking. Saving opiates for my elder years because im sure I will be hurting alot by then and will need them.

However, its your body. You choose. Heck the rules. Isn't it obvious the rules never mattered? Some think it is a recent phenomenon, but we are only being publicly informed. it has always been true. Oh the slaves are free? Guess they are prisoners now (slaves).

In regard to the second paragraph, I am very much a metaphoric horse who will not even be led to water, let alone drink. This has, unsurprisingly led to a great many humbling moments in my life. In regards to those who "know themselves", those who are most sure are those least humbled. Even if misfortune never visits you, always question yourself, your actions, and your intentions. You will find insights by doing this as a mindful part of your life.

Civilization and cooperation are intrinsic. The rules of human cooperation dictate rules of behaving. You do not require a god to establish murder and hording of resources and sexual violence as bad. They are defined as malum in sae for reason, in law.

Community sets the rules, adjudication, and punishment regardless of the inspiration of the rule. A god can provide a framework but people can do it too.

As someone raised by a very ignorant silent generation grandfather, there is a middleish ground. Listen to the stories. The lesson you may take may not be the intended but can be instructive. What is important to remember is their world no longer exists so take the advice with a grain of salt. While I am just as mad as anyone else with the mess we have been left, close personal older family and friends can still provide useful advice. Just... Weigh it out with your lived experience. Use what serves you.
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Does anyone have advice specific to adhd or neurodivergence in general? Things you found helped you that took time to realise?

Opiate addict I talked to said your body was never meant to feel that good. That stuff wrecked my brother (a different addict).

Don't buy your wife a wide vase. Just get her a normal sized one. Otherwise you'll have to buy twice as many flowers for the rest of your marriage.

It seems obvious now, but it took me too long to realize I don't have issues focusing on things, I just have a hard time focusing on things I'm not interested in. I was a terrible student in grade school and took some time off after I graduated before going to university. That time away allowed me to mature and gain the discipline I needed to get through the stuff I wasn't interested in. I then breezed through my major because I loved it.

Don't spend as much energy on trying to improve the things that you're bad at. Figure out your strengths and lean into them.

If you have ADHD, get medicated. While it's no replacement for good habits, it makes starting those good habits SO much easier. I wish I had started taking it 15 years sooner.

If you also have ASD, a lot of people aren't going to understand you. The way you view the world is different. Be kind and be true to yourself and you'll meet lots of people who appreciate your difference.

Spending time being doing nothing actually helps your focus later, boredom is good for you and actually promotes creativity.

Don't multitask, you'll just end up half-assing every task.

If you have the means, see a psychologist who specializes working with people who are neurodivergent. It will greatly improve your communication skills. If you're in a serious relationship, get couples counseling even if things are going great. This will help you break down any communication barriers before they have the opportunity to become resentment.

I could keep adding to this list, but having an exercise routine is probably one of the best things I did to improve my focus. Plus I also get the long term health benefits of strength training.

My advice would be not to listen to advice people on the internet give you.

Don't let your curiosity fade

Maintain open minded compassion for those different from you

Never be fully convinced you understand the best way to do anything

In disputes between the affected and the unaffected give added weight to the most affected

Learn to recognize a moral panic, and even if you have concerns related to it don't join in. It's the group dynamic equivalent of spiraling and catastrophizing.

Don't drink your calories unless you want to gain weight

Just don't microdose while lifting

Also trip a few times if your genetics agree with it. If they don't, see if you can enter trances while meditating (it's a special type of meditation). It's good for you to feel one with humanity sometimes

Exercise and eating right actually do help. It's just really hard to do without meds for me

Don't get too attached to anything.

Which would include your advice you're posting right now so then that means that they should listen to the advice people on the internet give you ?

These are good.

Be honest with yourself about your social battery. If a friend wants to watch a movie I try and tell them if I'm Down to hang and watch a movie so long as it's okay that I don't give it my undivided attention (aka are we gonna watch a slapstick comedy where I can check my phone or draw while watching or are we putting on Schindler's list).

Being honest with my friends and partner as to where my focusing levels are at has saved a lot of conflict and has made people feel more respected (from what they've told me!)

Exactly! 😂

Also, if everyone would get at most 2 children, humanity will shrink on average. Don't see why somebody should not have kids just because somebody else had "too many".

Richer people in general have less kids. Fixing world hunger would go a long way. But somehow with an abundance of food the elites decided that starving Congo is better for that 0.01% extra profit.

From what I've read fixing world hunger would not be that expensive, in the grand scheme of things. Too bad that the poor just don't have a lobby.

I believe world hunger perfectly encapsulates all problems humanity face.

We have the means to solve it already but we simply don't.

Yeah, getting people to think for themselves is a paradox.