Not bad as such, just different from what I could personally do. If it works for some people, good for them.

I am in one (I think... see below). We agreed to open the relationship, IDK, 7 years ago? Something like that. We're both bi/pan, and sexuality- and kinkwise pretty incompatible. Neither of us was remotely willing to give up the relationship because of that though, because romantically and non-sexual-intimacy wise, the relationship is amazing. Oh god I love her so much.

Anyways, we decided to open the relationship with a couple ground rules:

1. Always communicate. That includes informing the other person before one goes on a date, for example.
2. Sex only. We aren't poly, and are both not ok with the idea of romantic connections forming... Romantically monogamous, sexually open, I guess.
3. Protection, duh.

She went on a couple of dates but didn't actually end up sleeping with anyone, I slept with a couple of people. And... things were cool! It worked out for us. If anything, we grew even closer.

The reason I said above that I "think" we're in an open relationship is simply because neither of us has taken advantage of the openness of the relationship in at least 3 years, lmao. And so if I would decide that I'd like to get active again in that regard, that would 100% be preceded with a "hey, are we still open? Are you still comfortable with that, or have your thoughts changed?" conversation.

i thought we were talking about sharing multiple ‘things’

Relationships that start out open have a higher chance of success, but opening a previously closed one almost always ends in disaster. The thing is, neither of you will know how you'll feel until after it's too late. It's not worth the risk, if you care about your relationship.

Sure

Also if this kiss wasn’t consensual, it’s called « rape »

It's not about the location so much as the expectations and praticalities.
An 'open relationship' as a status requires a commitment from both people to maintain commitment to the relationship but allow casual sexual interactions outside of the relationship. That's hard for a lot of, if not the large majority of, people, even when both people are in close proximity. If you take away the commitment element, it's not a romantic relationship, it's just casual or friend sex, which can be fine too, but has different expectations.
A traditional long-distance relationship also requires commitment. Ask anyone who has tried to have an LDR. It requires a HEAVY commitment, and a lot of every day effort to maintain the non-physical intimacy of the relationship over that distance. Are you ready to spend all day writing texts, call each other when you have a few moments at the same time just to hear each other's voices, and spend all evening on the phone talking about the most pointless BS that happened that day just because you love hearing about each other's BS? If you got the chance to go visit, but you were exhausted from working overtime and it would cost everything you got as extra from the overtime and then a bit more, would you drop everything just to go see them for one day?
These commitments, if they are going to withstand the difficulties of life, are usually on the order of 'we will be getting married or entering a solemnified union of some kind but circumstances outside of our control make that impossible for now.'
If either of the people aren't ready to commit to that level of dedication and permanence, the relationship, while possibly previously good, is not likely to be able to withstand the strain of each person's needs and desires being deferred by the practical realities, again and again and again.
You have to ask yourselves, and each other, out loud, whether that level of commitment is there. If it's not, it's far healthier for everyone involved to say 'This isn't something to call a relationship. I won't wait for you, and I don't expect you to wait for me, but I'll be super fucking happy to try again when we're both living in the same place if we're not monogamous with someone else.'

So its good if both want open relationship?

no after that its consensual so its great na?

Good and romantic>

so according to you open relationship is always better than closed?

so can we all 4 together

yes now we comforatbale so its good if we all in one place?

hey can i share thing on here?

so its good according to you?

so its nice?, can i ask one thing in chatbox

so its good we both decide to openness?

I'd say so

Yeah totally

If all 4 consent, yes

coz one thing happened, hey are any other platform also?

Not getting

Hum, if I am on another platform? If so, yes, I'm on Discord and Matrix, you can dm me your name on one or the other and we will be able to discuss there if you prefer

sure

No, I'm one of those people this will never work with because I have 3 disabilities dealing with emotional regulation. I lose control of my reactions to stuff. Best not to play with fire there :)

yes can you tell me you name so i can search on discord

sad what happened to you?

is it ok to kiss and ask partner?

It can technically be made to work, but it will be extremely hard. It's combining two difficult to manage relationship dynamics into one VERY difficult one. Both people wanting an open relationship is only the bare minimum starting point. It takes a LOT more than that to even begin to make it work.

How do you mean?

Kiss someone else, then ask your partner?

Or are you asking how to approach the topic with your partner?