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Married people, do you have a wedding ring? Do you always wear it?
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Blaze piefed.zip Blaze@piefed.zip
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dandelion lemmy.blahaj.zone dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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#2 · (edited) Quote Reply

Yes, and no - I only wear it when I leave my house (but I don't wear it around the house).

I remember my parents wearing their wedding rings all the time, though 🤔

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ramius345 sh.itjust.works ramius345@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2023-07-05
#3 · (edited) Quote Reply

Yes and yes. I dislike jewelry, but I never take my ring off.

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Che Banana beehaw.org The_Che_Banana@beehaw.org
Joined: 2024-03-01
#4 · Quote Reply

Got it a year after we were married still wear it.

She had a ring I gave her for the holidays until my mother gave her my grandmother's ring, from her marriage in 1928.

29 years.

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Assassassin lemmy.dbzer0.com Assassassin@lemmy.dbzer0.com
Joined: 2025-09-26
#5 · Quote Reply

Yup

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CMDR_Horn lemmy.world CMDR_Horn@lemmy.world
Joined: 2024-04-17
#6 · Quote Reply

Yes, basically yes.

Sometimes I'll take it off if I'm doing something that could damage it or if there is risk of it catching on machinery leading to amputation

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anon947262949 lemmy.world anon947262949@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-09
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Yes I have a cheapie tungsten carbide ring from a well-known online retailer. I’ve had to replace it once after several years of minor nicks and scratches. I get lots of compliments on it! I only take it off when I have to wear gloves for work.

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ℕ𝕖𝕞𝕠 slrpnk.net Nemo@slrpnk.net
Joined: 2023-07-01
#8 · Quote Reply

Yes; and no: I take it off to type, play videogames, wash dishes, swim, or shower. And since I spend the majority of my time at home washing dishes and playing videogames, I often just put it back on as I leave the house in the morning.

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matelt feddit.uk matelt@feddit.uk
Joined: 2025-03-09
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Yes because I can't trust myself with(out) it. There was this one time I removed it to put hand cream and I popped the ring on a bottle of nail polish next to me. I immediately forgot what I did and spent a good couple of hours on the verge of tears because I thought I lost the ring. It's very dear to me, it belonged to my husband's grandma who got married in 1944 so I can't exactly get a replacement for it.

Husband only removes it when he showers because he's not a scatterbrain.

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SacredHeartAttack lemmy.world SacredHeartAttack@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-06-12
#10 · Quote Reply

Yup. All day, every day.

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Tanis Nikana lemmy.world tanisnikana@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-19
#11 · Quote Reply

Nope. I have an engagement pendant though, and I wear it sometimes.

My wife doesn’t have a ring either, she wouldn’t wear it if she did cause she’s issues about wearing jewelry plus general clumsiness.

And that’s okay! We don’t need rings, we got each other.

That said, I do wear a ring on my left index, it’s got two spinners and with each spin, simulates four fudge dice being thrown.

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TrackinDaKraken lemmy.world DarrinBrunner@lemmy.world
Joined: 2025-02-26
#12 · (edited) Quote Reply

I hate wearing anything on my hands, gloves, rings, watches, etc. Also, I worked with tools a lot. So, I didn't wear mine most of the time, only during special occasions. My wife was the same.

Actually, my wife preferred I didn't wear my ring, because I got hit on more when I had it on. She saw it happen.

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socsa piefed.social socsa@piefed.social
Joined: 2024-08-20
#13 · Quote Reply

I go through streaks of wearing it and not wearing it. If I am honest I really don't like wearing it so I will like take it off to do some painting or general construction and then not put it back in for weeks.

I do like being able to pop beers with it though.

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FancyPantsFIRE lemmy.world FancyPantsFIRE@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-03
#14 · (edited) Quote Reply

I did for the first year or two, but I don’t really like jewelry, never have, so I haven’t worn one in the last decade. My wife wears hers regularly. Hasn’t been an issue.

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TheMinions lemmy.dbzer0.com TheMinions@lemmy.dbzer0.com
Joined: 2024-06-26
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Yes, and I pretty much always wear it.

Unless I’m washing the dishes and giving a massage to my spouse are the only exceptions I can think off the top of my head.

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dumples piefed.social dumples@piefed.social
Joined: 2026-01-02
#16 · Quote Reply

I have a ring and I always wear it unless there is a specific activity I shouldn't. Certain messy or risky tasks I will take it off. I sometimes take it off while chilling in bed but put it back on when I sleep.

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Railcar8095 lemmy.world Railcar8095@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-06-15
#17 · Quote Reply

Marrying soon. My partner wanted a ring, but after seeing the prices changed minds.

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MurrayL lemmy.world MurrayL@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-01
#18 · (edited) Quote Reply

Yes, but I only wear it when I remember to put it on, which is rarely. My wife is similar.

It’s for the best, really - whenever I wear it, there’s a 50% chance I misplace it. The typical scenario is: I go to wash my hands, pop the ring in my back pocket (so I don’t lose it down the sink), and then forget to put it back on. Then the trousers go back in the wardrobe, and three days later I’m turning the house upside down trying to remember where I put the ring.

It’s gone in the washing machine several times. Fished it out of a drain trap once. I lost the damn thing on our honeymoon and had to spend an hour retracing my steps. I can’t be trusted to wear it every day.

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Cardinalis sh.itjust.works Cardinalis@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2023-06-12
#19 · Quote Reply

Yes and yes.

It was important to me when we got the bands that they not be particularly ornate. So they’re plain bands and don’t interfere with the vast majority of activities.

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John lemmy.ml silentjohn@lemmy.ml
Joined: 2025-03-16
#20 · Quote Reply

Married 20 years, I don't wear mine anymore.

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TheOneCurly feddit.online TheOneCurly@feddit.online
Joined: 2024-10-03
#21 · Quote Reply

We each got 2 actually. Nice ones for normal occasions and silicone ones for adventures. I don't wear mine to bed, the skin underneath gets all wrinkly and irritated. I put it on as part of getting dressed. So lazy weekends I hardly wear it at all but most days I do.

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Ioughttamow fedia.io Ioughttamow@fedia.io
Joined: 2024-08-14
#22 · Quote Reply

I have a metal ring of some sort but I almost never wear it. I usually don't wear one at all, though I do put one on when we go out for date nights, usually a silicone one

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foodandart lemmy.zip foodandart@lemmy.zip
Joined: 2025-10-07
#23 · Quote Reply

Married in '91. Wore mine for the first few years, then took it off on a jobsite to wash my hands, left it on the sideboard of the sink and it was taken. No big deal, it was made out of a 10 dollar length of silver. Eh. My husband lost his a few years later, so we decided to not bother to replace them.

The metal isn't what's kept us together for 35 years..

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neidu3 sh.itjust.works neidu3@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2024-11-03
#24 · (edited) Quote Reply

Technically not married (long uninteresting story, not worth getting into), but for simplicity let's pretend that I am.

I have a ring, yes. White gold. And I always wear it, but I do so Frodo-style d/t rings being incompatible with a lot of my work. I started putting it on a chain only when I was going offshore, but I found that I prefer it that way, so now it's there permanently, even if most of my work is done from my couch these days.

Plus that way I don't run the risk of it slipping off and disappearing.

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snooggums piefed.world snooggums@piefed.world
Joined: 2025-07-08
#25 · Quote Reply

I have one, but hate the feeling of wearing it so never wore it after the honeymoon. It is some really durable metal (maybe titanium?) and has been on my keyring for the last two decades so it has always been with me, just not on a finger.

To be honest if we end up getting divorced it will probably stay on the keychain.

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zout fedia.io zout@fedia.io
Joined: 2024-03-16
#26 · Quote Reply

Yes, and I always wear it. I have had jobs in the past where I would take it off during the day because it wasn't advisable and not allowed to wear it. Last time I took it off was a few years ago when I had to go into surgery.

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i_stole_ur_taco lemmy.ca i_stole_ur_taco@lemmy.ca
Joined: 2023-06-13
#27 · Quote Reply

Nope. My wife can’t wear a ring and I don’t like the feeling of them. We both got tattoos instead. No names or human faces or anything blatant like that. Nobody would know what they mean unless we told them.

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Yeller_king reddthat.com Yeller_king@reddthat.com
Joined: 2023-07-01
#28 · Quote Reply

Yes. I take it off when exercising or doing yard work. I had a silicone one to swap to, but I lost it.

I'm also on my third ring in six years because I'm a silly goose.

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Hegar fedia.io Hegar@fedia.io
Joined: 2024-06-26
#29 · (edited) Quote Reply

The other day i was saying i had to go pick up my wife and the tea-shop attendant instantly laughed and asked, "Then where's your wedding ring?"

So i had to think of a polite way to say that the state can fuck right off out of my relationships and take it's bullshit patriarchal ownership rituals with it. That sounded something like, "oh ah we're not actually ... we didn't need to... so we haven't... so i don't have... yeah."

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threelonmusketeers sh.itjust.works threelonmusketeers@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2023-06-10
#30 · Quote Reply

Yes I have a cheapie tungsten carbide ring from a well-known online retailer. I’ve had to replace it once after several years of minor nicks and scratches. I get lots of compliments on it! I only take it off when I have to wear gloves for work.

tungsten carbide

nicks and scratches

How confident are you on that first point?

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magnetosphere fedia.io magnetosphere@fedia.io
Joined: 2023-06-30
#31 · (edited) Quote Reply

I always wear my father’s wedding ring, although I don’t plan on getting married myself. I don’t wear any other jewelry.

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slothrop lemmy.ca slothrop@lemmy.ca
Joined: 2024-07-03
#32 · (edited) Quote Reply

I asked to not have one. As others have said, I was a 'no jewelry' kinda guy, plus throughout various jobs in my working life, for safety reasons many wouldn't allow rings.
About 7 years ago I asked for one (after 35 yrs of marriage) and have worn it pretty much 24/7 since.
Plus, I can open a beer with it!

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twinnie feddit.uk twinnie@feddit.uk
Joined: 2023-07-20
#33 · Quote Reply

Yep but I can take it off when I need to. It hurts sometimes when I have to lift something with round handles that squash my fingers together.

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deadbeef79000 lemmy.nz deadbeef79000@lemmy.nz
Joined: 2023-06-17
#34 · Quote Reply

I did, a plain gold band. It fell off in the surf at a beach, gone forever.

Replaced it with a silver band, but my fingers are slightly fatter now and it doesn't fit.

Never worried about it. It's just a "thing".

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deadbeef79000 lemmy.nz deadbeef79000@lemmy.nz
Joined: 2023-06-17
#35 · Quote Reply

The other day i was saying i had to go pick up my wife and the tea-shop attendant instantly laughed and asked, "Then where's your wedding ring?" So i had to think of a polite way to say that the state can fuck right off out of my relationships and take it's bullshit patriarchal ownership rituals with it. That sounded something like, "oh ah we're not actually ... we didn't need to... so we haven...

take it’s bullshit patriarchal ownership rituals with it

Righteous.

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dandelion lemmy.blahaj.zone dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2024-03-02
#36 · (edited) Quote Reply

Married in '91. Wore mine for the first few years, then took it off on a jobsite to wash my hands, left it on the sideboard of the sink and it was taken. No big deal, it was made out of a 10 dollar length of silver. Eh. My husband lost his a few years later, so we decided to not bother to replace them. The metal isn't what's kept us together for 35 years..

as a woman (and maybe this is more of a thing in the Southern US), I find it's important to wear a ring to signal to men that I'm not available (not that this is like foolproof, there are men who will still transgress those boundaries, but ... it feels like a kind of social shield for sure)

and it is also important to wear both the engagement and the wedding ring together - conservative culture is weirdly catty about that

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shadshack feddit.online shadshack@feddit.online
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#37 · Quote Reply

Yup. All day, every day.

Same. Only take mine off if I'm washing my hands and need to dry under it.

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corsicanguppy lemmy.ca corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca
Joined: 2023-06-12
#38 · Quote Reply

Marrying soon. My partner wanted a ring, but after seeing the prices changed minds.

We got a very inexpensive ring.

There's a trend where the cheaper the wedding, the better odds for the relationship. I think this includes the cost of jewelry.

I have a simple band, not gold. She has a silver ring that she replaces every few years.

I remove the oura ring when I'm working but not the wedding band, unless I'm frustrated at a bit of code and ev-er-y-thing bugs me.

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brian lemmy.ca brian@lemmy.ca
Joined: 2024-04-11
#39 · Quote Reply

Nope. I have an engagement pendant though, and I wear it sometimes. My wife doesn’t have a ring either, she wouldn’t wear it if she did cause she’s issues about wearing jewelry plus general clumsiness. And that’s okay! We don’t need rings, we got each other. That said, I do wear a ring on my left index, it’s got two spinners and with each spin, simulates four fudge dice being thrown.

that spinner ring interests me immensely. unfortunately, I do not have any reason to have one

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Boomer Humor Doomergod lemmy.world Semi_Hemi_Demigod@lemmy.world
Joined: 2024-03-15
#40 · Quote Reply

I don’t like jewelry so my wife and I got matching tattoos on our ring fingers. It’s our first initials in Morse code with a heart between them.

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sauerkrautsaul lemmus.org sauerkrautsaul@lemmus.org
Joined: 2025-09-27
#41 · Quote Reply

yep. I got absolutely wasted once and couldnt find it the next day. I could have vomited. it was in a little waste basket (I sometimes lie on my back and toss and catch it in the air) and I must have missed and it went somewhere then I went to bed hammered. pulled the house apart. I was very distraught. the little garbage bag was the literal last place I had to look. I had all but given up hope, then emptied the contents onto a cardboard box lid and after I had picked the bits out one by one there it was. feel nervous thinking about it. its solid platinum (wanted to buy one very nice thing for myself for once in my life)

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WhiteOakBayou lemmy.world WhiteOakBayou@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-06-12
#42 · Quote Reply

Nope. My wife can’t wear a ring and I don’t like the feeling of them. We both got tattoos instead. No names or human faces or anything blatant like that. Nobody would know what they mean unless we told them.

Human faces never occurred to me as a wedding ring replacement but now I'm picturing a portrait of Dorian Gray style tattoo on y'all's fourth fingers that slowly ages and deforms (like all high friction area tattoos) and keeps y'all young.

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WhiteOakBayou lemmy.world WhiteOakBayou@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-06-12
#43 · Quote Reply

Yes and yes. Never take it off unless I'm doing something real gross. Flat band and the edges are kind of rounded so it doesn't catch much. It's sized so it doesn't fall off in gloves or when I wash my hands. I did have to start wearing work gloves after catching it on something and I thought it broke my finger but we really all should be wearing work gloves more often.

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EchoCranium lemmy.zip EchoCranium@lemmy.zip
Joined: 2023-06-15
#44 · Quote Reply

We picked out rings for our wedding, and wore them for the most part for the first couple years. We both worked at jobs where we couldn't wear them, and I work with my hands a lot at home so mine would come off there too. I haven't bothered putting it back on in years; my wife started wearing the silicone bands which are cheap and comfortable for her. Ring or not, married all the same after 20 years.

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saimen feddit.org saimen@feddit.org
Joined: 2025-03-09
#45 · Quote Reply

Yes and yes. Sometimes I take it off for swimming in a public pool because of being afraid of losing it.

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answersplease77 lemmy.world answersplease77@lemmy.world
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#46 · Quote Reply

no it hurts when I jerk off

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saimen feddit.org saimen@feddit.org
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#47 · Quote Reply

as a woman (and maybe this is more of a thing in the Southern US), I find it's important to wear a ring to signal to men that I'm not available (not that this is like foolproof, there are men who will still transgress those boundaries, but ... it feels like a kind of social shield for sure) and it is also important to wear both the engagement and the wedding ring together - conservative culture...

The fact that I know you mean the South of the United States of America exactly because you did not say the country annoys me so much. Sorry for the off topic rant.

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Log in | Sign up lemmy.world davidagain@lemmy.world
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#48 · Quote Reply

no it hurts when I jerk off

I'm right-handed, so this isn't a problem for me.

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shane feddit.nl shane@feddit.nl
Joined: 2025-07-21
#49 · Quote Reply

My wife made our wedding rings (she's an amateur silversmith). I keep mine on a bandolier on my backpack so I always have it with me, but I rarely wear it. My wife lost hers, somewhere in our home.

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buttmasterflex piefed.social buttmasterflex@piefed.social
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#50 · Quote Reply

Yes and yes. We got custom made, one of a kind rings made by a local family-run jeweler. The rings have a wood grain pattern in them, with my wife's ring shaped like a branch holding a green sapphire. Pretty freaking cool. I only ever take it off if I'm on a job site that bans jewelry for safety reasons.

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anon6789 lemmy.world anon6789@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-02
#51 · Quote Reply

Recently married, I try to wear it as often as possible, but realistically it's about 2/3 the time.

Was married before and had a cheap $20 tungsten one from Amazon. It's supposed to not irritate skin, but it flared up my mild eczema, so I wasn't really wanting anything this time around.

I didn't want anything this time around, but she wanted to get me something since I got her a nice ring set.

Her rings are platinum with blue/green sapphires as the main stones, with some tiny diamonds mostly from her grandmother's wedding ring. I liked the blueish sapphires, but platinum was way too expensive since I wasn't sure I could wear it.

I went with titanium this time, as the color seemed closer to platinum and was much cheaper and supposedly better for skin conditions with 3 small inlaid bluish sapphires, coincidentally similar to her father's ring. She lost both her parents recently before our wedding, so having so many family connections with the rings meant a lot to her.

I think it looks pretty sharp, which is good because this was more than $20 though not outrageous, it was tapping the upper end of what I'd have wanted her to spend on it. So far no skin irritation.

I wear it out and at my regular job. At home is 50/50 since I don't wear it doing a lot of cleaning chores since I don't want to trap chemicals or moisture under it and I usually have it off cooking since I wash things as I go. Sometimes I forget to put it on after that, but we have ring keepers in the kitchen, bathroom, and bedroom, so there's always a set place to stash it where we take them off.

I also won't be wearing it at the animal clinic. Don't need to both them with shiny objects or have someone's toes get caught in it, plus there's some tough disinfectants and of course random poo and other things I don't want in the books and crannies.

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