Women: Men don't know how to share their feelings.

Men: share feelings indirectly through content because it allows them to place some distance between themselves and their fear of criticism for having insecurities

Women: Gawd, I don't care!

the masculine urge to bite myself as hard as i can while a woman watches

fear of criticism for having insecurities

Found your problem. If your boys won't accept you when you're having a hard time, you might just have shit friends. We all struggle with different things, there's no shame in being honest about that. A good friend will get that and have your back anyway, even when you need to vent or whatever.

You might get teased a little or something, but you shouldn't really be afraid of that either if you know your friend actually does give half a shit about you.

Funny how you went right past the woman in the scenario...

No point. We can control ourselves, but we cannot control other people. If a girl wants you to talk to her instead of show her videos, then whatever, she can want that. If you don't want to change yourself for her, then just find a different girl.

The number of cleaning, and celebrity snark videos I've been shown proves this is not a gendered issue...

Because the meme was literally about the dude.

And at the same time either aggressively or passive aggressively making it clear to him that she is disinterested in the video, which is reinforcing the man's understanding that she is also disinterested in whatever it was that he found interest in. (That's literally the whole subtext of the meme.)

Just saying that men share their concerns and feelings differently than women. Men very often share concerns and feelings indirectly. If a guy is repeatedly sharing YouTube videos with the woman that the woman doesn't find funny or interesting, there is probably a reason the man is sharing them. An active listening woman might ask the man something like "How do you feel about this video?"

Yup, for me it's the crochet and flower arranging videos. Every once in a while I get a cat meme which is nice.

And you can then have a conversation, with a person you like. I don't know how to crochet but I know the difference between a single and a double and I can read the recipe.

I'm just trying to explain the "urge" described in the meme. That's all.

I don't deny that male friends can be toxic. What can be worse still is that the man does share these videos with his friends, and the videos themselves are toxic and reinforce toxic behaviors and thoughts, and the friends share affirmations with the man about the video. That happens a lot too.

That man is probably repeatedly sharing videos with the woman because he's hoping that she returns the same affirmations that his friends do.

your gender doesnt bother me one bit.

we gonna watch that 3 hour youtube essay about every goomba glitch in SM64 no matter what.

That video was fire

a women

What does gender have to do with it?

I made my girlfriend watch an almost one hour long video about dishwashers (I think it was by the channel "Technological Connections")

Anyway she was amazed and did not regret it!

link?

Next thing you’re gonna try to tell me is they want to show us stuff because they care about us too???

I think it's a little more complicated. I can empathize with the reluctance to share, I was raised that way too. He's right that we can sometimes share even innocuous things we like because that's easier and feels safer than trying to compose our own thoughts into words. I'm guessing you've probably done it with music before, songs are really good at communicating things like that sometimes, it can even just be more efficient.

I grew out of it eventually though. I wanted the choice, the power to either share a piece of media to represent me or just open myself up and present my own case based in my own feelings and with my own logic. Since I can now comfortably do both, I recognize that my old reluctance to open up was an unnecessary burden I was putting on myself, rooted in fears that were ultimately unnecessary and unproductive, that I acquired in my childhood. Much like many other things I acquired in my childhood, it just wasn't what I wanted anymore. That fear was a crutch, training wheels, and just a hindrance now. Ultimately it had become a weakness, as fear can sometimes be if you listen to it too much.

What’s masculine about it? My wife does this to me all the time.

Every Goomba Glitch in Super Mario 64 by pannenkoek2012
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mcI1kUvVMYM

Not sure if the makers of this meme considered this but the woman in there is an escort/partner robot, she is designed to please him (who is also a, more advance, android himself)

Content of the post aside, this is one of the worst types of guys on the internet. Celebrity avatar posting celebrity pictures. Get a personality, man

I think it’s hot when my wife is into something and is explaining it to me. Even if I don’t share an interest in xyz thing, I find her fascinating, and I like understanding what she likes about a given thing.

I think she feels the same so I don’t second guess showing her something.

Fascinating.

exactly!

I am pretty sure you’re making this up.

What's the word the youth uses?
oh yeah,

Based

You got my hopes up, but it's only 2:24 =/

not true

It’s a good video though.

Pannenkoek has so many sm64 videos covering the most niche topics, you've got plenty of content there if you are hearing of him for the first time

Why is this gendered? This is just a thing annoying people do to other people.

In the old days we did this with Monty Python movies.

He has a personality. He is literally Ryan Gosling.

Comment all your favorite 1h+ videos here. I'll watch them eventually

The number of women in my environment who do this to me is fucking ridiculous.

This place attracts a lot of fundie social justice warriors, unfortunately. Or it's Russian trolls, same difference.

Everyone loves Technology Connections. Also, watching Alec rant about Christmas lights every year is tradition now.

Disregarding the genders, in proper communication it’s the senders responsibility to encode their message in a way that can be decoded by the listener.

Sharing your emotions are not so different, it’s still the senders responsibility to share more directly if their partner is not picking up on it.

I cannot believe I watched another 2 hour video about mario 64 tricks. I think he spent more time making this video than they spent coding it.

It’s really impressive how he does those in-game graphics to illustrate radii and stuff, though.