I first heard it maybe 10 years ago, and it's become a lot more prevalent, once you start to notice it (obviously not all gay guys but a lot do) then you kind of take up the joke too. I've always been told I walk too fast, now I know why.

things people have took me I'm gay for:

reading
cooking
cleaning
being decently dressed (not even well-dressed)
having skin care products
using conditioner on my hair
driving a sedan/compact car
playing nintendo or jrpg games
enjoying classic music/opera/theater/ art & foreign films
owning a cat
drinking cocktails/lattes/milkshakes
riding/racing bicycles
not playing team ballsports

the definition of straight man is very very narrow for some folks, basically drive a giant truck, be unable to take care of yourself, and be into sports and action pop cuture, rock and roll/rap, and only ever do 'basic' things.

if you do anything outside of the box, you're gay. because 'normal straight men' don't do those things, and if they do, they only do it to impress women or something. like I can go to the opera with my girlfriend and hate it, but if i go myself and enjoy it I'm gay.

plenty of left-wing people think it's also gay.

being a homophobe isn't exclusive to the right-wing.

do you look fabulous while you're doing it?

There’s a huge overlap between neurodivergence and being LGBTQ but not all neurodivergence is ADHD

I guess that's fair, but thinking that empathy is weakness (or something bad in general) is a predominantly right-wing idea. In fact, that's one of the main problems. The right has a severe lack of empathy.

According to this I'm Gay... can't wait to tell my wife.

right, tell that to all the progressives in my state who are 'the left' who basically think if you weren't born rich you should fuck off and die. SUCH EMPATHY they have.

but sure, they pretend to love the gays and trans and they love their pride flags on their porches... as long as they don't have to see any non-white gays or trans people...

just like they love BLM, but they systematically freak out and oppose any development of public or low income housing....

she knows.

The people you describe are not progressives...

oh weird, you should let them know that. they seem to be convinced they are very progressive.

These people have never been to a non-car-centric city. My city hasn't even fully recovered from it's car-centric hell past and almost everyone who lives and works here walks or bikes.

Had a bike shop here called bikurious. Great name, they used to get all my business.

I'm gay all summer, baby.

I mean it works since that keeps them from hurting you while you're banging their wife.

You sound like my brother 😂

Funnily enough, people who have such narrow definition of manliness usually refuse to acknowledge gender identity as a concept. It honestly baffles me sometimes.

For me, a big epiphany came through examining my intent while angry and whether the anger was helping or hindering that intent.

There are some cases where it can help, though might still not be the best tactic. It makes you more willing to use more force when doing something physical; but you are capable of that force with more control when not angry. And it can have social effects: intimidation, empathy, increased resistance, and trolling.

Empathy is really the only beneficial one, though it often involves patronization because it reduces you to a child throwing a tantrum, so it's a bit of a pathetic one.

Intimidation doesn't convince people, though they may appease you in the moment or even long term, but each time you do that, you're "cashing in" some of the relationship and possibly putting a target on your back if those you intimidate see any way of eliminating you as a threat.

And obviously increased resistance or trolling are the opposite of what you want to accomplish.

Once you've convinced yourself that anger doesn't help regardless of whether you're right or right to be angry, then it's a matter of reminding yourself about this when you feel anger flaring up instead of trying to justify it. Don't punish yourself about it, it's ok to feel anger even if unhelpful and getting more upset that you got upset is even more counterproductive.

It's not easy. You will probably even fail to control your anger sometimes and let your emotional side dictate that this time it's different or you just don't care this time. Nothing you can really do other than reflect honestly on it later, once the anger has passed.

You can also pause to examine your feelings in the moment of anger. What are you feeling right then? Why? Where do you want things to go from there? How could you get there? Is it really that important? Could you be the wrong one? Could it be a big miscommunication and you're actually arguing about two different things? Why is it so upsetting that someone feels differently from you? Why do you feel like it's your job to correct this?

Though one form of anger we should hold on to is indignant rage at living in a system designed to fuck us from multiple angles all at once.

I wondered whether me walking fast and being ND are related. Not saying all lesbians are autistic but…

It’s a long held belief or stereotype that gay men walk faster than straight men

It is? Is this some commonly known stereotype that I just missed hearing about?

It’s unexpected that exercising with higher cardiovascular output is associated with health benefits?

I guess I'm gay when I'm angry?

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Get_Out (2017, the name of a film related to this!)

That doesn't sound pleasant for the feet.

Your own bags = reusable = eco-sustainability = weak.

I hae neer heard associating reusing bags to gay, but I can see how it may work "logically".

If u walk fast u gay

Can confirm, am bisexual. Regularly stuck behind slow walkers but not fast enough to overtake fast walkers.

That's not true, I've always been told I walk too fast and I'm straight, Ish.

I'm an old man who looks like a Sheppard, I love when other old guys think I'm one of them and say stupid shit.

"Girl, please" as a response kinda breaks them.

Fuck it isn't even exclusive to heterosexuals, I've met some gay men who can't stand "butch" lesbians and lots of queer people who hate bisexuality.

I had a friend back in the day who loved Rupaul, they got so mad when we tried explaining drag to them, refused to believe us. But one day they just stopped talking about how sexy Rupaul was. Some folks just don't have "gaydar" as long as noone gets hurt it's all ok.

Got to commit to being gay instead so you can have the extra speed for the overtakes.

Nah just means you want to kiss your friends.

I know it's anecdotal but I have noticed that LGBTQ people tend to be more accepting of the nerodivergent and that lots of nerodivergent people identify as queer.

I'm thinking we should make a new national group where all of the marginalized people can come together and help each other, not to take away from anyone's identity or drown their needs in a sea of "but what about isms" just one big umbrella with the common goal of equality, I do know who human rights watch is. But I'm thinking just a group that plans parades and volunteers at soup kitchens, just feel good stuff where everyone is welcome. We only need to letters US, and that name isn't chosen because I think it's funny when dickheads scream about "tha gays stole the damn rainbow"

USians really can't stop thinking about (homo) sexuality, episode n+1

Oh good point, we're both that too. Unusual walking gaits aren't uncommon for people on the spectrum.

nope. some of the most heinous shit i've seen comes from queer folks. some of them have supremacy complexes about their flavor or gay or queer or whatever being the only 'real' one.

English or Spanish, walking speed?

Yeah I think this is an AI hallucination. I've heard or seen this. And I've been a very fast walker, I blame mine on ADHD or autism.

Guurl, we have got places to be! Hello?!

The faster walking speed is so that I can be a bottom sooner and for a longer time.

TIL I might be gay, couldn't possibly be adhd or anxiety. Kind of a weird way to find out but alright

But only when angry. Would that make you straight or ace when you're not angry?

the best tl;dr ever

I've never heard about this either. It's probably much more regional or something?

It's been a stereotype for a while. There are a few articles/memes out there about it, at least since the late 2010's:

https://www.gq.com/story/move-im-gay

https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2019/06/stereotype-lgbtq-walk-faster-straights-unexpected-benefit/

Goosestepping at a brisk pace?

If you're over 6' , it could be your stride. If not, or if you hear this from other skyscrapers...

sis, maybe your ish is more swish than you wish🫂

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