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Married people, do you have a wedding ring? Do you always wear it?
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tetrachromacy lemmy.world tetrachromacy@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-01
#52 · Quote Reply

We picked out rings for our wedding, and wore them for the most part for the first couple years. We both worked at jobs where we couldn't wear them, and I work with my hands a lot at home so mine would come off there too. I haven't bothered putting it back on in years; my wife started wearing the silicone bands which are cheap and comfortable for her. Ring or not, married all the same after 20 years.

My partner and I wear silicon rings. We started out with regular rings, but we both ended up having sensory issues - mine was a giant heavy tungsten ring and theirs had too many sharp edges. I lost my massive ring and bought a silicon ring to wear while I looked for it. Never did find it but I loved the feel of silicon so much I bought my partner a set to wear too. We've been wearing them ever since, probably 10 years now. Highly recommend.

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Pronell lemmy.world Pronell@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-02
#53 · (edited) Quote Reply

I take it off at night (Have a thing on my dresser) and when kneading bread. (Have a consistent place near my breadmaking station)

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Snailpick42 lemmus.org Snailpick42@lemmus.org
Joined: 2026-01-30
#54 · Quote Reply

Marrying soon. My partner wanted a ring, but after seeing the prices changed minds.

I got a cheap $10 stainless steel ring off amazon. Later upgraded to a $50 dollar ring when in Peru on vacation. Screw spending a fortune on jewelry. No average person cares about it anyway. Value the meaning, not cost.

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Someonelol lemmy.dbzer0.com Someonelol@lemmy.dbzer0.com
Joined: 2023-06-16
#55 · Quote Reply

No. I occasionally have to lift heavy objects and if there's one kind of injury I really want to prevent it's degloving. Do not look it up if you're squeamish.

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unknownuserunknownlocation kbin.earth unknownuserunknownlocation@kbin.earth
Joined: 2025-08-01
#56 · Quote Reply

Single af myself, but my parents are still married and always have their wedding rings on. I'm not even sure I've ever seen them without them. Not even sure if they could even remove them anymore.

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Great Blue Heron lemmy.ca GreatBlueHeron@lemmy.ca
Joined: 2023-07-04
#57 · Quote Reply

Same. Only take mine off if I'm washing my hands and need to dry under it.

Mine doesn't even come off for that. You'd think it would get nasty under there not being dried properly, but it's been about (two wives with a gap between - can't be bothered working out the exact time) 35 years and zero problems.

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idunnololz lemmy.world idunnololz@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-06-13
#58 · Quote Reply

My SO wears his but I don't wear mine.

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dandelion lemmy.blahaj.zone dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Joined: 2024-03-02
#59 · Quote Reply

The fact that I know you mean the South of the United States of America exactly because you did not say the country annoys me so much. Sorry for the off topic rant.

ah good point, I edited it to add the country. It's true there is a US-centrism both in the mindsets of Americans, but also online in general (at least in English speaking spaces), so it does become a kind of "default place" that way

yay imperialism 🫠

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Buffalobuffalo lemmy.dbzer0.com Buffalobuffalo@lemmy.dbzer0.com
Joined: 2023-08-22
#60 · Quote Reply

I got a cheap $10 stainless steel ring off amazon. Later upgraded to a $50 dollar ring when in Peru on vacation. Screw spending a fortune on jewelry. No average person cares about it anyway. Value the meaning, not cost.

Yep, got mine off amazon too. Actually got a spare just in case. On for ten years shortly.

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SuiXi3D fedia.io SuiXi3D@fedia.io
Joined: 2024-03-04
#61 · Quote Reply

We both do, yeah.

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JakenVeina midwest.social JakenVeina@midwest.social
Joined: 2025-06-12
#62 · Quote Reply

Yep.

Pretty much, yep.

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scintilla crust.piefed.social scintilla@crust.piefed.social
Joined: 2026-01-27
#63 · Quote Reply

I can't stand metal ones but I wear my silicone one close to 24/7 just taking it off it give it a thouruogh clean in the shower.

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TacoJohn44 lemmy.world TacoJohn44@lemmy.world
Joined: 2025-12-25
#64 · Quote Reply

The other day i was saying i had to go pick up my wife and the tea-shop attendant instantly laughed and asked, "Then where's your wedding ring?" So i had to think of a polite way to say that the state can fuck right off out of my relationships and take it's bullshit patriarchal ownership rituals with it. That sounded something like, "oh ah we're not actually ... we didn't need to... so we haven...

... Did I miss out on some state sponsored wedding ring!?

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Bubbaonthebeach lemmy.ca Bubbaonthebeach@lemmy.ca
Joined: 2025-02-15
#65 · Quote Reply

Wore mine for about the first 10 years. Always catching it on something and needing expensive repairs. I'm not a jewellery person otherwise so eventually I quit wearing it except special occasions. It's been another 25 years and no one asks. If I meet someone new the first things they learn about me are my husband and kids - no ring needed. I got hit on more when I wore my wedding ring than I do now but that may simply be an age thing. My husband continued to wear his but in the last few years has worn it less, mainly because he has new hobbies where it could be a danger and then he forgets to put it back on. He wears a family ring and an engineers ring as well so he is more accustomed to wearing rings. Only one who bugs me about it is my SIL. She's angling for another ring and my BIL points out that I don't wear one, let alone have 3 different sets.

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kryptonianCodeMonkey lemmy.world kryptonianCodeMonkey@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-13
#66 · (edited) Quote Reply

Yes I have one, no I don't wear it all the time, nor does my wife wear hers all the time. I go for stretches sometimes where I wear it a lot, but it is slightly oversized, which makes it slightly uncomfortable after a while, and I'm scared it will slip off (i lost my first band, this is my replacement). It's almost always in my pocket though. My wife mostly only wears hers for special occasions. Neither of us are jewelery people in general.

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DireTech sh.itjust.works DireTech@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2024-10-10
#67 · Quote Reply

Neither of us do. We stopped after the first year or so since neither of us like rings.

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tigeruppercut lemmy.zip tigeruppercut@lemmy.zip
Joined: 2023-08-20
#68 · Quote Reply

I'm right-handed, so this isn't a problem for me.

You don't make use of "the stranger"?

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foodandart lemmy.zip foodandart@lemmy.zip
Joined: 2025-10-07
#69 · (edited) Quote Reply

as a woman (and maybe this is more of a thing in the Southern US), I find it's important to wear a ring to signal to men that I'm not available (not that this is like foolproof, there are men who will still transgress those boundaries, but ... it feels like a kind of social shield for sure) and it is also important to wear both the engagement and the wedding ring together - conservative culture...

Yeah, I'm not the kind of woman that men would hit up on (too butch..) and now of course I'm old and weathered and other than the really old guys that appreciate someone that can tune up their own car (I have had men decades older than I am, come up to me and shake my hand when working on the car in the driveway.. go figure!) no one looks twice at me. What I wear also doesn't help. LOL!

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qevlarr lemmy.world qevlarr@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-06-18
#70 · Quote Reply

Neither of us do. We stopped after the first year or so since neither of us like rings.

Same here. It was just annoying

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CandleTiger programming.dev CandleTiger@programming.dev
Joined: 2023-06-09
#71 · Quote Reply

Yes, and yes.

At this point my wedding ring feels like a part of me. When I take it off and especially if I hand it to someday else that feels weird and alarming.

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SeductiveTortoise piefed.social SeductiveTortoise@piefed.social
Joined: 2025-07-16
#72 · (edited) Quote Reply

My skin is an asshole and the ring didn't help. After some days it started itching and peeling and I just wore it on special occasions afterwards.

We're divorced now, but I kept it out in the open, because it reminds me of the good times we had together. And we had a lot (and we're still friends).

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Deyis beehaw.org Deyis@beehaw.org
Joined: 2025-08-22
#73 · Quote Reply

We have rings but we don't wear them all the time; I can't stand wearing it whilst in the shower or going to the gym.

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BradleyUffner lemmy.world BradleyUffner@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-06-11
#74 · Quote Reply

My wife and I made our own wedding rings from wood. We don't wear them since they are fairly fragile.

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πŸ”πŸ¦˜πŸ›Ž lemmy.world Zoomboingding@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-01
#75 · Quote Reply

My wife and I made our own wedding rings from wood. We don't wear them since they are fairly fragile.

Yeah, my wedding ring is a really nice black-stained wood with a malachite band, but I noticed it was getting scratched from daily wear, so I wear a silicone workout ring day to day. I bust out the real one for special occasions.

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clif lemmy.world clif@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-06-11
#76 · Quote Reply

Have one (two), never wear it.

I found out the hard way that I was allergic to something in my first one. It was tungsten carbide and I think that's sometimes bound with cobalt or nickel which some people are allergic to. Luckily, I got it off before my finger swelled too much... reminder that super strong metals are not a good idea for rings. I was young, dumb, and thought "tungsten carbide = cool" without thinking all the way through it.

After that, I made a replacement but I'm a code monkey with very thin fingers and it was constantly annoying me by moving around so I took it off and never put it back on. If silicone rings had been readily available back then I might've switched to one of those and stuck with it since they don't move.

The spouse wears their band all the time and has never expressed annoyance about me not wearing mine... it's been about 25 years.

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ChexMax lemmy.world ChexMax@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-06-24
#77 · Quote Reply

Yes! I have my real ring that I took off when I got pregnant and my fingers got fat, once the baby was 6mo I put it back on. My husband had to take his off for work a lot since the metal is a conductor, so i got him a silicone one. I liked his so much i got myself one and wear that full time. It's better for playing with the child.

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Fierro piefed.social Fierro@piefed.social
Joined: 2026-01-24
#78 · Quote Reply

I have it, I wear it all the time, I don't like it, but I also don't dislike it enough to care

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Vex_Detrause lemmy.ca Vex_Detrause@lemmy.ca
Joined: 2023-02-28
#79 · Quote Reply

I do have a wedding ring with some inscription inside. Now my sausage hands grew so my wife bought me a cheap Amazon ring to fit. It's for her peace of mind.

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VinegarChunks lemmus.org VinegarChunks@lemmus.org
Joined: 2026-02-20
#80 · Quote Reply

Yes and I always wear it all the time except when I make pizza

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eletes sh.itjust.works eletes@sh.itjust.works
Joined: 2023-06-12
#81 · Quote Reply

Yeah I got a platinum ring that felt pricey but it was easily stretched half a size at a jeweler for free and it should be easy to cut if I ever get in a stuck situation. It did irritate my skin at first when water got trapped in there but I take it off for showers/washing dishes now.

On a serious note, I do like it and I love that it gets worn and has scratches. I could polish it up but looking forward to being old and seeing physical wear marks of having a long marriage.

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dmention7 midwest.social dmention7@midwest.social
Joined: 2025-06-25
#82 · Quote Reply

Yes and I always wear it all the time except when I make pizza

except when I make pizza

Man, I thought I was up on the current slang, but this one is new to me!

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captainlezbian lemmy.world captainlezbian@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-06-29
#83 · Quote Reply

I bought a bunch of silicone rings because I'm a cheap bitch who eloped and works in factories. At some point I will probably buy a fancier ring, but I've got basically no sense of style for jewelry. And no I wear it to work and generally when I'm out, but not really when I'm at home. I also have a piercing that symbolizes my relationship with my wife and I only remove that when medically necessary

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RamenJunkie midwest.social RamenJunkie@midwest.social
Joined: 2025-01-24
#84 · (edited) Quote Reply

Yes, I wear it except when handling raw meat or in the shower.

Its not an expensive ring. I think it was like $20. It is the second ring because the first one wore out and broke.

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anon947262949 lemmy.world anon947262949@lemmy.world
Joined: 2023-07-09
#85 · (edited) Quote Reply

tungsten carbide nicks and scratches How confident are you on that first point?

It’s the superficial coloring layers that get scratched or faded over the course of years. Hence the need for a new one. So yes I’m confident the ring is tungsten carbide.

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altphoto lemmy.today altphoto@lemmy.today
Joined: 2025-04-14
#86 · Quote Reply

I used to. But it gets in the way. I work on things that can have angry electrons. 12v 50A. 48V 100A and sometimes 500v to 5000v. I like my finger more than any pretentious or misguided thinking about a piece of metal meaning anything. I keep mine somewhere in clean part of a shelve at home I use it for when we go out together. I wouldn't want someone there think I'm up for grabs or something.

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Log in | Sign up lemmy.world davidagain@lemmy.world
Joined: 2024-01-22
#87 · Quote Reply

You don't make use of "the stranger"?

I guess he wears a wedding ring, but he doesn't turn up all that often, and the wedding ring hasn't caused me any issues.

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