Ah, that's the fisting part of girl's night.

Sometimes people just fuck regardless of what the friend zone rules say.

That's kinda like saying you can pick your own nickname through behavior. Like, yeah, you're probably never gonna get called big tuna if you never touch the stuff at the office, but not really

Wait, does that mean bigoted lesbians are dishonourable plumbers?

Did you know that sometimes girls have sex with each other too?

Sounds like Anon doesn't appreciate the fact that he's part of an inclusive friend group.

I never said you couldn't do that. I just made a comment about who it was.

When I was in middle school we had a pull-up test in gym. First all the boys did theirs, then they had to leave and the girls did theirs. Nobody minded me staying because I couldn't do one just like most of the girls.

Vocabulary, mostly.

Do you have any idea how much hot coffee shooting through a nose hurts?

I hold you responsible, degen.

Where I live is pretty much the opposite unfortunately.

Most girls here love criminals because they're supposedly cooler and "more manly" and they have lots of (badly earned) money, and are also constantly red-eyed because of drugs.

I'd love to live where you live 😫

I don't make the claim but the math maths

That's exactly how someone would get called Big Tuna. It's like a huge guy named Tony Tiny

That usage (as a noun) tends to set off a good twenty minutes of goblin mode at lesbian game night.

I just made this to prep for the next one

I don't think I've ever heard of an ironic nickname applied to something that someone is totally neutral about. Maybe if they make a big deal about hating tuna? But that wasn't what I described

But femboys aren't girls. That's literally their entire thing.

I kind of giggled at this, not trying to put you down. I did like around 20-30 and I was like maybe I should stop. -_- I had a military style workout routine every day, not by choice. I don't like to brag but just vent out the daily torture routine. I think it's funny that the One Punch Man workout routine is, heh, like nothing.

I had a scenario like this when I was couch surfing while going to college. So there I am in a attic room surrounded by 5? girls and I thought to myself wtf am I doing here. I just came here to do my laundry, my friends girlfriend said it was okay and I could take showers there as well. In hindsight, I realized I'm an idiot. She showed me her room as well. I totally missed the subtle messages; she was very intelligent, she explained her school project about the function of ATP (Adenosine triphosphate). But hey I was a brain dead skateboarder then lol

Just watch out for when they start lezzing out

🥚

I don’t know if you’re the idiot you think you are. You didn’t do anything, which rationalised the trust and why they let you in that circle in the first place. That’s a pretty decent level of trust very few men get to.

I would say I'm oblivious at the least. Working in retail I made quite a few female friends, understandably my girlfriend at the time didn't like that even though I was trying to find friends for her to hang out with after moving to a new place since I could just talk to my friend group on teamspeak and I didn't want her to feel lonely. I learned the hard way they liked me basically.

And they had reason to, you’ve shown it again

I'll take the compliment. Thank you.

I’d say you earned it.

They aren’t lying when they talk about how hard it is to trust them.

While I was in high-school I lived in a semi rural state in the US. This was also around 20 years ago. I've lived all over the country though. I can always usually make friends at work or through hobbies.

Also, I will say it always helps to work out and have social hobbies. Try to go out and do things with people and eventually you will meet someone.

Fake: Anon has friends

Gay: Anon is presumably built like a twink

I joined a book club on discord, and ended up playing games and watching stuff as well. I am the only guy that shows up to most of it.

But this has also always been how it is. I sat with the girls during lunch years ago when I was in grade school. Most of my mothers family was women, so when I got dragged off to spend time with them for the weekend it was just like that. Joined a frat in college, but ended up spending more time with the sorority girls.

It just be like that.

Or maybe they used to work for a cat food cannery idk how some nicknames happen

Idk, sounds to me like they feel comfortable around you.

I have a few close female friends, one I even usually share a bed with on trips. I asked her why it's like this once and it boiled down to "you don't expect anything from me".

I do have a partner and usually hang out mostly with women, so maybe I'm just not attractive, who knows

I mean looking back, I don't disagree. One of the girls would help me with random stuff. Another always wanted to take photos together and put them online, I said no thank you to that. I think that people have different interpretations of attraction. In a way I found being taught about ATP very attractive but I wasn't going to interject myself between her and my friend. So you probably have an attractiveness beyond a physical appearance.

haha

never seen it, care to give an example?

Not like that at all. I want to hang out with men and women so I make friends with men and women. I invite them to stuff and they invite me to stuff. Sometimes I go to hang out and it winds up being mostly or all men. Sometimes mostly or all women. It really doesn't matter and the only thing that really makes the difference one way or the other is who is available at the time.

Avoid people who view their gender as an enclave cause they are for sure misogynist, misandrist, or both. Make yourself open to people who are more gender-agnostic if that term I just made up makes any sense.

It is a choice. You get to choose your friends. It's not RNG.

Just be a decent human being, nice and caring, and you'll see, those "bad boy lovers" will disappear from your dreams!

It's not like I'm not like that, or at least I try to be decent, nice and caring. I'm just literally describing what I see everywhere in here. Although I know that's mostly in part because here has been a culture of drug traffickers and criminal gangs since like 15 years ago or so, so I know it's probably not their fault but that they simply grew up with those models of behavior around them.

Thanks for the advice!

The thing is, I really can't work out, I don't have a proper space in my house and I'm just too poor to pay a gym, and also suffer from minor respiratory problems (my nose tends to be very stuffy, and apparently I have rhinitis or something similar); I'd love to, anyway, because also I can feel the pain of the lack of exercise. I'm trying to just go to walk regularly so I at least maintain a minimum of physical activity.

Also, social hobbies... Are though for me. I suffer from social anxiety and I'm heavily introverted too. There are some ones I'd love to try, like anime conventions or electronic music sets, but where I live they're rare because most people here looks at them with bad eyes.

Ahhh, I hate this place.

Well then all your coworkers do, to, so they're probably not gonna call you that, and it would be unusual between spouses and other friends but I guess not impossible? That's kinda the thing about nicknames, you don't really have much control over it, it's really subject to the whims of other people

In fact, getting a nickname at all is never a sure thing, just like being one of the girls or the guys

Most of that is not especially relevant. Being one of the girls or one of the guys has nothing to do with gender as an enclave or misandry or whatever. Clicking with any group of people isn't even guaranteed and you can absolutely hang out with a diverse mix of people and be considered one of either or one of both. But it's up to the group and the group dynamics, not you.

Being annoying and pedantic is a pretty good way of never getting picked as either, though.

I don’t like to brag

Hey now, no need to lie. If you had said it while appearing more honest, something like "I wanna brag, because I have put so much effort into this", you might have gotten a better response. Now it just sounds like, you are bragging, and also a liar.

You must love the tea

Mostly, vocabulary.

Don't you see that what I'm getting at is that the entire concept of "one of the X" is weird and gross? Femaleness and maleness are not in-groups.

Or has egg vibes, and has been preemptively adopted by her soon-to-be girl gang.

Very 🥚

With all the experiences I've had in my life, some of them I wish I was lying about. I could have written I did 50 normal push ups, 50 knuckle pushups, 50 finger pushups, 25 one had push ups for each hand. I mean I could go on with the details of the routine. That would be bragging. All I was trying to get across was that it sucked. My friends were playing outside and there I was working out. I felt that it took away from my childhood. It's not a brag to say that doing that shit everyday with gym in school, martial arts and track when all I wanted to do was play world of warcraft. To a certain extent, I want to stay anonymous with my posts, you don't have to believe me.

Yeah, no, I did not mean to imply you did not do all that, that is a communication failure on my part. Just pointing out, that your wording about not bragging, made your message read as something else, than what you likely meant. Unintentionally failing at communication is a big issue online, and I often try to point out, where the miscommunication happened, so that can be avoided in the future. That does not save me too, from failing from time to time, though.

No hard feelings, I just try to convey things as best as I can and it's a infinite learning process. That's why I like it here at lemmy, it's a place I can write about things I can't bring myself to say in person. And I get that it's a bit selfish.

"inclusivity" is like the antithesis of 4chan